Me and this guy had been dating for about six months when my mother came in and manipulated the relationship until I broke up with him. He was the sweetest and he treated me with the utmost of respect 24/7. So we were in love so it really hurt him when I broke it off. I want to get back together inspite of my moms but He was like me and him could never be more than friends. I love him, he's my first love and I only care about him being happy. I know he wants to go to UCF next year but he lives in a single parent home. So I sent him a list of scholarship information, you know just to help him out. I just wanted him to know that I still care for him alot. Am I acting like a desperate chick??
2006-12-09 11:22:37 · 19 answers · asked by Muffin Cakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not at all desperate. Talk to him heart to heart and decide one way or the other. Plenty of nice guys out there that would Love to treat you special.
2006-12-09 11:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I think you are acting like a friend, and trying to make up for having hurt him, and to show him you still care.
I don't know what your mother did to break up your relationship, but I think you should have it out with her, and tell her not to interfere in your relationships again.
As far as retrieving this one, it sounds like you have lost a great guy, and maybe he thinks you haven't got the strength of character to make up your own mind about your life, being so easily manipulated by your mother.
If he has said no to a relationship, you should respect that and just be a good friend. If he sees you have grown up a little over time he may eventually change his mind.
If you have hurt him, pushing him at this point will lose him altogether.
2006-12-09 11:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, sending him the list of available scholarships was an act of a friend. Tell him how you feel, that you would like to get back together and give him a little time. In the meantime, keep acting like a friend.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 11:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not acting desperate your just showing him that you still care for him. Never let your parents control your relationships because no matter in the long run your going to do what you want to do weither they like it or not. They will just have to get ust to it ya kno. I'm sry to hear that he said yall couldnt be no more than friends but maybe that can be changed just keep trying but dont try so hard that he gets annoyed. there is a stopping point after awhile.
2006-12-09 11:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i dont think so even if you two dont get back together it doesnt hurt to have a male friend and maybe in the future you two will get back together
i went trough something simmilar when i was younger my mom and dad forbid me from dateing this guy they said he was no good and that i could do so much better he was my first love but i went behind my parents backs and dated him anyways come to find out my parents were right and it hurt like hell getting over him but now its been almost 10 years and i am now married to what was his best friend we ahve 2 children been togehter for 7 years and married for 4 years so in the end it worked out but this story wasnt to tell you about my life but to show you that sometimes your mom is right even though you really dont want to hear what she says sometimes but you will never know what will happen in the future make your own mistakes and learn from them dont let your mom make you break up with someone you love expecially if he treats you great good luck
2006-12-09 11:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not desperate at all. My question is this: Why does your mom not like him? You need to talk to your mother and find out her reasons. Remember, she's been there. Maybe she sees things about your boyfriend that you may be overlooking because you are so in love. Trust her experience. She is your mother and will always love you. I couldn't be with a woman who's parents didn't like me. I would feel very uneasy. It may just be that she doesn't want her little girl to grow up so soon. Talk to her.
2006-12-09 11:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teenager, are you? Think it through, if he told you that you cannot be more than friends, you might just be wasting your time. Let some time pass and see how you still feel about him. You may think you love him now but see how you feel after some time passes. Hang out with friends to get your mind off him. You'll be okay in the end.
2006-12-09 11:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by leasanders 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think giving him the scholarship information was a "friend" thing to do. If you want him to be happy, then respect his wish to be friends. You said it yourself, he's your first love, find the next one that wants to be with you and it will be so much more worth it! Keep in contact with this guy, but just be friends.
2006-12-09 11:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not so much that your acting desprate.... What you should do is leave it as friends for now.... Before you push him out of your life for good. If yall stay friends then there will still be a chance. If it's meant to be it will be. Good luck!
2006-12-09 11:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Manita 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so...you said yourself, you care about him and want him to be happy...even if you guys are never anything more than friends...thats what friends are for, they take care of eachother. And who knows, maybe someday once he is over the break-up, he can let you back in...good luck!
2006-12-09 11:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋