he is 33 im 22, been together for over a yr. we love each other and he gives me everthing i want. he is married and im fine with that, and hes said that he wants to get me pregnant. i get everything i want from this man, he is my knight, if we love each other and see each other almost everynight i should feel secure with him right if we truly love each other should it matter what people say/think?
2006-12-09 11:04:52 · 43 answers · asked by athf73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is married. He is not your knight. He's someone else's knight. You are already causing terrible damage to the lives of others, getting pregnant with him would make the damage worse. You do not want to bring a child into a toxic "love" triangle. It's okay to have a baby when you are not married. It is NOT okay to have a baby when the father is married to someone else. Try your very hardest to find every ounce of moral fiber you can muster up and get out of this relationship. You will find someone new. This is not an age difference issue. This is a he's a cheater and a regular dishonest person. He will cheat on you too. Fact. Sorry to be harsh, just being honest. Good luck.
2006-12-09 11:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by -- 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think the question is much more than age here. If you want to be with a married man, that is your choice. I can't say I agree as there is a wife out there somewhere, but then again I don't know the situation and you do. If you can live with the fact that he's married then fine. Age doesn't matter unless you want it to matter. My parents are 13 years apart and fine. I would warn against a child right now. You may be fine with him having another family (at least a wife), but that's asking a lot for a kid to accept. Again I don't know the details of how much he is with you and how much he is with her, but a child doesn't need to be caught in the middle. Remember that when you have a child your actions such as dating/living with a married man will have a deep impact on that child. I hope that you aren't phased by what others write as much as you are by what's in your heart, but remember a child doesn't have that wisdom yet, thus if you do give birth that child may be subject to hearing very nasty tidbits about you and the father from society.
2006-12-09 11:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh no, get out of it now and don't get pregnant!!! If he's such a knight, why is he screwing around on his wife??? How would you feel if the table was reversed??? Even if he divorced his current wife and married you, he's only going to do the same thing with another young girl. This may hurt, but he's just a sweet talker who doesn't know the meaning of commitment. Find a man who is available who will love you and only you. If you don't, you'll be headed for a sure heartache.
2006-12-09 11:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age difference shouldn't be a concern in this case. *Has dated a guy 20 years older for several years*
I'd be more concerned about the married part. Even if you're okay with it, is his wife? Think about it for a second. How would you like it if your husband, the man you love, did this with someone else? Technically, since you are aware of it, you're hurting his wife as much as he is. =\
I think it's wonderful you've found a guy that's so good for you. But, be careful. Is there a 'real' future with him? Especially if you have his child. Without knowing he's exclusivly yours, are you feeling secure in that?
Take some time to really think this out, and I wish you luck.
Blessings and love
2006-12-09 11:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by intothecrimsonsky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what other people think. But having a child with a part time father that is not there because he's married is a different story. Would you not rather the man be with you all the time and single? This would only set an example for the child that this is okay. To settle for less than what they could have.
2006-12-09 11:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, he is married...and not to you. Don't even think of having a baby with him. If he really was a "knight in shining armor", he would have at least divorced his wife. I'm afraid you are getting played for a sucker. If he left his wife for you, don't think for a moment that he wouldn't cheat on you, too. He may tell you all the things you want to hear, but the fact of the matter is, you are just the other woman, and that's it. Wake up, before it's too late.
2006-12-09 11:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does his wife know that he is with you? The heart wants what it wants, I understand that, so I'm not going to tell you that under no circumstances should you be sleeping with a married man. Does he have children with his wife? You might want to consider them, if he does. They will be so hurt when they find out.
If you're going to be with him, that is your choice, but to have children with him is a whole different story. You can't honestly believe that he will be with you to raise his child with you, given his current actions. He, and you, are being selfish. Do whatever you feel you should do, just understand what is you are doing. How can you take any guy seriously that is cheating on his wife? That is a MAJOR red flag as to to his character. This question is not an age issue, it is a moral issue. BTW, I am 22 and I am no where near mature enough to raise children yet with my husband. What makes you think you are mature enough to raise them with someone else's husband? Think about it. What would your child think about you?
2006-12-09 11:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by jayne_galaxy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Sarah" sez it best! Let me just add:
RUN AWAY FROM THIS TERRIBLE MISTAKE!! Within two years - maybe a lot less - you will then look back on this and say to yourself, "What was I thinking?!!!"
If you stay in this relationship and continue your incredible denial of reality, you will bring a child into an unstable world. Ask yourself - as a young girl, would you have wanted to have been told that your father was a married man and had children by another woman? What kind of respect is your daughter or son going to have for you?
Get out now. Don't walk - RUN!!!
2006-12-09 11:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OKAY so what are you worried about the age does not matter im 34 my husband is 46 but he is my husband iv always dated older men did not see much in the young ones
I would think long and hard about a child .....unless you are just ready to have one .... I hope some day he will leave his wife for you so you can enjoy the real happiness and love that is due to you 100% all yours
2006-12-09 11:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all 10 years is not bad.
But, you said he was married...wouldn't you prefer to be the "only" woman in his life, and not seconds. Do you not think that you deserve better? Honey, I think you should drop him and look for someone who's going to respect, love and appreciate you. Think about what the consequences are of getting pregnant from a married man, before you go ahead and make a mistake.
God bless!
2006-12-09 11:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by kinkiness101 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋