must we love our parents?

Question

i know why,it's because they were preggers with you, raised you etc. but must we love them.does everybody loves their parents? i don't really feel anything for my parents. i'm polite to them but that's all.they're called parents because it's their job to raise us. i think my mom knows i don't really love her as she loves me. she asked whether i love her a few times. and it makes me feel so bad cos i know the answer and why can't i be like other normal ppl that loves their parents.

Answer 1

You don't know what love is...if you did...you would not have to ask this question.

Answer 2

I am sure you must have heard it many a times but still "God cannot be everywhere and therefore he made mother" or "............ and therefore he made parents" as i call it.

Just to correct you raising us is not there job - they could hv been better living there lives there own way no need to spend so much raising us, and then listening to all the crap from us.

Parents, Mother, Father are not merely words they arr the world, the universe, they are the biggest asset one can ever have. Think about the sleepless nights they have spend just because you were awake, think of how many times they could not buy something which they always wanted to ....... just because you were the priority then, today and forever.

They are the base on which we stand today (atleat me) we look for expert help outside without even knowing the potential that lies in our homes "our parents" ------- they were also young, got married, scaled up with time professionally, personally. They have seen the world more than we have.

U were always there priority, you are the investment they have been doing over a period of time. It hardly makes a difference what r u doing today what makes a difference is where are u heading towards. Realize it friend, realize it before its too late. time would never stop ticking nor will it come back.

Go back to them with the same love and affection that they have been showering for these many years and i m sure u will see the glow in there eyes which u will aslo realize is the most precious thing for a CHILD.

God Bless . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Answer 3

The fact that you feel bad when your mother asks you if you love her and you think the answer is no is proof enough that you do love them. Sometimes, we get so used to things around us that we forget that we like them in the first place. Maybe because sometimes our focus is on the novelty of new love. But there will come a time that something will happen (maybe even something not so pleasant) that will remind you of just how much you do love them.

Or, if you're really convinced that you don't love your parents, then try looking at the situation a different way. They're called parents not just because they gave birth to you or it's their job to take care of you. They're called parents also because they love you and they CHOSE to take care of you. And think of all the time you spent with each other. If it still doesn't work, then don't mind it. Your asking this question shows that you're concerned enough about them. Love doesn't always have to be that burning almost solid emotion you feel in your chest. It's also a choice you make. If you choose to love them because of all they've done for you that they did practically unconditionally, then that's enough.
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Answer 4

Being a parent or a child is not a choice that either of you made. It was fate, divine intervention whatever you call it, it was put together by a higher order. You are not obligated to love your parents nor do you have to take care of them when they are old. I agree that it was their choice to have a kid and this their responsibility to raise you.

I have never believed it till i became a parent. Unconditional love exists only of that of a parent. When you become a parent one day, you will understand and comprehend how much your parent loved you and hopefully your kid dun feel the same about you as you do your folks.

I appreciate and thus love my folks for still shouldering the responsibility to caring and providing for me instead of dumping me off some orphanage when the marriage broke down. They have made alot of time and monetary sacrifice to bring me up. They practically lost their youth and freedom so that i was well taken care of. They could have just left me to the state but they didn't and i am thankful for that.

I hope you ponder and think about what love is coz how you treat your folks will be how your kids treat you in the future.

Answer 5

I know what you mean, with some families, the children aren'ts raised to love the parents, but rather, the focus is on respect. When I was young, I also felt like that. I respected my parents and was polite to them, but to say I love them just wasn't quite right. So, you aren't abnormal. There are plenty of people like that, particularly with certain cultures.

From what you said, I think you care about your parents, which is really nice. It will take time to develop the love for them as you grow up and learn to appreciate them more.

Answer 6

You don't have 2 love them , but u should love their soul. I love my father very much, but my mom is a different story. No one can tell u who 2 love anyway, only u can make that choice. There is nothing wrong with u, and who wants 2 be normal anyway, be yourself. If she asks u again, just tell her how u feel, what do u got 2 loose/

Answer 7

People love differently. Children love their parents differently too. Some more than others. Just do what makes you happy, with no regrets when they die.

Answer 8

Everybody have to love their parents because they love you and why dont you love them back or you maybe there`s something that you did`nt tell in your question maybe you know that you are adopted i said MAYBE ok?!!!

Answer 9

its alryt u dont HAVE to love them. u cant force urself to love any1 even if they raised u etc.... a lot of ppl dont love they're parents. ur normal....

Answer 10

The problem with parents is....they chose you....or so we have to believe, but you didn't choose your parents. Some parents are simply not very nice people.