there is so much stuff going on in my life right now... I think I like this guy who has practically got every girl I know wrapped around his finger, but then again I absolutely HATE him, there is this other guy who has cheated on alot of my friends but I'm still attracted to him.There's another guy who I am attached to but it would be akward because he's friends with the guy I turned down(he asked me out for him too), the guy I turned down still has a thing for me and I feel really bad! what do I do. There are too many guys in my life I can't keep up and I'm trying to figure out if this is love or lust or a crush or a pity date. HELP ME!
2006-12-09 11:13:38 · 15 answers · asked by If nothing lasts forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not trying to be " boy crazy because really, I prefer being single. But it just bothers me that I can't figure this out. If you are going to be super negative don't answer. if you are going to give my constuctive critisizm I can take that thanks.
2006-12-09 11:21:04 · update #1
Am I coming off as a dramatic *****? if so I'm really sorry, maybe I should just go off and be single?
2006-12-09 13:00:20 · update #2
mmm...i don´t think you should go with any of those guys...find someone else...or...if the guy you know whom has almost every girl you know wrapped around his finger(but not like a player...just like...the girls all like him...but he isn´t goin hitting on them all) then it might be fine to go with him...but watch out for angry stupid little girls later on...jajjaa...ummm...i think this is obviously lustful...like, you´ve got some "crushes" but they are more like you wouldn´t mind bein with either of those guys you like...but none are like "oh my gawd i sooo like him!!!"
wait it out a while:) my suggestion
xaooooo
good luck;)
2006-12-09 11:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviously none of it is love because when that comes along absolutely nothing gets in the way of it and you never have to second guess yourself. For goodness sake don't get into pity dates, they just don't work and you aren't doing anyone any favours.
Why not just keep all the nice guys as friends, see the others for what they are and give them a broad miss.
2006-12-09 19:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like its mostly lust and crushes...the guys who have the girls "wrapped around their finger" and cheat on girls aren't guys you should be wasting your time on! If they have done that to everyone else, they will do it to you too! Maybe you are more attracted to the guys you think you can't get?? Some people are like that b/c they are afraid of commitment...if you like someone you don't really have much of a chance with, you don't have to worry about anything happening...just forget about them all! Don't feel bad about turning the other guy down, at least you were honest with him and he should know where he stands now...if you led him to believe he had a chance w/ you and then turned him down, then you should feel bad!! Good luck
2006-12-09 19:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Renee B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really prefer being single, then there's no problem, is there? You can't have it both ways, and that's what it sounds like. You enjoy the drama and the so-called attention, while trying to act as if you're just an innocent bystander who is being pursued by all these guys. Get a grip on yourself and instead of spending all this time worrying about guys, worry about what you're going to do when people get tired of the constant drama in your life and you're left all alone.
2006-12-09 19:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are lots of pressures in school and young adulthood to be dating/cute/popular/whatever. Its crap - focus on your ability to be a productive healthy adult.
Follow your dreams and focus on your skills and talents that can provide you a happy successful career/lifestyle. There is nothing more attractive to men and woman (and most teenagers - who have it together) than someone who knows what they want - and is getting it!
You will find people along the way with your same passions and interests. If you can keep yourself healthy in both body and mind and strive for success people will be knocking down your door to date you. ..and as a bonus you’ll be a happy self sufficient adult.
2006-12-12 13:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ralph 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest to your feelings, the only one who can determine if it's love or lust or a pity date is you. The frienship between them should not be a problem, if they are smart enough they won't mind you dating either one of them.
If it's akward to YOU then look in other direction.
2006-12-09 19:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by a38monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy that you absolutely hate don't go for it cause if he has so many girls wrapped around his finger then that means that there is no time in his life for a girlfriend cause he already has a lot of other girls... the guy that you like but he cheats on your friends don't go for it either cause if he cheated on other girls then you don't know if he will cheat on you... the last guy you could might go out with if your ex doesn't move on then you will be stuck like this forever... if your ex broke your heart deosn't mean he will do it agian... but if you broke his heart then you will nevr know if you will do the same thing to make you break his heart agian...
2006-12-09 19:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by i love cookies!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whooooaaaa! slow down there! go through the guys, find the ones that you think would be better for you as friends and the one's that you think you would be better off in a relationship with you. then the one's that you think would be better in the relationship, spend time with just those guys for a while. find out a little more about them, and decide on the one that you think would be best for you. then spend most of your time with him. you'll be suprised at what could happen! GOOD LUCK
2006-12-09 19:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Crouton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, so many options so little time. just pick the one that you are most attrated to. and make sure that he has good intentions and he is reliable and kind. Don't go out with guys who don't respect girls, because even though he may be really nice to you now, once you become his girlfriend, he may disrespect you. I think you are making a big deal out of it.
2006-12-09 19:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Heather K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you a little bit boy crazy!! how in the world do you think it might be love?? 100% lust i would say
2006-12-09 19:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by britt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋