Family & Relationships - 4 December 2006

A friend that I grew up with and who is 45 and who has very low self-respect has always wanted to be a first lady of a church, so she has been having an affair with a married minister of her family's church. The minister is a recovering drug and acohol addict. My friend introduced him to my 22 year old daughter when they were working on a fashion show fund raiser for the church. Well to say my daughter and my friend had a falling out and now the minister is stalking my 22 year old daughter. I have called the church, not leaving any specific message, but I have gotten no return calls. Knowing my daughter, she will take him for everything she can and think nothing of it. When I brought this to my friend's attention she said no her "Bo" would never do anything like that. My daughter has the recorded cell phone messages. I am at my wits end and am planning to be in church, in the front pew and give a testimoney. What do you think

2006-12-04 23:18:28 · 8 answers · asked by Bethy4 6 in Friends

i know why,it's because they were preggers with you, raised you etc. but must we love them.does everybody loves their parents? i don't really feel anything for my parents. i'm polite to them but that's all.they're called parents because it's their job to raise us. i think my mom knows i don't really love her as she loves me. she asked whether i love her a few times. and it makes me feel so bad cos i know the answer and why can't i be like other normal ppl that loves their parents.

2006-12-04 23:18:24 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

when me and my boyfriend got together, he told me to keep our relationship secret.
I asked why but I got nothing but unclear asnwers until one day when he told me the truth: he has an OBSESSION FOR HIS EX (with whom he was together for only 2 weeks) then we split up but now he wants me back.
we are back together but he said I shold keep myself from falling in love with him for now as he doesn't know "what his (=mind) will come up with next". meaning he doesn't know for sure he can carry on in his decision to forget about her. meaning also that now we are on a certain "probation", we are "trying to be lovers".
he kinda likes to be trourmented by his past. . .which I find strangely self-punishing and ill. I got to tell him the key is for him to really want to forget her and only he can have controll over this but I want to help him more.

please tell me: how can I cure him from this obsession so that the both of us can be happy?

thank you!

2006-12-04 23:18:18 · 12 answers · asked by porcelain heart 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm short and I wish I were taller. Are there guys out there that find short girls attractive? Plus, I overheard this guys saying "damn that girl got nice legs on a J-lo booty" and I see guys checking out tall girls alot. I got no J-lo booty either. The guys talking to his friend about that girl didn't even notice me and I thought he looked pretty cute but being I am polar opposite to the attributes he gawked about that girl, I had no guts to say hi.

2006-12-04 23:17:29 · 12 answers · asked by kowalley 5 in Singles & Dating

I use to love him more than every thing before but it seems the love is no longer there any more. please can someone tell me why is like this. I don,t have anyone else.

2006-12-04 23:16:53 · 5 answers · asked by chizoba n 1 in Singles & Dating

My mum and dad have gone to what feels like the other side of the world for a month, That mean that this will be my first Christmas with out my mum and dad, This also includes new year, I have a older sister too, but she will be going away soon to, I will be left in my town with no family and friends and really no-one i love, to spend Christmas with, I have cried every night since they have gone and dont know how i am going to cope, Can some one please help???

2006-12-04 23:15:43 · 14 answers · asked by trixiepinx89 1 in Family

2006-12-04 23:15:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i hv a vagine friend who her hubby break and the lady could not walk the following day.

2006-12-04 23:14:33 · 10 answers · asked by akagod l 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i need friends that i can e-mail if you guys or girls (we can be friends) are interested please leave me your e-mail in a answer form THANKS!!!!

2006-12-04 23:14:10 · 10 answers · asked by cangri girl 2 in Singles & Dating

My mum abandoned/ran away from my family 6years ago and is now trying to get in contact with me. She says she knows we all despise her but there is no way to erase the fact that she is our mother and we should forgive her.
Should I let go of the past and forgive and forget the heartache she has caused?

2006-12-04 23:14:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I've been going out with my boyfrined for 2 years and he cheated on me several times and now we are not together anyone. I still love him but I feel so hurt and broken.

2006-12-04 23:13:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My one of two younger brother have taken some money from me for business purpose and given me a oral promise that he would give the money after a said period. and i didnt kept any agreement or proofs due to relation and faith but now that period reached to its end, and now when i asked about my money, he creating reasons to return my money and willing to forfeit my money. only i have a small peice of paper on which my another brother have written the total amount and that is the only proof i have to produce before him. please help me is there any way to bring back my money peacefully and without any quarrels.

2006-12-04 23:13:21 · 9 answers · asked by Sree 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-04 23:12:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

They had a rocky marriage, very violent, the divorce was finalized a couple of weeks ago but no one is leaving, there are no kids involved so what is the problem?

2006-12-04 23:12:18 · 5 answers · asked by Bethy4 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I JUST FARTED AND CANT SMELL OR SEE IT WERE DID IT GO ANY HELP IN FINDING IT WILL BE GREAT I'LL TELL YOU WHAT HAPPENED I TRYED TO MAKE A ''CUPCAKE'' SO I FARTED IN MY HAND THEN CLOSED IT THEN OPENED AND HAD A LOOK AND ITS NOT THERE AND DOESNT SMELL WHY IS THAT?????


DO YOU THINK I MIGHT HAVE A GHOST IN MY ROOM AND HE OR SHE OR SHIM OR THAT OR A IT, TOOK IT?????



HOW WOULD I EXPLAIN THIS TO MY IMAGENERY FRIEND THAT HIS CUPCAKE IS GONE!!!!!!!!!!!???

2006-12-04 23:11:28 · 4 answers · asked by p1mp_1n 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-04 23:07:07 · 8 answers · asked by segun j 1 in Family

She said that she wasnt happy and that she wasn't sure if she wanted to be my gf anymore , but now she misses me and its a total different ballgame

2006-12-04 23:06:13 · 12 answers · asked by Zach M 1 in Singles & Dating

My roommates have been badgering me to go out with them. Three months ago, my roommate's brother came for a visit and joined in on the badgering. He was extremely annoying and to get him off my back I agreed to go with him the next time he came to town. Well, to my disappointment he's coming back to town. The reason I don't want to go out with these girls is, as paranoid as this sounds, that I suspect that the only reason they want me to go is some sort of joke. They have a history of playing cruel immature jokes on me in order to get a laugh. They have a reputation for being reckless and I can only imagine the trouble I would get in. They won't take "no" or "I don't want to" or any type of excuses that involve studying or illness for an answer. Any suggestions?

2006-12-04 23:05:07 · 13 answers · asked by Secrets are best for one... 2 in Friends

i don't need a second invitation for sex, so i don't get it when she says she is not in the mood

2006-12-04 23:00:32 · 22 answers · asked by BB 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-04 23:00:24 · 8 answers · asked by kan 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-04 22:59:46 · 8 answers · asked by king of spain 3 in Singles & Dating

Do bipolar sufferers tend to hide their feelings a lot? I had a friend at work and she was as nice as pie at work, the friendliest and smiliest person there but most people at work said this was just a mask and not really what she was like. I now feel foolish for falling in love with her as I'm not even sure that person even existed! Does this sound stupid?

2006-12-04 22:58:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-12-04 22:58:04 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Singles & Dating

my good mate died a liitle while after a someone burgaled her house and i saw her die and come out of her house on the ambulance stretcher thing and i wernt aloud to go to her funeral coz of ****** school. my auntie died, my little cousin deid when she was 1 and my gf's mum died. i just keep having flashbacks and nightmares and dont no how to get rid of them, any suggestions

2006-12-04 22:57:11 · 8 answers · asked by Kid Fro$ty / $up3rman 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

at least 10 large (and I don't mean 7x11inch) framed portrait photographs placed around her living room, all of her. this doesn't include the five or so (smaller)pictures she has of her with somebody else. Other family pictures do feature but we are mostly consigned to the dining room and corridor and they are from the era when afros were in vogue. I often spend my time when i visit her looking for new pictures she has sneaked in, once I counted as many as thirteen. The latest one has a gold frame around it and is strategecally placed right opposite where she sits to watch TV. I have often wanted to point this out to her, but I know that would embarrass her. It doesn't stop me from getting depressed every time I go to visit her. Am I being unreasonable? She's divorced and 70.

2006-12-04 22:56:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

If you are 24/25 years old or have been what did/do you spend most of your money on?

2006-12-04 22:52:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

hi,

I love someone who is still hurt but he has been divorced since 5 years now?

do u think he still need more time...knowing that he has the WILL to move on...but the fcat that he is still hurt scares me!!!!

help meeeeeeeeeeee

2006-12-04 22:52:20 · 4 answers · asked by Work For A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what is it wen im nervious i get sore stomaches and i blow gas throw my back end i hate it and its not nice but i always try to stop it from happening i think it will effect me in later life if i dnt find a way to stop it! but wat would it be called??

2006-12-04 22:51:16 · 5 answers · asked by justaguy m 1 in Singles & Dating

my friend asked me what she should get her bf for xmas, so im asking on here coz idk. They are both 16 ish years old. Whats a good present?

2006-12-04 22:51:15 · 4 answers · asked by ? 6 in Singles & Dating

We split a year ago and have a 2 and a half year old. I am now Married and pregnant. My ex and I get on really well he sees our son every weekend and he would be welcome to see him more if he didn't work so late during the week. I don't consider myself the law when it comes to our little boy and he has as much say in his discipline as I do, we communicate about everything to do with him and always try to do as the other does when he is with either one of us so he isn't getting mixed messages. It seems to be working because we have had no problems with his behaviour and yes I say 'we' because we are still together on the parenting. It was not an easy break up and feelings were hurt badly but we have put it all behind us for the sake of our Son, after all whats the point in going over old ground or holding stuff against each other? it won't change anything. I feel for all those who are unable to have this too and think myself lucky everyday. I hope you all get some resolve in your life

2006-12-04 22:50:32 · 22 answers · asked by Smoochy Poochy 6 in Family