She said that she wasnt happy and that she wasn't sure if she wanted to be my gf anymore , but now she misses me and its a total different ballgame
2006-12-04 23:06:13 · 12 answers · asked by Zach M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Don't it always seem to go,
that you don't know what you've got til it's gone........."
The grass is not always greener my friend. She tasted what it's like without you and she doesn't like it as much as she thought she would. If you decide you want her back, make sure that she makes you believe that she won't do it again.
2006-12-04 23:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions and Rationale are two different things.
You being a guy you are trying to work this out logically. So let's help you out a little.
There are many things that can be happening. Here is situation a.
She hasn't found anyone else and is using you as a fall back because you are easy and she knows you once liked her. If someone else gives her more attention then she will leave you for someone "better".
Situation b would be that she does like you but she isn't serious about the relationship or committed given she doesn't know where she stands as you haven't made it clear to her that you want to be committed to her. So she feels vulnerable to open her heart to you if you don't provide the security she is after. You play a key role here but you have being so vague I am giving you general options here.
Back to the emotions and rationale. In your mind you can accept a breakup within a heartbeat. From the top of everst down to the marian trench in a split second.That quick but
you emotions take a lot longer to come down. If you keep feeding her emotions even though she doesn't want to be with you, they won't come down at all and she will still have an attraction towards you but she won't want you for the right reasons. It will be only physical/biological attraction but true love isn't there.
Yet if she loves you even if you don't give her any sign of your existance and I recommend you don't for a while her emotions and her mind will be in tune that she wants to be with you and given you haven't fed her emotional state you can be reassured that she is genuinely interested.
If you don't give her this break time and keep seeing her, or keep talking to her, and giving her what she wants then you can be cheating yourself into an unwanted relationship, which might not end up to be the best marriage. It will still be marriage for life but it won't be the best and I am sure you want the best. Am I right?
You want to get married ultimately right? If not then neither you nor her should be dating.
2006-12-04 23:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet n Sour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...yeah man.. thats like the same stuff that happen with me.. just happen like 1 month ago.. after dating this girl for couple of days.. she said that she wasn't ready for a relationship..and a week later... she told me that she misses me alot and she wanted me back so i took her back.. then couple of weeks later..she said she doesn't want a bf and said lets just me friends.. and now she misses me.. u know i loved this girl.. but yeah.. if i were u, i would let her go..listen don't be with a girl that doesn't know what she wants.. because if you take her back.. the same thing is going to happen/..don't be with a girl that drops you when shes doubting about something, because i'll you'll end up heart broken.. i know it will be hard,,, but sometimes people should also listen to there brain, because your heart doesn't always make the right decision.. hope this helps.. GOODLUCK
2006-12-04 23:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by mike s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a girl whom doesnt no what she wants... she just wants attention and the thought of being single doesnt suit her... dont fall bak into her trap... she is just using u until sum1 beta comes along so that she can then go straight from attention to attention... dont fall for it... Good luck
2006-12-04 23:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control thing to me.
She maybe doesn't want you, but she doesn't want you to be with anybody else.
If she wants to be with you, ask her what it would take for you to be a couple.
Get her to talk!
2006-12-04 23:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you listen a international wide......"BEEN THERE"!!!! ignore him, sleep with somebody else, bypass, kill him, even if that it takes. This too shall bypass. stay and study from all of our mistakes!!!!
2016-11-23 17:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by kasperitis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I have to fair with you, to me I feel that somebody just dumped her and she needs a male companion
2006-12-04 23:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by jus wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she likes you if she dont how can she miss you ??? trust me she likes you!!!
2006-12-04 23:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~pinkygurl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a second chance and see how things go
2006-12-04 23:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her more time and when you are ready tell her love not a game play it cool its your ball game
2006-12-04 23:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋