I know he spends lots of money on me. Everytime I ask him for something, he buys if for me. When I am at school, I get bullied all the time by my classmates and they say that I am not worth much. But when my dad said it, I broke down and start crying. Am I being a baby or did I have reasons for being sad.
He later apologized and told me that he wouldn't spend that much on earrings for me for me to loose them or someone to take them, however, he reminded me that he just spent $250 on me last month.
Am I being a baby?
2006-12-09 11:21:29 · 18 answers · asked by Angel T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to tell your dad that that hurts your feelings. i am sure he was not trying to hurt your feelings.
It probably wasn't even about the earrings, it was the comment he made.
2006-12-09 13:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Your Not Being A Baby But If He Just Spent 250 Dollers On You Last Month, He Just Wanted To Buy Something For Your Mother This Month.
2006-12-09 11:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by takenevilmonkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i certainly do not believe you are being a baby but I think you have a right to be upset. Your father should not have said that to you of course but the first thing i thought of while i was reading the first part was there is probably a reason like you'll loose them. sure enough you said that in the next part. another big thing is he was possibly joking but where its a sensitive thing to you you may have not caught on to his attitude. it also could be that your mother might not feel so special if he bought you diamond earrings too. he is trying to stay romantic with your mother by doing those sweet things that married couples often lose and you only see it recent couples. you cant change your feelings by any means but i think you need to view this from a few different perspectives to see if maybe you just took it out of context.
Feel better and i hope things get better for you =]
-Denise
2006-12-09 11:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Denise6433 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he wasn't right for telling you that you are not worth much but his reasoning behind not getting you the diamond earrings were understandable. I do think you were being a bit of a baby but then again I would act the same way. When it comes to how he spends his cash on your mom, that's his wife. In no way whatsoever are you and his wife on the same level when it comes to gift giving. Your mom is not your sister. She's his lover and his friend and a pair of diamond earrings is the least he could give her. Don't worry you'll get your diamonds!
2006-12-09 11:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Muffin Cakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad was insensitive.
He sounds like he means well but he obviously made a bad choice in words.
You're not being a baby, that would smart. He is the one man that your taught to trust and love unconditionally.
Remember though, we all have slip ups and say insensitive things now and then. It was a mistake, and your worth a lot more than a pair of earrings.
2006-12-09 12:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Wren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can undeerstand where your dad is coming from. If he is spending alot of money on you in the first place then whats the big deal if hes not buying you $300 earings? I think you are spoiled and the comment he made wasnt very nice but he did come back and rephrased it which was very noble of him. Im sure you will recieve wonderful presents at christmas. Stop being jealous of what hes buying for his wife (your mom) though.
2006-12-09 11:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're being a baby... You just have to put yourself in your father's shoes. It sounds to me like he already provides you with things you need. I'm with your father.. maybe he's waiting until you get a little older, before you can have the diamond earrings.
My grandmother gave me her old diamond ring the day i turned 18. She gave me her ring because she knew I would be responsible enough to take care of it at that age.
2006-12-09 11:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This gets a bit complicated. You are bullied in school, which hurts, but you get bullied in school because your folks express their regards with material things, not emotionally and psychologically supportive behavior and interactions. This leaves you with a lack of confidence in your worth and with a need to have expensive gestures to prop up your ego, and leaves you also with a lack of worth that school mates pick up on and therefore bully you. And it goes round and round.
The deal is not whether you're being a big baby, it's that you have too little security in your feelings of self-worth.
2006-12-09 11:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by sonyack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being a baby just a little sensitive. All your dad meant is that it is allot of money to spend for something that is so easily lost. I am sure that he loves you and that he would spend everything he has to make you happy.
2006-12-09 11:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've bought a $400 pair before. They were on sale. Won't ever do it again though.
2016-05-22 23:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are, a spoiled rotten baby (How old are you anyway?). Do you think just because your father bought his wife something he should automatically buy you something too? She's his woman and you are just a daughter. Diamonds is something men buy their lovers not their children.
2006-12-09 11:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋