Family & Relationships - 10 December 2006

i've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. the thing is... in the beginning, it was very exciting, passionate, obsessively in love. then the loved evovled to more of a comfort around each other, and we became best friends. we still love each other dearly, but I dont get tingles anymore when we touch and I anticipate with schoolgirl giggles when the next time i'll talk to him will be.

is this what marriage is like? does the obsessive passion fade into a comfortable love? or when you find *the one*, is it supposed to be sparks for 50 years? also, if you could include how long youve been married...thanks!

2006-12-10 18:11:52 · 14 answers · asked by Me 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a 55 year old woman and I work full time and sometimes overtime just to make ends meet. While my husband stays at home on the internet playing poker day in and day out. i work. I doesn't work because he is disabled and only has one lung so it is hard for him to get around. he also has a emphasema and a small drinking problem. Am I selfish for wanting to make him go out and get a job and take care of me? the lazy bastard....oops...i didn't mean that. what should i do?

2006-12-10 18:11:46 · 12 answers · asked by reowrrrr 2 in Marriage & Divorce

hi! i am a mother based here in the Philippines. my ex husband with whom i have 2 kids age 15 and 14) is there in the states. Last august our children saw their father for the first time after 13 years. Now, my ex husband wants to petition our 2 kids. i asked the kids if they want to go stay with their father and they said yes but not together with his new wife (the new wife is kind of a biatch). life here in the philippines is hard and so economic wise i want them to go there for a better futture. my only dilema is that the new wife my treat my kids bad.

2006-12-10 18:11:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

does the image we have hear
you know the little drawing of the guy or girl whatever

does it really look like u

mine kinda does

2006-12-10 18:10:55 · 14 answers · asked by MoNiCa 2 in Singles & Dating

hi guys. i have a funny question..
im a taurus. i somehow quite believe in horoscope.
im quite possesive, paranoid and only wan my gf to be with me.
i dislike her talking to other guys, unless i know the guy too.
i only wan to be with her and would call off all meeting with my frenz unless its really close and impt frenz.
i would always check her handphone and msn to see if she is flirting with other guys.
ya and my gf broke up cuz she cant stand it?
is this normal??
is there anyone out there like me???
am im a wierdo????

2006-12-10 18:09:37 · 12 answers · asked by sulaji84 3 in Singles & Dating

if not, say why. if so, what kind of tattoos and where do you like them?

2006-12-10 18:09:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i think am in love with my boyfriends brother and i love him more than the boyfriend. situations have caused this since my boyfriend has been far and kinda withdrew his attention from me and it led me into the arms of the bro who i think feels the same that i do. should i just call the guy and tell him its over and i have found another guy who is his brother or what should i do. am confused because i am scared of what might happen, how will he take it, and how the two brothers will handle it. am soo confused

2006-12-10 18:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by sonai 1 in Singles & Dating

Oh wow, I am truely heartbroken. I just found out that my boyfriend received a wonderful job promotion & will be leaving in a month. With my career, I am set on staying here for a while and really cannot afford to move elsewhere. I am so extremely happy for him because it is what he has been wanting. I am just so heartbroken that he is leaving. He says that he is willing to do long distance, however, being two states away, I do not see this happening (call me pratical). I love him so much and I just feel as though my heart is breaking one day at a time. I am dreading the day he has to leave, but I am happy that he has such a wonderful opportunity. Anyone ever experience this? Any advice on what to do about this situation?

2006-12-10 18:07:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What makes a man go astray after years of marriage??? I seldom ask questions because they deduct 5 points from me!!!!!!!! So Please give me your best answer!!!!!!!! THANKS & MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!

2006-12-10 18:06:54 · 20 answers · asked by POGI AKO :-) 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Here's the problem I'm having, I like this girl that I work with, but I'm thinking she doesn't like me as more than a coworker by her actions. I know, I know, you can't make someone like you...so if I work with her and see her everyday, is there anyway to get over liking her? Does ignoring someone get them to notice you more?

2006-12-10 18:06:49 · 4 answers · asked by mikee5432 2 in Singles & Dating

and is going to get her hair dyed and hightlighted exactly the same way as mine. The problem is I don't want her to, because I had my hair like that first, I don't want to look like her and everyone will think I copied her because I'm younger. What should I do? I've tried talking to her, and I know it will look terrible having both of us with the same hair but she won't listen. I can't afford to change mine right now, even though I don't like it (I've hated it from the moment it was done!), but I want to be myself without being copied. What would you do?

2006-12-10 18:06:40 · 12 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family

I had sex with my ex fiancee, who i never slept with before hand. this happened the day my bf said it was over. but for this whole month bf asked me to give him space so i dont know how that works besides i let him be. i got angry and believed he wouldnt take me back because of an assumption. my ex fiancee and i hung out and we had sex. wasn't great but it was unprotected. the only risk between us is pregnancy right now. but bf and i made up and i like him lots and maybe love him but as for the ex i am hung up on our ex future plans. should i leave ex alone or both men.

2006-12-10 18:06:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She first tried to buy my mom with gifts and calls and me with friendship. Once she became pregnant and married to my brother, she DISOWNED us?!?!!? She went to his dad's side where the money is and will not talk to me or my mom any longer. We leave messages and packages and notes for him and the kids and nothing is ever returned or acknowledged. Mutual friends have told me she likes the MONEY side of the family which does not include myself or my mother. My Mom doesn't want to believe she could have such a HOLD on my brother....I am forbidden from saying anything bad about the WITCH in front of my Mother and I am going CRAZY!!!! She used to be my friend but when I emailed her she told me to direct it to my brother? When I talked to him he said we are reading to much into it? Hmmmmm......they haven't brought their son to a holiday other than two times in the past three years. We usually get together 3 or 4 times a year plus other stuff.... Now they ignore us for the "rich"?

2006-12-10 18:04:46 · 16 answers · asked by bubblingbroo 3 in Family

i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months because well i just wasnt feeling it anymore...were are too different of people...hes quite and calm and im loud and spontaneous so it just doesnt work...well i really hurt his feelings but he said he can still be friends with me...and he called me and asked how i was and i said good and how are you and he said good...well now i want to call him or maybe text him to let him know im thinking about him but only as a friend and i still care about him and want him to be happy...but again just as a friend...what should i say or text?

2006-12-10 18:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm in high school and I never had any friends throughout my entire life. I'm a random person. Sometimes I talk a lot and sometimes I'm totally quiet. When I talk a lot, I act like a clown, doing lame things and acting stupid to make people laugh. Everyday during lunch period I sit by myself in my school's library. In my school, I feel like I'm the only loner because I see everyone else hanging out. How can I overcome my fear of being called a loser? What should I do with my life?

2006-12-10 18:03:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

ok so i have a friend that i have known for a while that i have tension w/, althou shes not my type...she feels the same way, but we have never done anything...i like her friend however and i have shown interest in her friend in the past. well she came back along in life two yrs later and shes been doing little things that make me wonder...like wanting me to smoke a cig w/ her, goin to see her at work, even her asking me if i was goin to the other chicks place...she asked me that several times...so i said yeah im goin to watch a movie...do u mind? i said it as a joke, but she was like hmmm...yeah and then smiled and then she said no after she did that...am i thinking too much, or is she into me and how can i figure out if shes interested or not w/o just comin up too straightforward?sorry bout the long story,just wanted to give some background.

2006-12-10 17:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by wizzpack 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 17:59:43 · 9 answers · asked by hopeless 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i know alot of men who hve colonics but i was wondering if any women have them too or they find the procedure (colon clensing) too embarrassing

2006-12-10 17:59:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well me and my bf were going out for close to 2 months. He went to a party with his friends for a weekend (he went with them thursday night). He was post to show up and hang out with me Friday night and when i tried to call his phone all day to see if he was going to go he never answered. So 20 minutes before he was post to be there he tells me hes not coming. Then for the rest of the weekend he wouldn't answer my phone calls. So Monday when we got to school I tried to talk to him but he ignored me. I called his house phone that night and asked him if we were done he said yes. Then he told me he just stoped caring. But now he is being mean to me, and he keeps on looking at me with a sad look on his face.??

2006-12-10 17:59:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This girl, her name is anisha(it's alright because it's in a another country). I knew her since std.3(gr5) but then we were acquintances. Now in std5(gr7) we have really good friends. I oncehad a dream that i kissed her but i don't like her that way, hhheeeeeeelllllllppp

2006-12-10 17:58:49 · 10 answers · asked by Waar was jy by 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 17:58:26 · 15 answers · asked by i cant 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 18 & lack experience. Enlighten me.

2006-12-10 17:57:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We just fight about christmas coming up and stupid things like that! Is it becuase of the distance and we both want him to be home! or what

2006-12-10 17:57:37 · 11 answers · asked by Janie L 2 in Singles & Dating

if a guy said he could give u multiple orgasms...
1) Would you believe him?
2) would that turn you on? why?
3) would you think he is perverted?
4) What would you do?

2006-12-10 17:57:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 28 years old and have been in this relationship for almost 7 years, we love each other and we've been talking about getting married for awhile but I've been away at grad school. My last trip home my fiance proposed a day before I left for school. My parents have known about him from the beginning of our relationship but do not like to discuss him. They've only spoken to him a handful of times. Our families are different, I'm more educated and will probably make more money than him. All issues I've thought about and realize not as important as the life we can build together. It happened so suddenly and then I was on a plane with a ring, I'll be back for Christmas but I don't know how to tell them. I'm so happy about this until I think of my parents. They know we plan on stayng together and getting married, they are afraid of what others might think of us, we're also from different cultures.

2006-12-10 17:56:49 · 13 answers · asked by Sara T 1 in Marriage & Divorce

"Ryan" No one else can get me as worked up, confused, annoyed I won’t deny that I like arguing with him. He’s just such a big goof sometimes or really serious and kind. He’ll make me laugh, embarrassed. I wish I knew him better. I see so much of myself in him it’s freaky. I feel like I know him.
I like to talk to him but I wish I didn’t revert to this superior, know-it-all, hard to get, mean person. He acts different around me as well. he actually tries to talk to me but when he;s around other people he'll tease me but if no ones around he's nice
If I show contempt then he will too, but once I was actually serious and nice and he replied in a considerate way.

2006-12-10 17:56:15 · 3 answers · asked by India 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so i dated this girl 4 years ago and we broke up over dumb reasons i dated her for 3 yrs and i havent talked to her in 4 years but i spoke with one of her freinds the other day and my x was aking about me ... so i found her phone # and i am going to phone her however i am extremly nervous cause even after 4 years i still feel the same as i did about her when i was with her .... is this love and if so should i tell her?

2006-12-10 17:56:10 · 4 answers · asked by angelgodz 2 in Singles & Dating

How did you guys make friends with total strangers?

2006-12-10 17:56:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Me and Leigh Ann are soon about to celebrate our friendship
and we are having a party.What can we do at the party? What shall
I get her as a present?

2006-12-10 17:55:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-12-10 17:54:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce