my partner and i have a fun and adventuros sex life i'll try anything for him but recently hes more interested in goin to the "pub" on his own, when i checked his computer history i found various adult sites that are for the more like minded couples or singles, that didnt bother me but what did was when i saw he had been posting adds on there for meets. i confronted him and he said it was to do my head in, but since findin the same again months later after we had lived sepeately due to family illness i am startin to worry. i just cant understand why hes doin this he swears hes not met any one but......... can any1 out there help me as this tearin me up...........whats goin on?.......what should i do?........
2006-12-09 11:10:29 · 18 answers · asked by theoriginalbitch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you could always talk to me online to see how he likes it
2006-12-09 11:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, here's what I did, and it worked every time. Google his AIM or other screen name, simple as that, it'll bring up the sites and there'll be a blue link underneath the description that says "cache" click that, which will give you an option to view the most recent screen shot, allowing you to view whole emails, conversations, that are stored in your computer as he goes about his nasty business. If you don't know his screen name, check his facebook, try googling his email or his myspace url, anything like that. Good luck. Unfortunately I've learned alot about this game in the last year. And as for the other nuts on here that don't consider the online world of dating and sex to be a threat to a relationship, clearly they have no real experience or self-respect. At any time that a spouse steps outside of their marriage, especially without first trying to talk it out with the spouse, it's definitely deceitful, thus, cheating. There are no secrets in a relationship, it's not fair for you to have to sit around while he ignores you, his wife, that he vowed to love and cherish forever and ever, just so he can get his rocks off for a bit. Instead of dealing with his problems, and saving you the stress, anxiety, depression, heartache, bitter pain and agony of always wondering and wishing that you knew what was going on, or could fix it. You deserve better, and you can find it. Dump the bastard if you find out, when it comes down to it, what is it you really want? Don't settle for less.
2016-05-22 23:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am afraid that he is being a typical man who needs more than just a faithful partner. I can understand how this is hurting though. I guess this guy is simply highly sexed and needs more titillation than a loyal woman can provide. MY honest advice is to nag him about the matter until you reach a conclusion to just how involved he may be with others. And then if it is all too much, you must consider if staying together is right for you. I am sorry, but I have heard this same scenario many, many times before and none of those relationships have survived.
Frankly I suggest that you deserve better. What he is doing is killing what you have between you. No woman can truly accept that and remain happy ......... good luck ...
2006-12-09 11:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and view one of his adverts. Is he scoping for sex ?
If he's out there trying to find 'open minded' or like minded and discreet individuals. Look at his mobile and the texts and log.
If he hides them, deletes messages quickly and clears his history on the pc chances are he's being a naughty boy.
Best thing you can do is let him be adventurous in someone elses life, get rid of him and get someone who will really value you.
P.S. Don't believe the I can change routine, he evidently has differing values and different moral standards.
2006-12-09 11:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Vogon Poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men look at other women ether down the street while driving/walking etc or/& on the internet dont mean he is cheating on you.. if he actually meets some1 and kisses,touches them etc then that is cheating but aslong he dont do that he is not. he can meet new people but aslong he dont touch then everything fine.
in ur case wif ur man i would have doubts but maybe he is only doing to annoy u. maybe he feels ur rather smothering and jealous sort of always watching him checking up on him making sure he not being naughty.
but i am sorry to have to tell you this i hope all the best for you but maybe your time is up with you man and maybe its time to move on.. if you cant trust or believe in each other then what the point ur just playing games with each other. u have to trust some1 to be with them. i no you prob love him n its hard to let go but if he feels he can walk all over u he will carry on doin it.
think for yourself and follow your heart see what you think is best, u should always try stay happy if something not making u happy sort out the problem.
2006-12-09 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me2u most men look at these sites out of curiosity nothing more
tread carerfully till you have good evidence corresponding with other people on line is common but not always leads to a meeting
just good fun on line . Anyway most men delete their history if they have something to hide so think carefully before acting cheers
2006-12-09 11:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can come to the pub with him. If he says no and you believe him to be suspicious then you have to do some detective work.
Join one of the sites he looks at under a false name and arrange a meet with you. If he does, then meet up with him and dump him on the spot.
If he doesnt meet up with you, then he is innocent and no harm will have been done.
Also makle it clear to him that doing things to do your head in is NOT acceptable and ask him to stop using dating sites.
2006-12-10 22:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him girl. Fair enough if he's only looking at adult sites, but when he starts looking at meets, then he's serious about taking it to the next stage. He's lying about not doing it, otherwise why would he register for this? Why don't you register "annoymously" and arrange a meet with him? If he turns up, dump the Bast**d. Good luck, you deserve better.
2006-12-09 11:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by beanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is more interested in the pub than in you you are better off without him.
He has got what he wanted and is now reverting to type.
Kick him into touch and get yourself a man who will treat you properly
2006-12-13 07:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think hes the one for you.
i think hes playing you for a fool
i think you already know that looking at sites is one thing - not really acceptable in the first instance but posting ads is TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE.
he is asking to meet 'like minded people'
whats that all about???
to do your head in?? i think hes managed that quite well don't you.
find yourself someone who actually cares about you and wants to be with JUST you.
good luck
he sounds untrustworthy and uncaring.
2006-12-09 11:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him into touch - hes def cheating on you with the lady doctor down the street.
2006-12-09 11:15:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jim B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋