I've been in a relationship for almost 2 months now and it's like nothing I've ever felt before, I really can;t see a reason to break up bearing in mind I am only 16 but I don't think that matters. The problem arises at random times, sometimes I can feel exceptionally happy but sometimes my mind seems to wander and I start wondering to myself, am I in love, is this real? I really think I'm truly in love but sometimes when I'm away from her I feel as if somethings missing and even when I'm with her sometimes I sense something ary. Do you think this is to do with my love for her or something deeper, I've had a history of a compulsive disorder and unnesecary anxiety, if anyones ever felt this then please answer for our sake. I'm attracted to her, shes fun, intelligent and not boring to be around, I can;t understand what is wrong. This has just started randomly as before I just felt pure love and missed her when we were away from eachother and now it's just nerves that I'm not in love.
2006-12-14 05:48:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're young, just take everyday as if comes, you have only been dating her for two months, you are not going to love everyone you date or have feelings for them, the fact that you always sense something is awry is a sign that think things should be a certain way and you realize that they arent because you have a relationship and emotional standard that you think relationships are supposed to go a certain way and that no bad feelings are possible in them.. dont read to much into your feelings because you already said you have unnecessary anxiety and are probably making things out worse than they are, or causing unnecessary stress on your self that shouldn't be there concerning the relationship, just take things slow and really get to know her before you start questioning your feelings, because feelings evolve and change overtime....
2006-12-14 06:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, depression comes when I dwell on the past and anxiety comes when I think about the future.I find peace when I live in the present and accept life on life's terms.
When I am enjoying the moment I avoid the fear of when the moment will end as the fear ends the moment. When I feel uncomfortable in the moment, I can accept the feeling and know it will pass or change my thinking about what is happening and the feeling will change.
"...Feelings are not facts. No matter how intense the feelings may be, they are only feelings. They are reactions to, rather than reflections of, reality," -How Al-Anon Works for Family and Friends of Alcoholics
There is nothing wrong with your love, unless you choose to think there is. It is as real as you choose it to be and as real as you make it. The love you have for another is not dependent upon the other person's love for you. It is not a feeling but a choice to accept them unconditionally and is relative to the love you have for yourself.
PEACE!
2006-12-14 06:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship when I was 17 and had the same problem. Your not in love with her. She is more like a security blanket for you or like your best friend. It could be any girl and you would feel the same way. You are to young to be in a serious relationship. Just be friends. You have more inportant thing to be doing with your time. You have plenty of time to fall in love in your life time. I wish I would have listened to the same feeling your having. I waited to long to get out of the relationship and got pregnant.
2006-12-14 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bernie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you're only 16 but "don't think it matters", then went on to talk about your mood swings and ambiguity-- that's what happens when you're 16. You're too immature and inexperienced with life and love to be stable and certain about your love life. Overcome your anxiety and compulsive disorders before attempting to maintain a healthy relationship.
2006-12-14 05:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur worrying too much while u should just be living the moment, ur just 16 so give it a rest and stop analyzing ur feelings, why, and how, and maybe...wether ur in love or in an illusion is not the point..if u like ur relationship more than it bothers u than stick to it, if not then move on...we all have all sorts of contradictory feelings and odd moments..thats only human, u cant be monotonous emotionally all the time
2006-12-14 05:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to calm down and take it one day at a time. Don't think to far into the future. Just enjoy the moment you're in with her. Enjoy the times that you two share.
2006-12-14 05:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being 16, it's good that you're not making plans to marry this girl next week. however, the feeling of doubt that you're having could be disbelief that you found what sounds like a good relationship, instead of a lack of feeling for her.
oh and lek, you're so wrong.
2006-12-14 05:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine the in problem-free words reason he continues to be in that's because your no longer over there with him and he doesnt favor to be on my own. in case you adore him then visit him or ask him to bypass to you. yet before you do something you need to be particular in case you somewhat love hime.
2016-11-26 19:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by rosenstock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're too young to be in a comitted relationship either you or her will end up cheating, you're 16 you've entered puberty and curiosity will get the best of you....don't be so serious lighten up, enjoy your teen years while they last
2006-12-14 05:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look homie i'm 14 and i'm in tha same situtation a little bit.but u r in luv but u r jus...... ok i don't know i need help too.
2006-12-14 05:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋