He caught her and another guy having sex last week and got very mad at her. We moved out of her house and were living at my dad's friend's house. He's very depressed and hasn't been going to work. I've been feeling pretty awful too, I'm 14 by the way. What should I do?
2006-12-09 11:09:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not be quick to judge another to start with. You have no idea what your dad and this lady's relationship was about. Stay neutral and just be there to support your dad when he needs you. This is something that he and he alone needs to work his emotions through. It will be at his own time and he will make it through. Things may seem tough now especially with the holidays quickly approaching but try not to focus to much on him and as hard as it might be make a point to go out and be with people your own age. Good luck to you.
2006-12-09 11:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First know that its not your fault or anything you did.
It was the Step-mom and choices she made.
As far as your dad>>>do everything you can do to not cause any more problems for him to worry about....Do well in school,don't talk back,help out around the house. Do your share and be there for him.
If you need someone to talk to try the school counselor or another relative. Know you're not alone, things like this do happen and people make it through the hard times. Whats bad today won't seem as bad tomorrow.....Things do get better.
Best wishes
Your dad sounds like a lucky guy....you're looking out for him and yourself...Thumbs up!
2006-12-09 11:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad you didnt do anything wrong. There is nothing more for you to do besides try to make your dad happy again. Make him a dinner or suggest a movie or so. He is hurt because of how she hurt him. Just have a boys day out and have some fun forget about her!
2006-12-09 11:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by kmiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is not your or your dad's fault. She apparently is lacking something emotionally and was trying to compensate for it elsewhere.
You should try to get your dad help (I know you said you're only 14) or you could tell an adult you trust that you think your dad needs some help because...etc, etc, etc.
If your dad doesn't get some help, he'll be in even bigger trouble emotionally and physically. He could set himself up for major depression, bipolar disorder, or some other type of depression or mental disorder, and possibly death if it goes too far. Sorry to be so blunt, but I went through this in my family.
2006-12-09 11:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by jessyl135 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well there isn't much you can do except you need to get your dad back to work to get his mind off of this.what your step mom did was her chose you cant change the pass or the future you just have to take it one day at a time and talk about it with your dad and come up with some option.but you really need to get your dad back to work this is really important and it lot better for his mental health and you need to go back to school and talk this over with your council
2006-12-09 11:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has befell previously and she or he continues to be with him, then she has already made her mattress and she or he will would desire to lie in it. although in case you recognize that he promised to no longer cheat back and you're a hundred% beneficial he did, then i might tell her. Its achieveable that when it happening two times previously your mom is in simple terms staying contained in the relationship out of convenience and is allowing him to cheat. the two way, no longer this type of good occasion for you.
2016-10-05 02:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your dad. His heart has been ripped out, and it may not be the first time that he has suffered like this. Tell him that you love him. Ask him if you can do anything for him. By just letting him know that you care it will mean the world to him.
2006-12-09 11:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can do other than maybe get dad up and out of the house let him know he lost one small fish in this big old ocean of women someone better waiting on him down the line i am sorry this really sucks so close to the holidays for you both but remember it will get better
2006-12-09 11:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know he's your dad, but don't take on your dad's problems;
you'll have enough of your own in time!
Be by his side and support him in every way you can by staying out of trouble, getting your lesson, and doing your chores.
He has a lot on his mind right now and he doesn't need you adding to his misery by getting in trouble at school or by being disrespectful and disobedient at home.
2006-12-09 11:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he caught her cheating? Did your Dad tell you all this?! You Dad NEVER should have told you any of that!!
That happened to me and I would never have dreamed of telling my daughters about it!
This has nothing to do with you, just support and love your Dad and do what you can to help him out.
2006-12-09 11:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋