Family & Relationships - 3 December 2006

I never personally saw the point. Why do two people who are in a normal, perfectly healthy relationship want to ruin it by turning each other into property? It doesn't seem to make the relationship better than it already is, and half of them end in divorce anyway (in other words, married people break up at about the same rate as unmarried people), so honestly what is the point?

What's the downside of just living together forever if that's how it's meant to be just on the merit of your own love and trust, instead of the false sense of security from a contract and a ring?

Real answers, please, not lame defensive little attacks. I'm not trying to bash anyone, I just want to know.

2006-12-03 17:44:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been friends with this guy for 7 years. I was 18, and he was 24. I've been in love wth him ever since. From the beginning, I realized he was my soulmate, and I made it clear I wanted to pursue a relationship, but he thought I was too young. I got into a relationship with someone else for 5 years, and had a child. He got into a relationship with a woman who he's now been with for 5 years. I'm now single.

Recently, for the first time, he kissed me, and told me he wanted me...sexually. I've never been with someone who is already with someone. I've waited 7 years to hear those words...7 years to touch him. He doesn't know it, but I've always loved him. I'm torn because I know it's wrong, but I try to justify it by thinking he was mine first. Any guidance on this issue would be greatly appreciated...

2006-12-03 17:44:20 · 16 answers · asked by Cynthia 1 in Singles & Dating

I met this guy while working, over the phone in June and we have talked off and on until recently. We live 4-5 hours away from each other and decided one weekend we would met half way. To make a long story short, I do not want to pursue this any longer because to me the weekend was a diaster and I am not feeling his situation. First he has no stability, works off and on doing BS jobs and he lives with his MOTHER and when I saw him he looked like a BUM, he is 32! He has a son that he spends quality time with, which attracted me to him b/c I am a single mom. We talked on the phone every day all day before we met in person and he wants to continue and I have no interest and see no future in it. I would not mind a occasional phone call but he is still calling whether I call him or not, he is not catching on AT ALL! Every time I do talk to him, he constantly asks me when can we meet again and I give the lamest excuses but still he asks. I do not want to be mean but it needs to end NOW!

2006-12-03 17:43:56 · 4 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Singles & Dating

She lives with a mom that calls her names and emotionally hurts her, but sometimes has even thrown things at her. She moves often and I live a couple states away right now, i'm visiting in 16 days, but is there a way to legally take her away from her mom even though she hasn't hit 18 yet?

2006-12-03 17:42:03 · 7 answers · asked by Rob 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

when they wish yau where weren't born the way you were

2006-12-03 17:41:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

In my class there was this guy just feeling on his thing. I thought "how disgusting"!!! At least if he did that in private. He's not the only one I've seen do that. I don't get why they have to constantly touch it. Fill me in please!!!!

2006-12-03 17:40:57 · 20 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Singles & Dating

It can be someone famous or a description of the person of your dreams! :)

2006-12-03 17:40:26 · 17 answers · asked by kristypammy 1 in Singles & Dating

They are all older in their twenties. . .just wondering what others do in this situation?

2006-12-03 17:37:32 · 14 answers · asked by fannie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriends is reccently had a female friends - a backpacker- moved into his house and they've been spending most of time together. he's cooking for her everyday and picking up her always(He never cooked for me or picked up me. Always I did for him) - she often ringed him(even when he was with me in might) for picking up. He's refused to stay in my home now and told me the girl said she scared be along. And i barely had time to be with just him because she is always around - unless on his bed. ****!
They were always laughing but no body noticed me even at most time. I've pay for most of our food and wine, plants for filling his garden, cooking for his family when ever I came to his... but i've been yelled 6 times since she moved into his house last month. And he keep to tell me that I didn't undersatnd their friendship.
Can anybody tell me what I should do? Is this really friendship?

2006-12-03 17:37:29 · 4 answers · asked by Need ur help 1 in Friends

i dident grow up with my father and am dating a man 12yrs older than me, 22/33 i call him daddy and hes fine with it, he calls me babygirl, princess, angel the whole works, the only thing is that he is not fully mine [married w/kids] but weve been together for over a year and spend a whole bunch of time together, but am afraid ill end up getting hurt, i really love him and dont want to not be with him because he is everything that i never had....is it even worth contuining? for my own sake?

2006-12-03 17:36:24 · 9 answers · asked by athf78 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If I were to give my girlfriend/fiancee an engagement ring, and later we were not to get married. Should she return the ring?? At this time I am the only guy being viciously attacked by females saying that the ring is theirs for services rendered.

2006-12-03 17:36:23 · 5 answers · asked by Frank R 7 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-03 17:34:26 · 15 answers · asked by Jamie C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just got married a couple of months ago to this girl that I had a huge crush when we were young. One time I was reminiscing about my past through a series of photos when I was in grade school & I saw her name pop up to one of those yahoo groups. I made the first step by emailing her & the rest went on. We started chatting over yahoo & after a month we decided to have an online relationship. We treated that relationship like a normal one with whole honesty. But after a month I decided to fly over to the States to spend sometime with her then come back home to NZ. She suggested for me to just find work there & so I did cos it is a good idea rather than have a long distance one. After staying here with her for a good 4 months she suggested for us to get married so that I don't have to go back home & then retracted from it. It felt like she was playing games but in the end she pushed through with it. Now every fight gets worse & up to the point that she started hitting me. HELP!

2006-12-03 17:33:01 · 24 answers · asked by Macky 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-03 17:32:21 · 7 answers · asked by hhavaid 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-03 17:31:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-12-03 17:31:33 · 7 answers · asked by Purple Ninja 3 in Singles & Dating

There is a rising issue now in the media which depicts ladies first being forced or held down by a man seeking to have sex with her. first she is shown as very defiant but is then shown enjoying intercourse with him...is this a wrong message being sent out? do you think this is influencing the relationships in this present day? is it ok for the movies to show this? do women end up screaming out for pleasure in real life after being held down without her permission?

2006-12-03 17:28:38 · 27 answers · asked by kisha D 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay so my husband has been talking to this girl from high school he had a crush on...He has told me and is not keeping it from me. She on the other hand has been very flirtatious and she is married she always makes remarks about if he is happy and several times he has answerd yes. She admits to being flirty and my husband doesn't mind? Is she trying to steal him from me because she is unhappy? Remember my hubby is telling me this and i have seen the emails. I just don't trust her..

2006-12-03 17:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by speedy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't know what to do and I know it's terrible but I hate my mother. I really do hate her and I can't believe she's my mother. I know she gave birth to me but that's all I have to thank her for because she doesn't know how to be someone's mother and never acts like one. She's always been a two-faced, selfish b i t c h who lies and steals and I'm really ashamed of her. She never makes sacrifices for anybody not even her kids and only thinks about herself. I just can't stand her any longer sometimes I just wish she was dead. I know I'll probably go straight to hell for saying this but you don't know what it's like to live with someone like her. She's a psycho b i t c h who used to abuse me physically and mentally when I was little but not anymore. Now that I'm older she can't hurt me anymore but I just feel so disgusted knowing that a part of me came from her.

2006-12-03 17:27:36 · 13 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family

and what about when she says she's not?

2006-12-03 17:26:06 · 8 answers · asked by srf 2 in Singles & Dating

Sexaul, perferably!

2006-12-03 17:25:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my girl broke up... ok cool... yesterday she calls crying about us not being together and stuff like that... then today i get a email inviting me to a myspace page. it is her new boyfriend.. So I call her and ask her why in the hell she would do that... she was with him by the way... and she said that it was not her boyfriend... swore up and down it wasnt her boyfriend. but his whole page is dedicated to her. She said it was her that sent me the invite but she tried to undue it.... she said she was just trying to find out if I had a myspace page. So why is she playing the game? I mean I would never tell a person that I didnt have a man infront of them... I hurt so bad. WE had been together for like 3 years... and this happens..... I sent her a text saying that all I want her to do is be honest and stop playing games... I told her I deserve the truth.. she said she is going to call me later.... but I am pissed.. what should i do

2006-12-03 17:25:27 · 5 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Singles & Dating

It is unreal, she is acting like a little child. I have tried all kinds of things, pretending its a jet needing to unload its cargo, pretending its a flying bird trying to feed the young in its nest, but its still no use, my girlfriend will not swallow her cough syrup. i really want her to feel better. How do I get her to do this?

2006-12-03 17:25:18 · 18 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Singles & Dating

Do you think he liked me, likes me or is not in to me?
well we are practically strangers from each other, he was my classmate for about two semesters, one time we sat together and i dont know we just started conversing and he told me about his life, we talked for about 45 mins.weird thing is there was a rally going on and we where talking about something else , like society and rebellion,
we text each other once in a while, and talk about life in general, he once told me im the only one who makes sense when texting him, i told him i had a crush on his friend and he was saying ok fine, and then he just thinks im texting him to get to know the other guy, when in fact i text him because i treasure the friendship we have started
now im too shy to even see him at the hallway, i cant even talk to him, because i know i seriously have developed something else for him, what am i really feeling, im too shy to look at his eyes, too shy to talk to him , i text him, we text each other but in person i cant do it.

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2006-12-03 17:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I had a very good male friend I used to work with. We used to spend a lot of time together and everyone knew we had feelings, we just never acted on it. A few months into us hanging out, I got back with my boyfriend. I decided I would tell my friend upfront, so as not to lead him on and to be honest. At first he was fine with it, but later in the night he said "Well, what if i was to say lets us start dating?" and I told a huge lie- regardless of my feelings I told him I wouldnt date him. I could tell it hurt him- the look on his face I will NEVER forget it. Things changed after that. We spent some time together but not as much and he ended up spending time with someone else, another girl. I know he was doing it at first to make me jealous, but i believe he is still with this girl today. He left work over a year ago and it's been a year since we've chatted. Last time we hung out he simply told me he'd "moved on" but I miss our friendship. Should I contact him again? We were very close.

2006-12-03 17:24:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I cant resist the emotions I get every time I think about my girl.It's gotten so serious that I cant even concentrate on my Job. I need physical, mental, spiritual, psycological and even emtional help, if I can get any.

2006-12-03 17:24:02 · 7 answers · asked by Danny 1 in Singles & Dating

If you really loved him but knew he was poor and it would be rough, would you still marry him?

2006-12-03 17:23:46 · 31 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Singles & Dating

OK, I keep thinking about my ex-boyfriend & I feel so angry even though it's been over since 8 months ago. He was my first bf and kiss, & even though it never went past kissing (cuz I'm saving myself for marriage), I still got hurt. He made it seem like he could commit & he said all these sweet lies & he didn't mind about the no-sex thing. But after only a month he left saying "he's busy". I get angry sometimes. I know a few girls who are REALLy ugly, I mean dog-ugly & their bfs treat them so well & are committed. I'm not saying that I'm the best but lots of guys hit on me & say I'm beautiful, and yet I can't find a great guy. How can I not get angry, is there anything to help that?
I'm just really mad at the world today. One girl, the really ugly one said that her bf stayed up all night with her to help her w/ her essay & that he buys her gifts all the time. All I got was lies & heartache from my ex.
I was very sweet, caring and thoughtful to him but I feel like he cuz of no sex.

2006-12-03 17:22:04 · 10 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm in the middle of reading this book Diary of a mad Bride by Laura Wolf.
So the girl in the book has been asked by her bf if she would marry him,she says "yes" he pulls out the ring.She isnt to happy with the ring (but doesnt let on)...Its not a Diamond,its an Emerald.
And her Mother & Grandma have now,pages later in the book pointed out that ALL engagement rings should have a Diamond,and not Emerald...For what ever reasons.

Now my big Q has any women out there ever been given an engagement ring, by her Hubby to be and has hated it,thinking it was ugly and wasnt what she would have liked?And if so did you still wear it and do you still wear it?Or better still how do you tell the love of your life,you hate his taste of jewelry.

2006-12-03 17:21:12 · 13 answers · asked by Porcelain Doll 6 in Weddings

ya know, for no particular reason.

2006-12-03 17:21:03 · 18 answers · asked by lenny 1 in Singles & Dating