At 24 yrs old even if you have a three year old son?I did keep in shape at 5 ft 6 weigh 113 pounds and do take care to be well made up because of my job in public relations?I am afraid if i divorce my husband i will not find any one else because it will look like i have milliage on me to other men?or they will try and take advantage of me?
2006-12-14 05:50:04 · 21 answers · asked by JOELLA L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby is the only guy i have ever been with!!!We started dating at 19 in college!The idea of being single and alone is scary!?to me i dont know why?
2006-12-14 05:57:54 · update #1
If you want to know my reasons i want a divorce read my last question.
2006-12-14 06:08:33 · update #2
Ridiculous...It sounds like your a nice person and with the shortage of quality people out there, I am certrain that you'll bounce back nicely.
2006-12-14 05:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by J.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be very frank, please don't take it the wrong way: you sound very insecure. If you perceive that you don't have a lot to offer, then chances are this is how others will subconsciously perceive you as well. I think, regardless of the "mileage", men are attracted to self-confidence. Even after having been married twice, I had no shortage of suitors, all the way up to the time I met my now-husband at 31. If you feel and act like you're confident in your choices, people will be much less likely to question them. You have to embrace your past, and realize that what had happened in your life is part of who you are now.
I don't know the circumstances of your marriage. All couples go through rough times - perhaps this is only a phase, and it will pass. Don't rush into divorce without evaluating other options first. But if the only reason you're staying in the marriage is because you're afraid you won't find anyone else - don't. This is a bad reason. Right now is the time to correct the mistakes you'd made, and to move on.
2006-12-14 14:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced at 33. I have 3 kids, not one. I am not worried about anyone thinking I have mileage on me because I am raising my boys first. If I do find someone along the way, and they are a great person who understands, there may be another marriage in my future, but I don' thave time for guys who don't have compassion for human mistakes. If you aren't very careful, you might find one that takes advantage of you, but be very discerning with who you pick. I would focus on your son and don't worry about men at this point. Your son is more important than your dating life anyway.
My boys are all older, but they still need raising. I have an 13, 11, and 9 yo. No matter what age, they still deserve to have mom be 100% present for them. The divorce is harder on kids (Boys especially) than the adults involved.
Make sure that the divorce is a last resort, after all else has failed to improve your marriage. It isn't fun to watch the kids go back and forth between mom and dad, but in my case it was the only thing I could do...he has some really terrible sexual addictions and I could not tolerate it any longer.
GL.
2006-12-14 14:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you can bounce back! Men will only take advantage if you let them! ...trust me your age, size, looks don't matter! I think that is more your concern of what other people will think about you?...get over that and demand that people accept you how you are and never change who you are to make someone else happy...love who you are and the rest will follow. I divorced after a 21 year marriage...thought I'd never fall in love again...I was wrong! I met my husband now 5 years after my Divorce. I didn't date or even try to find anyone else - he found me! I was shocked at first because of my age etc but I found out quickly that didn't matter and now I know what it feels like to truly be Loved for who I am am and to be truly happy! I now thank my ex for cheating! If he hadn't I'd have never met my soulmate who I have in my life now! Love will find you- if it is meant to be- at any age..reguardless of your age, size or looks! Just be ready when it happens and don't ever change & don't settle for less then you deserve in your life!
2006-12-14 14:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a divorce? If you have good cause, don't stay just because you're afraid you won't find anyone else. There will always be guys who will try to use you but be cautious and don't rush into anything. I don't think you will "bounce back" from a divorce but you can crawl your way up out of the ditch and brush yourself off and start over.
2006-12-14 13:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and can probably get married a few more times. Just kidding. I was divorced at 27 with a 2 year old. 12 years later, after going through alot of losser, I met the man I was meant to spend the rest of my life with and we got married last year.
We are all used, do you understand? We all have milage. You will be just fine. Keep on your toes and don't let anyone take advantage of you. Be a strong woman and take control.
2006-12-14 14:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of this should matter in getting into a new relationship.Remember that the worst thing you can ever do is make yourself believe that you have to fit a certain standard in order to be happy and find what your looking for.If you do you convey that in all that you do and give the message to others that you dont think you deserve it and in turn most cases wont.
First get out of this relationship if you dont think you can be happy, then find your own self and comfort in it before putting yourself and your son into another "relationship".By spending time with yourself and your kid without the baggage you just might find a whole new you full of self confidence and in turn have a lot better chance of being and having what you want in a new relationship.
2006-12-14 13:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 is not much of a bounce. Mileage, come on. Why are you divorcing one man just to find another? Ever thought about getting your act together on your own before involoving another person. Once you feel good about yourself and you like yourself enough not to care what a man thinks then look around. Men only take advantage of women that allow them to do so.
2006-12-14 13:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men will try to take advantage of you ,but you arein control. I 'am a divorcee but it's what you think if you think you want get a man you wont. If you think you have milliage you do things in life just happen we have to learn hop to cope in a positive attitude. Their are plenty of good men that willing to accept you and your son you both are special God think so so you have to think no less . Work on healing from this time . I ha dto take out some time for me to work on me. Relax, pray, read the bible and give me some real me time it get lonely , but stick in there let the man look for you , you just be ready when he comes. I have a really nice guy and i have a 13yr old son. It's alot of things I could go on to say, just hold on and hold out. God bless you enjoy your single life to the fullest. Laugh and be happy you have every reason to be.
2006-12-14 14:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to go through with the divorce, the best thing for you to do is focus on you and your son because that's the light of your life, men come a dime a dozen. When the time is right for you and you feel like your ready to date that's when you start re-evaluating everything. For now have fun and enjoy being a mother. ~~~~GOOD LUCK
2006-12-14 13:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Pink~Panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL....I am 47 and just got engaged to a thirty year old after a divorce and years of being single. If I can bounce back you sure the hell can at the ripe old age of 24 LOL
2006-12-14 13:54:29 · answer #11 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋