me and my mom and my stepdad got in a fight. when i tried saying i was really sorry but they didnt want to talk to me. Also my real dad pays child support but my mom told me that im not allowed to go shopping for six months because they are trying to save money. But every time i come home from school she just went shopping for her. one time i asked her if she got anything for me and she slapped me and sid i was spoiled. What should i do without hurting my parents feelings? help me!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-09 11:09:26 · 8 answers · asked by iluvtvtwo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your dad and get his help. Slapping you is not acceptable... and can be considered abuse.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 11:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tug-of-war between biological parents and step-parents is emotional enough. Then when you add money to it, it just takes it up an even bigger notch. I was in a similar situation growing up and I can tell you that it can be really hurtful and confusing sometimes. Parents don't always make the right decisions with their kids. As kids, we expect our parents to be the adults in a situation, meaning that they will make the most fair decision. Unfortunately, they don't. Divorce and new families are a really tricky situation for all involved. Many times spousal support and child support only covers a fraction of what it actually costs to live. If you'd like more money for things, maybe you could sit down your mom and stepdad and do the following: 1. apologize for being emotional lately and tell them that it's hard sometimes for you to be in the middle of things. 2. Tell them that you understand that dad's money doesn't buy everything that you need, but 3. You'd really like to have a few things and was wondering if you could get their guidance and advice on how to go about getting them. From this point forward, as much as you might feel frustrated at your mom being a shop-o-holic, nix the sarcasm. Another thing you could do is when/if you are of age, get a part-time job and start buying your own stuff. Being able to provide for yourself without having to ask for money is a wonderful feeling. Good luck, and hang in there!
2006-12-09 11:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents always should be the bigger people, they should not turn away when you need to talk. If you think that it's serious enough, talk to your real father about the slapping and try to get the law involved. If you do tell your dad, make sure you record every time your mom "abuses" you.
Good Luck!! I hope things work out!
2006-12-09 11:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the support your father pays is NOT for you to go shopping on or your entertainment. It is to pay YOUR share of the household bills. You DO live under your mom and stepdad's roof right? You take showers/baths, watch televsion, eat, drink, talk on the phone, listen to music, get on the internet and whine on message boards about your mom and stepdad. All of that costs money and your father pays part of your share, and if it is anything like my daughter the child support payment doesn't cover ALL of those expenses. If you want to go shopping and spend someone's money I suggest you whine to your father about it maybe he'll send you more money...maybe he will tell you that you don't need to go shopping.
2006-12-09 11:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why worry about hurting them, if they are doing this to you.
mabee your mom is letting your step dad controll the money,
does he work? if shes spending money on her self,and not saving it like she says she is,she should also spend it on you.
have you tried talking to your real dad about this?
2006-12-09 11:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk 2 ur real dad about it and have him talk 2 her this wont hurt any1 acctually u being quite hurts u more then anything u should tell ur real dad
2006-12-09 11:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by idkjustanothergurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and have a talk with your parents and say talk about all these things that have been bothering you... you need to tell your mom that you are sincerely sorry and you hope that you can each work through your problems and build your relationship
2006-12-09 11:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should tell your mom how u feel without getting smart and if that dosent works you just tell your dad what she's with your money.
2006-12-09 11:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by apple_bottom06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋