If I found my wife sexy 30 pounds ago, why would she expect me to find her sexy now?

Question

I mean doesn't it make sense that if I liked fat girls I would have looked for one in the first place?

oh now you gotta pull out the "better or worse" part. that's the big guns. Good answer btw

OK, everyone seems to be noting what I look like. Apparently she liked it when she married me, no?

Answer 1

u married her for better or for worse, just how many of us still look the same as we did on our wedding day? we get older and fatter. and unfortunatly that is part of life. it isn't how a person looks, if u are just seeing her for her looks, that's pretty shallow. if u want her to llose weight get her to the gym, help her diet. she is the same woman u fell in love with and married only you are just looking at the extra pounds.

Answer 2

Dude,

I think you forgot about the part for better for worse! You married your wife because you were physically attracted to her. You also married her (I would hope) because the things in her heart and mind also attracted you to her. I do understand were you’re coming from however, you have a choice, love the one your with are love alone.

My wife has picked up the same amount as yours. However, we have been married for 18 years and the weight went to all the right places. She complains about her belly poking out. I always comfort her by telling her my children came from there. She always says she wants to loose weight. I tell her I can help you if you want.

If you want your marriage, here are a few things you may want to consider.

1.Provide her with positive comments that don’t tear her down but build her confidence.
2.Let her know that you love her every day
3.Show true concern about her health.
4.Start doing things with her that will trick her into exercise (if she does not want to).
5.Ask her to bring healthier food into the house for you both OR the entire family to eat.
6.If she’s a couch potato, start doing activities that will keep her from in front of the television (you should lead by example).
7.Go to the community park and take walks with a picnic of all healthy foods
8.Serve her with as much tube steak she can take (having sex burns calories)

Playboy, you keep your current stance on this and you will loose a fat wife and be left with a Rosie Palm. If you take my advice and it works you will have the woman you found long ago. She will also be a great deal stronger, in better health and will be able to sling that thang that much better at you.

Answer 3

You don't look like a body builder yourself! My guess is she loved you for your personality, your character. Although right now that seems hard to believe. So what if you don't find her sexy! What does love have to do with sexy. Lust has something to do with sexy. Listen, my wife is WAY heavier than yours. I guarantee it! Yet I love her more today than when she was in that slinky little bikini. Is the passion still there? Well, not as much. But I don't recall that being inserted into my wedding vows. Time to look to what counts, her qualities, her character, her personality.

Answer 4

if you wanted something that was going to remain thin (sexy) then you should of married a fitness guru. it really saddens me that you can fix your mouth up and say that if i wanted to marry a fat girl , i would of. you r wife deserves better than you. i feel so sad for her , because she married a nitwit. a fat nitwit. maybe she gained weight so you wouldn't look out of place being round and all. i hope when you tell her she has to lose the weight (which she probables looks beautiful ) that she dumps you and poof the 30 pounds are gone

Answer 5

well I'm looking at your photo,
and I can't really see all of it,
but I don't guess you're the "picture of fitness", either.

If you met her when you were looking as you do now, maybe she feels like she can do whatever the f** she wants to, because YOU'RE not doing anything.

Also, if you want her to lose weight, you don't really want her to feel like she is completely un-sexy because that will certainly hurt her feelings, and demotivate her completely. If you love her, you wouldn't do that right

So instead, tell her that you wanna motivate her by exercizing with her, and that you're gonna do something with her too. (She'll think you're more serious, if you are actually exercizing along WITH her. And it will make her feel like you're not calling her "ugly", since you're exercizing with her. And she won't feel like she's doing it, alone.)
and maybe buy some lingerie for her, as a goal to fit into (but be realistic don't get a super-small outfit) and let her pick out something for you.

you want it to be a shared experience in the end, so nobody will feel like they're getting criticized.
If you can't do that, then you will have to be happy with what you got or ship it on out

Answer 6

Wow I guess your wife thought you would love her and find her sexy always. I mean what are you thinking? There will come a day when you are all old and wrinkled who would find that sexy? Probably that woman that loves you and is there for you. Wake up before you loose something that you really might not want to loose.

Answer 7

Wow...isn't she the lucky one....

I didn't think that love was about how a person looked, your statement/question make you sound so shallow.

Was that in your vows? Hoping your wife has a very high self esteem....so she cant stomp that comment right out of......!


May you gain 30 pounds and be asked the same question or may your hair thin and again...ask a similar question.......

Answer 8

First of all you don't look small your self and she loves you. You could help her. I have gained 20 since I married my husband and I still look good in his eyes I think I am fat but he doesn't. All that matters is that you love each other. It should be more about the way you treat each other not the physical. We all gain weight when we marry. She is the same beautiful person in the inside right? Please don't be so sallow..

Answer 9

You don't look all that thin yourself. Maybe you've got an extra 30 lbs of beer around your belly since you've been married too huh? At least now she knows you only wanted her for her looks, and now that she lost them you got no use for her. Nice. I hope to God you've kept this to yourself, otherwise you can bet she is now harboring a little ball of hate for you in her heart, and maybe that's why she overeats, since she's getting no love or support from you. Women are not all straight off a centerfold, get real. Nobody's perfect, especially you, and she married you, so who got stiffed here???

Answer 10

The challenge you are undergoing is the test of love.
If you said it with your mouth, now you must act it out.
It is the honourable thing. You cannot blame your roving eye upon her condition. Find a hobby, and always give her an encouraging word. There is nothing like one misplaced word right now, that can destroy everything you have built with her.