Oh wow, I am truely heartbroken. I just found out that my boyfriend received a wonderful job promotion & will be leaving in a month. With my career, I am set on staying here for a while and really cannot afford to move elsewhere. I am so extremely happy for him because it is what he has been wanting. I am just so heartbroken that he is leaving. He says that he is willing to do long distance, however, being two states away, I do not see this happening (call me pratical). I love him so much and I just feel as though my heart is breaking one day at a time. I am dreading the day he has to leave, but I am happy that he has such a wonderful opportunity. Anyone ever experience this? Any advice on what to do about this situation?
2006-12-10 18:07:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey! Cheer up. Long distance works if you can see each other twice a month to once a month. Unless you or your bf are prone to cheating already. Alternate who does the visiting.
And think of the weekly phone sex!
Give it a try; you've got nothing to lose. Just realize that either of you might stray at some point. If it happens just deal with it; it's one of the risks of long distance. Call it quits when it doesn't feel right any longer.
2006-12-10 18:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of us have that particular sparks and tingling for awhile on the initiating of a relationship. i believe that's because we are stepping into the unknown and that fastinates us. i believe that type of feeling isnt as solid after awhile because it no longer the "unknown". by then we enormously a lot comprehend one yet another say: our likes-dislikes. So now you've entered a community the position you somewhat are purely mushy. i'm a company beliver that you somewhat comprehend on your heart that some-one is for you or no longer. in case you somewhat ought to question your self about a relationship-i imagine you need to keep going till "you comprehend on your heart". What I somewhat have continually lived by is- in no way confuse the tingling and sparks (before you somewhat comprehend the guy) love. continually seem on the guy and seem two decades from that day. ask your self " do I see him?" attempt this after the tingling and sparks. If after awhile when you're saying a million 12 months and also you do nevertheless have that particular feeling i'd say you've an somewhat good possibility of having that particular one.
2016-11-25 20:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be alright. I have been through a relationship like this. I was going through it with him for the longest! We were also long distance by two states(I am in California and he is in Colorado). He and I always talked on the phone because of this. We started seeing eachother once a month. It was still magical but we just had to work through the hard times, which were only missing being near eachother. If you really want this one, go for it! don't let him go!
Wish you the best of luck!!
2006-12-10 18:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Roxana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really in the love then I am sorry to suggest that get ready to suffer all that is about to happen with you are your love.
I have been in distance-love and what I learned from that, that this is not an easy way to go on. Suggestion can only be that try to live near to each other, if you can't do that it is tough for both you. One said that men are dogs and they are easy to convert in love rather than women. Anyway good wishes!!!
2006-12-10 18:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on now. im in a long distance relationship since two years and am happy. and its gonna be like this for 4,5 years more. only thing is that when we are emotional we cant support each other the way we do when we are together physically. try. if you love him,distance shouldnt be an issue. dont be sad. good luck
2006-12-10 18:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by angelic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The practical part of me says you shouldn't try long distance
BUT
I know love knows no boundaries
I would just suggest to not expect much from here on out, but to not forget about him later down the line when you might be able to get back with him
2006-12-10 18:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by program dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a song that says " If you love someone, then set him free...if he comes back again, then in the end..it was meant to be"...Maybe you should try to give way and work on his proposed long distance love affair with you. Give yourselves a chance to work out this relationship...it isnt easy to build it and dump it when insecurities begin to threaten relationships.
2006-12-10 18:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by jet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did actually he purposed to me and i said yes, but in a month he had to leave beacause his dad wanted him to take over his business, i was very sad because i wanted to be around him more then ever at the time but i knew i had to let him go. i coudn't go with him because he didn't have enough money to take me. we talked every night on the phone and then one night 2 weeks before the wedding i decided to suprise him so my dad ordered the tickets right away, and when i arrived i saw him with another woman that was wearing my wedding dress, only they weren't getting married they were making out she was wearing my dress and he was wearing his wedding suit. i had a huge fight with him and he told me that he wanted me back but i just moved on because he was a jerk. so don't let urself suffer just call it quits and get out there start dating.
2006-12-10 18:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go out there and settle in and then maybe you can follow at a later time, if not than let the relationship continue until it dies out. Sorry for your pain hope it all works out.
2006-12-10 18:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear, sorry about what you are going through but my advise is that you just let him go. If it really is true love he will come back to you and then you will know he is yours for keeps. Let him go.
2006-12-10 18:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by cathylisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋