i am in high school and i started dating this guy one year ago. we dated for 4 months, and i didnt want to have sex right away, and he totally respected my decision. but i fell in love with him, and i started to think that he was the one i should give it up to, started to feel ready. the more i hung out with him, the more i knew. well, one day it just...happened. i knew he wasnt a virgin, but he promised me that i was different than any other girl. so i felt good about it. but about a week later, he stopped calling me!! he broke up with me through a friend, and i was absolutley devastated. this was 6 months ago......AND.....HE RECENTLY DID THE SAME EXACT THING TO ANOTHER GIRL I KNOW!!! but i havent been able to get over him or date any other guys! this guy is such an asshole and such a player and i know that, buti havent even been interested in any one else. PLEASE HELP ME!! how do i get over my first love and the guy i lost my virginity to?!?!?!
2006-12-09 11:15:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl slowly but surely!! I'm not with my 1st love either but it took a lotta tears to get 2 where i am 2day. It's gonna take a while since u may feel like there's no one else that can do u like him becuz there is. U can't skip this stage that ur goin thru now...so let it go. What i did wuz although i felt as if i only could b wit him..i found da strength to flirt n date other guys. The guy i'm goin with now helped me get over my 1st...thants what you have to do. It's hard to find a person to mend your broken heart especially if they didnt break it but there are those that will trust me!! Another thing is...its not fair 2 other guys (now that we've lost our virginity to our first) becuz all the other guys will have 2 compete with him and if they can't b like him den we droppin em. So he didn do u a favor, he messed u up also.Its gone take time but u'll make it thru!
2006-12-09 11:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by chocolateflavadgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First loves are the hardest to get over. The best thing that you can do is start getting involved in group activities with males and females to help distract your mind. Even though he was your first love, think about what he did to you and know that if he really cared for you he wouldn't have done that. He is just a user and a chicken. Think of what he did to you everytime you start to miss him. As for the dating, maybe just seeing someone casually as friends or more will help you ease back into dating. Just remember you are better off without him and there are some great guys out there. Good luck.
2006-12-09 11:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever gets over there first love, because it is your first love. But it is your first... not your last. Things when you are young seem like they are destined to be. The same thing happened to me when I lost my virginity. He wasn't a virgin. He knew I was. He respected me and never pressured me into anything. Until I fell for him so hard, that all I did was dream about the wonderful life me and him was going to share. Little did I know, he had a bet going with his friends that he could get me to loose it to him. Well it worked. I fell for his charm. The day after we did, he sent me a text message saying everything he ever told me was a lie. I was devastated. He knew it. They all laughed and enjoyed my misery. So finally, I decided that I was going to be better than them and acted like it didn't bother me. They stopped everything they were doing after about a week. I am not going to say that I wasn't still hurting because I was. I still think about it now and this was 5 years ago. Thinking if things would have worked out for the best, where the relationship might have went, but you have to make yourself move on. There are good guys out there. Don't let him ruin your outlook on all guys, because all guys do not act like that.
2006-12-09 11:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that you may never get over him totally you will always remember your first love and it does hurt to loose someone you love it just takes time sometimes more time then you would like I know thats not much help but mveing on quickly wont help either I am sorry that he used you what you need is a friend to talk to maybe you know a girl you can trust that will just listen to you you just need to talk to someone and get it off your chest hopefully if you get the word out that he is a dog and only uses girls for sex he wont be able to hurt them just take it one step at a time and good luck remember the pain will go away
2006-12-09 11:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what, this kind of guys I know very well, he's the one that can make any girl fall in his love and he's like a gallant, he's ready to give you as much love as you ever dreamed about, but when he gets his desire, purpose or whatever...he leaves you as fast as he can, and never cares, so right now don't think that you have a place in his heart, not even a tiny one, and you don't won't someone like this person to keep you away from your life, you still have a plenty of time to enjoy, so do it and forget that jerk.
2006-12-09 11:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Deebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, accept the fact that you two are over and he just wanted to have sex with you. I think he never loved you; it's more of lust or just to get "it" out. Or maybe he's trying to prove something to his friends (like he can have sex with any girl she wants.)
Secondly, you have to move on and concentrate on your studies first. You're only in high school and you still have a lot to learn not only in school but in life. Move on.
Lastly, you will eventually meet someone who will love you for who you are and not want you just for sex. There will be more attractive guy after high school so don't worry about "love" too much. I think you're an attractive girl and you will surely be dating someone else soon.
Cheer up.
2006-12-09 11:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.... You think your not attracted to other guys but you wont get over him until you find another guy to give your time to and get your mind off your first. Just go out and have fun, just dont go looking for a man though, just have fun and the right one will come..... (wow, I should take my own advice, lol)
2006-12-09 11:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Manita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you probably will always remember this person, because he was your first . however, sitting on the fence, and watching after youve fell off the horse wont do you any good. i say, get back on the horse and ride. but this has taught you a valuable lesson in life, that all people are not what they seem. you will probably be able to pick the right one someday, but there are no guarentees in love and life. peace and love be with you always . sky
2006-12-09 11:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First cut hurts the deepest. My first time was with my first love and he cheated on me too... so I know what you are going through but you should just stop wasting time thinking about him. He obviously doesnt cherish u.
Pick up the pieces and get on with your life. Hang out with your friends, do a sport,... knit, read, shop... anything to keep you busy.
Be strong mentally and stop yourself from thinking about him. You DESERVE BETTER!
2006-12-09 11:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by milo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is an asshole. some guys just wanna takle guirls virginity. i'm very sorry this happened to u. not all guys are liek that though. and to answer your question i don't think anyone ever fully gets over their 1st love or falls out of love. i'm still in love with 2 of my ex's and i'm single. lol. but i would never take them back. you'll always love him but u need to move on. good luck
2006-12-09 11:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by DA-LL /Male/ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋