OK, I keep thinking about my ex-boyfriend & I feel so angry even though it's been over since 8 months ago. He was my first bf and kiss, & even though it never went past kissing (cuz I'm saving myself for marriage), I still got hurt. He made it seem like he could commit & he said all these sweet lies & he didn't mind about the no-sex thing. But after only a month he left saying "he's busy". I get angry sometimes. I know a few girls who are REALLy ugly, I mean dog-ugly & their bfs treat them so well & are committed. I'm not saying that I'm the best but lots of guys hit on me & say I'm beautiful, and yet I can't find a great guy. How can I not get angry, is there anything to help that?
I'm just really mad at the world today. One girl, the really ugly one said that her bf stayed up all night with her to help her w/ her essay & that he buys her gifts all the time. All I got was lies & heartache from my ex.
I was very sweet, caring and thoughtful to him but I feel like he cuz of no sex.
2006-12-03 17:22:04 · 10 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And these ugly girls that I know, aren't even that nice or sweet, so I dunno why they have such great boyfriends who commit to them and treat them sooo well. I just don't know why I can't find great guys who don't just wanna get in my pants.
2006-12-03 17:22:56 · update #1
First of all good for you that you are saving yourself for marriage!!! Stay strong with that. Secondly if your ex was such a liar than be happy that you are not with him anymore. Its more of a blessing in disguise. I feel like I can relate with you in a way because I always seem to get the terds and everyone says im beautiful and everything. I used to wondering why I couldn't find somone good then. Then I learned that looks are only skin deep and only bring you so far, not saying you are a bad person at all!! But a guy will only treat you as well as you let him. Whether if you are good looking not so good looking. Maybe he said he was ok with the sex thing but he really isn't. Thats ok though becuase now you know. Just don't put up with crap and don't feel that you have to give up your virginity in fear that no one will accept you waiting till marriage. There is a special guy out there for you but maybe you have to learn a few things along the way through others before you meet that special somone. Don't get angry just be happy you are not with him anymore. You seem like a really nice girl but don't be too nice. You can be sweet, caring and thoughtful but DON'T put the guy higher than you. Stand your ground on things and don't let anyone push you over. Don't change who you are just know one day you will find a guy that will rock your world and you will do the same for him!! Take care!!
2006-12-03 17:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the issue as being one of looks although men are more focused on looks than on emotions. I feel your anger. You are a very feeling and nurturing person and you feel like you feelings have just been trampled. My heart goes out to you.
It is impossible to know what unevolved men are motivated by, but it certainly is not the welfare of a woman they are with. The sex aspect may have played a larger role than he told you. I think you have to be a little more thoughtful about the guys you meet. Find out if you can what makes them tick. Protect yourself. Develop a defense system, but don't make it impregnable.
None of the woman I grew up with were saving their bodies (i.e.g sex) for marriage. I can respect such a decision on your part, but unfortunately guys want their girlfriends to be open to sex. Not all, just some.
You have qualities that I would look for in a woman. The first boyfriend and the first kiss is electric and can short-circuit your brain. I hope all goes well for you/
2006-12-04 01:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in a relationship is comes down to comprimise and needs. You have needs and wants in a relationship. So do guys. you can deffinantlyu bet that with any guy, (even the guy to marry) will have a need for sex. Sex is a part of humanity. Now don't get me wrong, you can save yourself all you want and there is nothing wrong with that. However, you r position on sex is very hard ruled when it cometo guys dealing with it. So you are going to have to understand if guys are detered from you. Guys are programed natually for sex. Just remember, the guys that is willing to meet you on your terms will be very hard to find but in the end will be worth waiting for.
2006-12-04 01:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i'm not a guy, but i first need to say that relationships iaren't always just about looks, and if you think that, then your knowledge is somewhat skewed. i can't find your question in the above story, but your boyfriend may just have been a jerk, and it might not've had anything to do with the sex. it's hard to forget yur first bf, but a second will eventually follow. so start focusing on that positive idea , and try to use them to forget about your ex.
2006-12-04 01:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Vae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the way someone treats u doesn't necesarilly have to do with ur looks, but if u show in the way u act that u think u look so good (ur name is Hottie...), then that's all guys r gonna think about to, and all theyre gonna want is sex, but if that's not y it really could have nothing to do wth u and just was something wrong with ur bf's personality, so dont worry about it and move on
2006-12-04 01:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by johnstockton 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe be a little less self centered, and clingy. You've gotta look around and stop comparing what you've got to what everyone else has, over thinking the situation is most females downfall, just have fun with it.
2006-12-04 01:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jokester 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the problem. You are stuck on yourself. Ask yourself if you were willing to stay up all night with someone just to help them get through their homework.
2006-12-04 01:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by khanofali 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
men not only attracted to a girl because of her beauty, but also personality and many other things. yeh...he could have left you because of no sex with you...so what, that's your choice. move on..please
2006-12-04 01:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by FairGround 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All guys are like that, they wana have u and if u dont allow them they go to others to satisfy themselves, coz there r gals who r ready to do anything for good guys.
2006-12-04 01:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by g_hnst 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no....but then again it could be yes depending on the delivery
2006-12-04 01:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋