What if he gets it WRONG!!!!!!!?

Question

I'm in the middle of reading this book Diary of a mad Bride by Laura Wolf.
So the girl in the book has been asked by her bf if she would marry him,she says "yes" he pulls out the ring.She isnt to happy with the ring (but doesnt let on)...Its not a Diamond,its an Emerald.
And her Mother & Grandma have now,pages later in the book pointed out that ALL engagement rings should have a Diamond,and not Emerald...For what ever reasons.

Now my big Q has any women out there ever been given an engagement ring, by her Hubby to be and has hated it,thinking it was ugly and wasnt what she would have liked?And if so did you still wear it and do you still wear it?Or better still how do you tell the love of your life,you hate his taste of jewelry.

OMG...i didnt say its me that doesnt like the ring.Its the character in the book i'm reading....lol
married and LOVE my rings.

Answer 1

First, it might interest you to know that the ONLY reason diamonds are considered necessary for engagement rings is because of a huge marketing campaign done by De Beers (diamond mining company) in the 1920s. This was a subtle, long, and extremely effective marketing strategy that included strategic placement in movies (you know how everyone loves to copy the movies). Prior to this marketing campaign, engagement rings were of any type.

By the way, it was also De Beers who started the idea that an engagement ring should cost two months salary. Ever see the commercials that say "A diamond is forever" or "How else can two months salary last forever"? Those commercials are not sponsored by any jeweler; they are sponsored by De Beers, who distribute to every jeweler.

Second, I am a firm believer that what matters is that the groom-to-be wants to marry his girlfriend. The gift of the engagement ring means so much more than the type of ring. I think that the character in your book cares way too much about the materialistic value of the ring, and not enough about what it stands for. I would question whether she loves this guy enough to marry him.

Answer 2

I read some where that men are proposing with plastic rings from those coin machines ,then when the women says yes they go shopping for a ring together so she gets exactly what she wants ,Sounds like a good idea.

I was a lucky one my ring was hand made exactly to my specifications ,may man proposed to me in bed LOL really on the spur of the moment when we were 21 I got my ring a couple years after that ,yes long wait I know but worth it at least I got quality, Now 14 yrs later I still cherish my man and my ring.

Answer 3

I've talked to a couple different girls privately from Yahoo Answers because of this very thing.

A reason I suggest a fella take the girl after he calls the jeweler to pull the rings in his price range. If he decides not to take the girl, he'd better make sure they have an exchange policy. And to not take the returning of the ring personal. Tastes vary & this is something she will be wearing for the rest of her life.

Answer 4

I thought about this after being with my boyfriend for many years. Finally, I told him straight out "Don't try to pick out my engagement ring! I'm a little picky and after all, I'll be wearing it for the rest of my life". Well, two weeks ago, he surprised me by taking me to the jewelery store and saying "Go ahead and pick it out, but I'll be surprising you by proposing when you might not expect it". So, we bought the ring and he has it locked in a safe. I'm sooooo happy with things this way. I'm hoping it's my Christmas present! This way, I picked out exactly what I wanted and he still gets to surprise me. Oh, by the way, it's three diamonds. They are, after all, a girl's best friend!

Answer 5

in his mind that was the ring for you, but to you he could do better. i think that he really thought that was the ring for you. even if you don't like it just ride it out. it might make him feel bad if you say something about it. you might do things or get him things that he might not like but will never tell you he doesn't like it. think about how u will feel if someone told u that the engagement ring u got them looked ugly and then think how they might feel. you should think more of your life together and not of the ring.

Answer 6

My friend got a Pearl ring on her engagement and her family told her that a Pearl is like a tear and that she will have lots of tears in her relationship - it was true as she split not long after

Answer 7

Always comunicate clearly in a relationship, use respect for one anothers emotions and needs when talking about touchy topics. In the end it is usually a hard road but one worth walking.

Answer 8

my engagement ring is EXACTLY what i wanted b/c my fiance knows me and we communicate. He knew what i wanted long before i knew he would propose and i ADORE my ring!!

Answer 9

nope the engagement ring i have is just perfect for me

Answer 10

its a wddfing ring, its the thought that counts