Family & Relationships - 14 December 2006

I've been with the same guy for 18+ years and I want it to end. He's lazy, doesn't work and collects disability. If I kick him out, he has no place to live. I also feel quitly about hurting him, but I can't contiue to live like this... Anyone else deal with a simular problem?

2006-12-14 05:54:16 · 13 answers · asked by tra5682000 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I read this article called "What Makes You a Sexy Person" at http://blogme-dave.blogspot.com
I think it makes a lot of sense, but I wanted to know if others think what the writer says is really true or not?

2006-12-14 05:52:49 · 5 answers · asked by Lil_ol_me 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

specifically in front of relatives..
yes or no

2006-12-14 05:52:37 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend for three years I just found out he lied about going to the strippers in the beginning of the relationship and also was ditched by his guy friend and left alone with two other girls (patrons). He stayed and talked to them for two hours. Then left. Now our relationship has been wonderful and we have both grow so in love an attached to each other. This is the first blow in our relationship. He swears he is faithful and it was the only lie he made. What would you do?

2006-12-14 05:52:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

About four weeks ago I told a guy I like how I felt, since then we've hung out a couple of times, and the last time I saw him we kissed etc. It's been hard to make time to see eachother because of different work schedules and we are both in university and just wrote finals. All that is done now, so really there is boundless time for romance over the Christmas break, but now I am wondering if he is even really interested in me. He said that he was, he kissed me, but I've been doing all the talking. I'm still too scared to actually call him... but we've talked over msn, and it's usually me who initiates the conversation. He knows I'm done my exams now and have free time, so why doesn't he try to hook up? I'm dying to, is his silence and indication that he doesn't want to pursue this? Or am I just being impatient and paranoid, I mean i did just write my last exam yesterday, and him the day before. We had that final together, and he signalled me to msg him as his mom came to grab him.?

2006-12-14 05:51:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 05:50:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

At 24 yrs old even if you have a three year old son?I did keep in shape at 5 ft 6 weigh 113 pounds and do take care to be well made up because of my job in public relations?I am afraid if i divorce my husband i will not find any one else because it will look like i have milliage on me to other men?or they will try and take advantage of me?

2006-12-14 05:50:04 · 21 answers · asked by JOELLA L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I sprayed seductive perfume on my homework, it doesnt smell that strong but it does smell. I feel stupid now, it will be so obvious to him that I like him, and I wrote in pink pen! If he asks why I did it, Il say that thats just the way the pens smell. I feel so pathetic.

Advise please!

2006-12-14 05:49:56 · 22 answers · asked by lil_pussycat16 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been in a relationship for almost 2 months now and it's like nothing I've ever felt before, I really can;t see a reason to break up bearing in mind I am only 16 but I don't think that matters. The problem arises at random times, sometimes I can feel exceptionally happy but sometimes my mind seems to wander and I start wondering to myself, am I in love, is this real? I really think I'm truly in love but sometimes when I'm away from her I feel as if somethings missing and even when I'm with her sometimes I sense something ary. Do you think this is to do with my love for her or something deeper, I've had a history of a compulsive disorder and unnesecary anxiety, if anyones ever felt this then please answer for our sake. I'm attracted to her, shes fun, intelligent and not boring to be around, I can;t understand what is wrong. This has just started randomly as before I just felt pure love and missed her when we were away from eachother and now it's just nerves that I'm not in love.

2006-12-14 05:48:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i mean i get eye contact with most of the boys i know in my school and a boy in my class is trying to touch me somehow

2006-12-14 05:47:08 · 11 answers · asked by ~~temmy.... 2 in Singles & Dating

I am not one that just goes up to people to make friends or let people know that i am interested in them. I am a stay at home mom now so when i was working, i would associate with everybody but never met any friends to hang out with.

2006-12-14 05:46:34 · 19 answers · asked by cutie pie 1 in Friends

2006-12-14 05:46:31 · 24 answers · asked by David L 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it even possible?
I just want to go back to California where I used to be, I don't want to be here, where everything happened that screwed up my life.
I've hurt myself, and other people, it seems like no one cares, not like they ever have, they could just say I was a mistake, I know the truth.
I know what really went on.
I don't want to live like this anymore.
I don't want to live at all.
I want to go away, I want to be in a better place.
I want to run away.
I'm only 13.
I want to go back to California so bad. Without anyone, I want to go alone, I want to be alone, I want to get away from these people.
I miss normalcy so much.
I need to go back.
I need to go back.
If I don't go back I won't last another year.
I need to go back.

"If I lay here, if I just lay here, would you lie with me and just forget the world?"
snow patrol.

2006-12-14 05:46:20 · 9 answers · asked by ace 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

why cant i get a decent man to like me. all my friends are in love and have been engaged for a while or have a bf and kids and all that. i am tired of always being the third wheel and feeling left out because i dont have a bf. i want to be happy and feel good about myself but every time we go out i m left alone bec they wanna go off and do something. i want to be in love and get married and have kids. i am only 19 but when is it my turn . i feel pressure everyday to look like these models on tv. bec i dont i feel fat and ugly and they tell me that everyday. when is it my turn and when is it okay to tell my friends i am feed up. i dont want them to get mad. help someone

2006-12-14 05:45:10 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please help - my oldest child has been in and out of therapy for 6 years. I seriously think he may be bipolar. He gets extremely frustrated, VERY EASILY - and beats his little brother all the time.

He verbally abuses me on a daily basis - yesterday I took it for about 4 hours until I finally snapped and couldn't bite my lip anymore (that is what his counselor told me to do b/c he's just trying to get a rise out of me).

His little brother has become a very aggressive child and this situation has gotten out of hand. Their father ignores what's happening and keeps buying them things to mask the issue.

Help!!!:
1) How do I keep my child from hitting / verbally abusing my other child?
2) How do I get respect from my child?
3) How do I keep this from affecting my youngest child?
4) How do I get an ex-husband to step up to the plate and be a father???

2006-12-14 05:44:35 · 23 answers · asked by redslippers 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend is 20 and we want to get married....

2006-12-14 05:44:32 · 24 answers · asked by carmenisa_boy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was told it was not easy to file, and I know it is not easy when I talk to my lawyer about divorcing my huband who left me Sept 11, 2006 after Aug 5, 2006. I haven't heard from him for two or three months. On the top of it, I found more harder to do it but he leave me no choice. I still love him but yet I am very mad at him for what he had done and I am on the waiting list until May 2007 to get the paper to file. So I am wondering if anyone feel or felt hurts or anger or whatever when you or your ex file for divorce and how long before you be able to start seeing another people?

2006-12-14 05:44:17 · 8 answers · asked by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents were not too big on empathy, and I was verbally and emotionally abused as a child.When I was sick, my mother would either accuse me of faking or yell at me for "getting sick again" I was called stupid, dumbo, etc. for various reasons. My mom said I was "as big as a house" when I was maybe 20 lbs overweight.I was dragged into their arguments.There was never any physical abuse of or by anyone.Once when I fell roller skating and hit my head HARD, I got nauseous, terrible headache, irritability etc. My dad picked me up at the rink, I told him what happened. I dont remember what he said right then, but on the way home in the car he suddenly yelled, "STOP BEING SO FRESH!!" Hello...I was nauseous, terrible headache, irritability which are common following a bump on the head. I cried all the way home, he just ignored me.My mom called the doc, he said to bring me to ER if I vomited,I didint. I think this is really gettingto me because a few weekends a month my boyfriends son is here.

2006-12-14 05:44:14 · 15 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family

i need help a dance is coming up and i need a boyfriend

2006-12-14 05:44:00 · 12 answers · asked by alexis p 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been with my boyfriend for four years and he moved away for a year and just recently moved back to be with me. He's recently proposed to me and of course I said "YES"! For a while I've been curious about the other sex. He knows that I like females but I told him that I've left girls alone. But to make a long story short- I LOVE HIM but I have sexual feelings for the other sex. I just met a girl at my high school and I've been talking to her for a few days now. I'm really feeling her. I know that I should tell my boyfriend but I also know that Its going to break his heart in two! My boyfriend and I also have a son together. I've never meant to hurt him its just something that's happened. I don't plan on being with a female for the rest of my life I'm just curious! I want to be with my fiance but I don't know wat to do about this situation. Is this just a phase that I'm going through?

2006-12-14 05:43:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay guys...I need some advice.
My boyfriend and I broke up because he has been super stressed out lately. We had been together almost a year. He is failing his classes and had finals this week, plus this is the second time he has taken all of these classes and failed them. We got into an argument and have been broken up for two weeks. His last final is today. I am just wondering what is the best way to get him to thinking and regretting his decision to break-up...In other words what's the best way to "get to him"? Should I just act like I"m not affected by it, not call him/text him, etc...or should I let him know how upset and I am and act depressed when I see him?? The thing is that his best friend told me a few days ago that about a month ago my ex had told him that he thought I was "the one" and that he couldn't wait to finish school so we could get married. By the way, we go to church together and have most of the same friends, so I have to see him at least once a week.

2006-12-14 05:42:11 · 7 answers · asked by missinghim 1 in Singles & Dating

Are you happier being single now, or do you regret getting divorced?

2006-12-14 05:41:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

cps was investigating my exwife & me on child neglect,15 years ago & we lost the child only to be placed with other family members. my family!. and we divorced. well our daughter calls me wanting me to be a part of her life now that shes grown with kids of her own. and try & tell our daughter to not just do with me but have something too do with her mom also .my exwife is mad because our child did not contact her first and thinks that i am turning her againist my ex .but iam not my ex has no stable residence for her to have called her but i have doctors reports my ex does not . she lost her copys moving around so much. my ex hates it cause our daughter cares more for me & my exwife is showing her true colors. my family members will only read the papers to her and not let her read them herself. our child is full grown and should be able to read the papers . my family members dont her to know the truth and her to just beleave them since they raised her .

2006-12-14 05:39:39 · 13 answers · asked by dirtdevil215 3 in Family

I am doing a term paper on interracial dating for psychology. I was wondering if I could get some people's opinions on the topic, and why they feel that way. I really appreciate the help. Thank you, and happy holidays!

2006-12-14 05:39:25 · 1 answers · asked by Jennalove311 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am really confused, if I should marry or just ask my gf to move in with me.

2006-12-14 05:39:12 · 17 answers · asked by Shiv 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-14 05:38:54 · 16 answers · asked by babiigurlluvnalex 1 in Singles & Dating

why or why not?

2006-12-14 05:37:50 · 26 answers · asked by bubbles_n_ar 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend Leigh Ann,and her 3 friends are going to the mall
tomorrow and she will not invite me.I asked her why,and she never
gives an answer.What should I do? I'm gonna wanna cry.
I don't wanna be her friend anymore.

2006-12-14 05:37:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

looking at me while I was on the train and than when I caught her she turned away quickly and had a smile on her face and than I caught her again and she did the same thing should I have got up and gone and sat next to her and started chatting

2006-12-14 05:37:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what can i do,,,, she left me for no reason

2006-12-14 05:37:10 · 13 answers · asked by stanley 1 in Singles & Dating