We just fight about christmas coming up and stupid things like that! Is it becuase of the distance and we both want him to be home! or what
2006-12-10 17:57:37 · 11 answers · asked by Janie L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it comes down to being stressed and anxious. There's so much going on in both your heads now and all you really want is to be with each other so much that it hurts!
One thing that's good is that you are fighting. A relationship that does not have open communication is a doomed one (learnt that the hard way didn't I?...)
Good luck, I'm sure happiness will come your way!
DJ
2006-12-10 18:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Snoopy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's tension, and insecurity. He has an incredible amount of stress on him at this time, and you have some too in worrying about him.
I used to drive a truck. When I came home, everything was peachy, but when I got ready to leave, a big fight would start. I think it was because it made it easier to say goodbye. Once I pointed that out to my wife, it stopped.
I can't say that applies to your situation, but the holidays are stressfull as they are, being a military person in Iraq has got to be the pits right now.
Tell him thanks for me. My entire family has served (except my wife), and some still are serving.
Best of luck to you both.
2006-12-10 18:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just the stress of being away from eachother. During my first year of college my boyfriend and I were apart and we would fight for no reason. Then he moved to a school closer to mine and we share an apartment and it's been great (for 3 years I just graduated!).
It may seem counter-intuitive to move in with someone or marry someone when you are fighting all the time... but only you truly know what works best for your relationship. Being closer has worked wonders for us.
Good look and a safe journey for your boyfriend.
2006-12-10 18:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think it may be the stress of him being overseas. He is in a country where people really dont like them and dont want our troops to be there. He is probably experiencing a lot of stress right now. I'm sure he really wants to be home and it is really hard being close to Christmas and no family or friends to celebrate it with.
I am sure you really miss him and probably are having a hard time dealing with it too and probably are experiencing some stress too having a loved one overseas. Maybe talking about marraige right now may be adding additional stress to it all.
I'm sure right now, all he needs is to have someone there to be able to talk to and listen to what he has to say. Just be understanding on his feelings. No you may not know what its like to be there but you can atleast try to understand where he is coming from.
Good luck to you and tell your boyfriend that we all support him and what he is doing and hope for his safe return home and hope that he comes home soon!
2006-12-10 18:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. . . he is in IRAQ. . .stressed out and you are worrying about little arguments? No offense, but give me a break. Anything that reminds him of home (and all of his important thoughts and memories here) remind him that he can do nothing to change the events in your lives for the moment. The arguments probably act as a form of stress relief from the daily danger he faces and probably mean absolutely zero in the overall scheme of things. He is more concerned about you being there for him than the events and "stuff" you discuss. You are a "grounding" for him and he needs you. Don't worry about the arguments. . . they WILL go away when he gets home and life is back to as normal as it can get for a vet.
2006-12-10 18:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 06:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by sickels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are getting agitated for him to come home. Or you justed stressed. Just relax and try to talk about kalm things or you could try to be tolerant :-)
2006-12-10 18:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Waar was jy by 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not be stressing him out he has more problems being there in Iraq...send him love...packages..support..stop being childish and make him feel you are proud of him for what he doing for our country...
2006-12-10 18:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with small fights....you are just getting to know each other's whims ...
2006-12-10 18:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are frustrated with being apart and taking out your frustration on each other.
2006-12-10 18:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋