Family & Relationships - 9 December 2006

i have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, I am 17 and he is 20. We are very much in love, we have never really argued - just petty fights that we seem to resolve within 10 mins!!

now, he knows how commited to him I am and we often talk of marriage and children but we are not in the right financial position to move in together, im in 1st year of uni and hes just started his job after uni. he has bought me a ring for my xmas white gold with a pink heart and has jokingly asked if it will fit my ring finger, asking if we will get engaged. I think it is a lovely idea, as a symbol of commitment when we are unable to commit financially.

I find it hard to connect with my mother so I feel that I cant ask her opinion.

2006-12-09 11:24:49 · 29 answers · asked by Heathmaid S 2 in Weddings

I'm 19 years old so I can't really go the bar, and clubs are sketchey especially since 1) most women don't go there to met guys 2) I don't wana go alone and most of my friends won't go cause we'e too young to drink. I've tried talking to a few girls on campus but it didn't exactly work right and there's no real place to do it. Any siggestions?

2006-12-09 11:24:08 · 5 answers · asked by Michael M 3 in Singles & Dating

Here's the story, My friends and I in school are having a secret santa. So when i picked a name out of the hat i got, lets call her person #1. So a few days later, my friend, person#2, tells me that he wants to do me a favor. He says that person#1 got another on eof my friends, person#3 for the secret santa. He said that person#1 would give me person#3 to give a gift to. For a couple of years now everyone in my school has thought that i have had a crush on person #3. Now recently, everyone has started thinking that there is another person who also has a crush on person#3. When i asked my friend why he was offering me this he said that it was because i am quiet about my feelings.

For some reason i can't say no to the offer my friend made. At the same time i can't say yes. I really don't think that person#3 really likes the other person that has a crush on her more than she likes me. (or at least that's what i think). Upperclassmen i my school have bets going on that she will pick me

2006-12-09 11:23:58 · 4 answers · asked by Helper man 1 in Singles & Dating

i have a crush on a guy friend, so i cant very well go up and flirt and be all nice to him, or he'll think it's weird.

so i try to act as natural as possible, but every time i do something, i think "wait a minute, was that too desperate? should i have done that?" and it's really annoying, because i can't really immerse myself in our conversations.

how to get rid of these thoughts!?

2006-12-09 11:23:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend as been in a wheelchair for nearly 2 weeks, shes been paralyzed from the waist down.
The shock hit her bad, at first she said we should only be friends from now on because she didn't feel she had much to offer me, so I reassured her and we were fine up until last night where the same old stuff came back with her saying I deserve more, and that she feels unattractive and she donesn't feel like the same person. She said the peron I fell in love with was the person who could dance and walk and be wild. Then I reassured her that it wasn't that. She keeps saying her self esteem isn't the problem when it obviously is and that she says it's her personality change, and she needs time to 'regain her personality' ?. She said that she needs time to adjust to being the new her before she can feel good enough.
She doesn't feel like a 'real woman',says shes afraid she wont b good enough when it comes 2 sex. Feels 'small'
How long before she accepts herself, and feels cormfortable?

2006-12-09 11:23:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-09 11:23:25 · 3 answers · asked by kmm840 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

haha....Over the last 9 months, my three best friends got married and moved out of NYC leaving yours truly on his own. What's the best way to meet women as a single mid 30s guy in NYC? My wing men are gone!

2006-12-09 11:22:51 · 2 answers · asked by sothere! 3 in Singles & Dating

Me and this guy had been dating for about six months when my mother came in and manipulated the relationship until I broke up with him. He was the sweetest and he treated me with the utmost of respect 24/7. So we were in love so it really hurt him when I broke it off. I want to get back together inspite of my moms but He was like me and him could never be more than friends. I love him, he's my first love and I only care about him being happy. I know he wants to go to UCF next year but he lives in a single parent home. So I sent him a list of scholarship information, you know just to help him out. I just wanted him to know that I still care for him alot. Am I acting like a desperate chick??

2006-12-09 11:22:37 · 19 answers · asked by Muffin Cakes 2 in Singles & Dating

We met on personals, and drinking was a big part, he had 3 dui's, I didn't have so much as a parking ticket, but I drove his vehicle and ended up with 2 dui's the last being an accident which totaled his truck, we were both cited, and now a year later both being sober have been talking about trying it out again, do you think it could work? By our im's and phone calls we miss each other, and we are only 5 blocks away.

2006-12-09 11:22:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I recently forund out that he's going out with my friend who also works with me...what do i do? Is it ok to flirt with him when shes not there?

2006-12-09 11:21:56 · 10 answers · asked by crystabelle6 1 in Friends

2006-12-09 11:21:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know he spends lots of money on me. Everytime I ask him for something, he buys if for me. When I am at school, I get bullied all the time by my classmates and they say that I am not worth much. But when my dad said it, I broke down and start crying. Am I being a baby or did I have reasons for being sad.
He later apologized and told me that he wouldn't spend that much on earrings for me for me to loose them or someone to take them, however, he reminded me that he just spent $250 on me last month.
Am I being a baby?

2006-12-09 11:21:29 · 18 answers · asked by Angel T 1 in Family

there's this guy, that my friend went out w/ but he broke up w/ her because he was "stressed". we talk everyday and i feel a connection but im not sure.i had been friends w/ him before he went out w/ her and we still communicate. he calls me by nicknames and always smiles at me, i like him and if he asked me out, i would say yes, but... im just not sure, would it even be right for me to go out w/ my friend's ex? i mean, she's not my best friend and i would ask her first, but what would i do if she said no? because she is like best friends with all of my friends? im so confuzzled... help pleez

2006-12-09 11:18:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So I like this girl who's thinking about joining a sorority. I'm not in a fraternity. Will that mean I miss out on a lot of things she does socially? If you are in greeklife does it tend to cause you to not be as good friends with your good friends from before pledging and cause you to stick with your friends in your frat/sorority? Thanks!

2006-12-09 11:18:53 · 4 answers · asked by Ravensman04 3 in Singles & Dating

My dad is paying for his apartment and living expenses. I am 3 years older and have a good job but am working on paying off medical bills and so forth before I move out. He is getting on my nerves.

2006-12-09 11:17:54 · 11 answers · asked by hopadee 2 in Family

Letterman, Leno, Conan, Jimmy Kimmel, or Craig Feurgeson.

I personally like Craig Feurgeson

2006-12-09 11:16:46 · 20 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Singles & Dating

ever since started smoking(w), and being with this stupid friend, I talk to him and right away gets an attitude, he say he will stop sometime, but his attitude and way of talking to me changed he wasn't this rude. how can i help him? i love him. Almost everything I say bothers him.oh, and is not just with me is with his family too

2006-12-09 11:16:34 · 6 answers · asked by sweet angel 2 in Singles & Dating

i am in high school and i started dating this guy one year ago. we dated for 4 months, and i didnt want to have sex right away, and he totally respected my decision. but i fell in love with him, and i started to think that he was the one i should give it up to, started to feel ready. the more i hung out with him, the more i knew. well, one day it just...happened. i knew he wasnt a virgin, but he promised me that i was different than any other girl. so i felt good about it. but about a week later, he stopped calling me!! he broke up with me through a friend, and i was absolutley devastated. this was 6 months ago......AND.....HE RECENTLY DID THE SAME EXACT THING TO ANOTHER GIRL I KNOW!!! but i havent been able to get over him or date any other guys! this guy is such an asshole and such a player and i know that, buti havent even been interested in any one else. PLEASE HELP ME!! how do i get over my first love and the guy i lost my virginity to?!?!?!

2006-12-09 11:15:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If some one was interested in you, and she lived close and you didn't have to spend any money on her, would u start a sexual relationship even if she is not that pretty?

2006-12-09 11:13:46 · 17 answers · asked by meanpromqueen 2 in Singles & Dating

there is so much stuff going on in my life right now... I think I like this guy who has practically got every girl I know wrapped around his finger, but then again I absolutely HATE him, there is this other guy who has cheated on alot of my friends but I'm still attracted to him.There's another guy who I am attached to but it would be akward because he's friends with the guy I turned down(he asked me out for him too), the guy I turned down still has a thing for me and I feel really bad! what do I do. There are too many guys in my life I can't keep up and I'm trying to figure out if this is love or lust or a crush or a pity date. HELP ME!

2006-12-09 11:13:38 · 15 answers · asked by If nothing lasts forever 2 in Singles & Dating

ok this is mostly a questiond for women 18-26 but i'm open to hear any opinions people have on this. i'm fine when it comes to meeting women in places like clubs and bars and stuff, but i feel wierd approaching a women somewhere like a store or mall or smoehting. whats the best way to approach a girl in a place like that. see in clubs i know women are theire to dance, drink, socialize, have fun, meet guys etc. so i'm just doind what there there for. but if their shopping i feel liek they don't wanna be bothered by "some guy" hitting on them. any suggestions on what to do or say?

2006-12-09 11:12:33 · 16 answers · asked by DA-LL /Male/ 3 in Singles & Dating

I was brought up in a strict Christian home, but after losing my faith at the beginning of this year, don't feel that I am a Christian anymore. With this barrier to having a boyfriend gone, I find myself wondering, why am I denying myself having a boyfriend?

I am 23, and a virgin. Is it a good idea to wait for marriage or not? Perhaps there are not any virgin boys out there anyway? What are your thoughts?

2006-12-09 11:12:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I mean doesn't it make sense that if I liked fat girls I would have looked for one in the first place?

2006-12-09 11:10:59 · 47 answers · asked by your_name_here 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my partner and i have a fun and adventuros sex life i'll try anything for him but recently hes more interested in goin to the "pub" on his own, when i checked his computer history i found various adult sites that are for the more like minded couples or singles, that didnt bother me but what did was when i saw he had been posting adds on there for meets. i confronted him and he said it was to do my head in, but since findin the same again months later after we had lived sepeately due to family illness i am startin to worry. i just cant understand why hes doin this he swears hes not met any one but......... can any1 out there help me as this tearin me up...........whats goin on?.......what should i do?........

2006-12-09 11:10:29 · 18 answers · asked by theoriginalbitch 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm bisexual and I want to find someone who would want to date me I've tried personals but no one seems to be interested. I want as girlfriend so what do I do?

2006-12-09 11:09:59 · 14 answers · asked by Alice223 2 in Singles & Dating

me and my mom and my stepdad got in a fight. when i tried saying i was really sorry but they didnt want to talk to me. Also my real dad pays child support but my mom told me that im not allowed to go shopping for six months because they are trying to save money. But every time i come home from school she just went shopping for her. one time i asked her if she got anything for me and she slapped me and sid i was spoiled. What should i do without hurting my parents feelings? help me!!!!!!!!!!

2006-12-09 11:09:26 · 8 answers · asked by iluvtvtwo 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

He caught her and another guy having sex last week and got very mad at her. We moved out of her house and were living at my dad's friend's house. He's very depressed and hasn't been going to work. I've been feeling pretty awful too, I'm 14 by the way. What should I do?

2006-12-09 11:09:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he is 33 im 22, been together for over a yr. we love each other and he gives me everthing i want. he is married and im fine with that, and hes said that he wants to get me pregnant. i get everything i want from this man, he is my knight, if we love each other and see each other almost everynight i should feel secure with him right if we truly love each other should it matter what people say/think?

2006-12-09 11:04:52 · 43 answers · asked by athf73 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hey. I have had bad experiences with girls(been heartbroken b4 anything started) and since the last one i have not felt anything for one girl and thats nearly a year ago(im 16 now). I still find girls attractive like i used to but theres not one worth "the chase". I have been thinking that its maybe due to me not getting on with a lot of girls in my year at school coz i dont like their personality. I go out with my m8s to club at weekends looking for girls but with not much success as i am very picky. However, there are some girls in the years below at my school who i have noticed trough myspace, is that a sad option to meet people though?what would my chances be?what do you suggest? thanks

2006-12-09 11:04:43 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

if you dont know them?or if you do know them? even if its a joke?does it piss the girl off?

2006-12-09 11:04:12 · 9 answers · asked by joe 2 in Singles & Dating