Does anyone else get along with their ex?

Question

We split a year ago and have a 2 and a half year old. I am now Married and pregnant. My ex and I get on really well he sees our son every weekend and he would be welcome to see him more if he didn't work so late during the week. I don't consider myself the law when it comes to our little boy and he has as much say in his discipline as I do, we communicate about everything to do with him and always try to do as the other does when he is with either one of us so he isn't getting mixed messages. It seems to be working because we have had no problems with his behaviour and yes I say 'we' because we are still together on the parenting. It was not an easy break up and feelings were hurt badly but we have put it all behind us for the sake of our Son, after all whats the point in going over old ground or holding stuff against each other? it won't change anything. I feel for all those who are unable to have this too and think myself lucky everyday. I hope you all get some resolve in your life

james x the question was 'do you get on WITH your ex' not on top of or under your ex.

Answer 1

Its excellant that you get on, you have to remember you both have a child together and thats never going to change. Your child is lucky, most parents I know are at each others throats using the child as some sort of weapon, its appalling.

Answer 2

I must say it is very nice to hear about someone getting on with their ex for the sake of a child. That doesn't happen very often and I think it is such a shame as I feel a child deserves a mum and a dad in their life. And not just a part time dad who they see every other weekend either. I think it is great that you are both very much a part of your sons life. Your son is very lucky to have this. Breaking up with someone is never easy so well done you for helping your son to still have a mum and a dad.
I have always said that when I have children that if I split up with the father, I shall try and keep him very much invovlved in the childs life. Thank you for letting me know that this can be done.

Answer 3

I think that its important to be able to get along with your ex especially when kids around. Just as long as you know that you are truly just friends and there is a reason it didnt work the first time. Just always know your boundaries.
As for your husband - I do think that Kimmy brought up a good point. It is important to raise your son working with his father for your sons well being. BUT what your son really needs is family and it sounds like you are leaving our your husband. Your husband is your son's step-dad and that word still has DAD in it. You should include your husband in the parenting the same way you include his father. I lived with my step father and my mother for about ten years before I moved away. My father and I had a good relationship even though he had some problems of his own. Even if he would have been the perfect father I would still consider my stepdad my parent along with my father and mother. My step father paid for my 20 thousand dollar wedding and put me through college. My step dad and and my father always had a good relationship for and got along. This teaches a child true love. I even called both Dad. He is my mother's husband and a big part of my family. Growing up this way installed in me a great sense of family, especially in these times where divorce and seperation are a norm. If you and your son's father truly want the best for your son, you will teach your son and allow him to love your husband as a parent. All three of you are an equal team in raising your son. If your son's father gets a significant other - it will be a team of 4 - the more the merrier. Hope everything works out.

Answer 4

did you stop for a second to consider what your husband might be feeling about the situation? He has a say in the upbringing as well because he is your son's step dad. it's not fair to cut him out like that from the relationship. As for your relationship with the ex im happy for you but you should really focus more on your own family than be happy you're in good relationship with your ex. And by the way did you really get over him?

Answer 5

Good for you this can be really tough especially when there is a child involved. your attitude is brilliant and your dead right what is the point in going over old ground etc life is too short and your son will be happier because of this.
and to answer your question i was with somebody for 4 years we were meant to marry and didnt he is now one of my best friends and i wouldnt be without him as a friend.xx

Answer 6

My husband's Ex and that i'm getting alongside approximately as stable as 2 Pitbulls might get alongside. She is a sort of Ex different halves that use the infants as leverage and that i think of she is fairly immature. I actual have a 'No touch" order on her by way of fact she has led to a super style of issues. She is Psycho to assert the least. i attempted as annoying as i'd desire to to get along with her. yet she made genuinely no attempt in any respect. each and every time his childrens went domicile after visitation she might deliver nasty emails to my husband accusing me of treating her childrens badly. I have been given bored stiff and informed my husband i might no longer be left on my own together with his childrens by way of fact i grow to be afraid she grow to be going to accusing me of being advise to her childrens and that i could no longer take care of the rigidity from her. Now she is making it so my husband won't have the ability to confirm his childrens in any respect. in case you question me she would not should have childrens.

Answer 7

Congratulations! It's nice to know not all divorced people act like fools and place their child(ren) in the middle. I get along great with my ex, we did have children together and no matter what happened between us, without him I wouldn't have my children. In all reality, we make better friends than we did spouses and we're both in agreement that our children come first and that's just how it is.

Answer 8

Yes i get on exceptionally good with my ex....actually we are better friends now than we were before, and we laugh together, and enjoy good conversations with each other...the good thing is that he also gets along with my beau too, which is a bonus...no hard feelings floating around to create bad atmospheres.

Answer 9

yes im living with my ex we have'nt been together for 2 and a half years,we get on like house on fire and we have both been in relationships since then eveythings cool,but we are both single now and even closer to what we were a few months ago,so people who say it aint possible to be freinds with an ex are very much wrong.

Answer 10

Yes with one of my ex's I do get on. We don't see each other very often though. I think it is because we were friends first and that lasts.