Family & Relationships - 6 November 2006

Well I am single and often times feel depressed, one way out I got is porn. But porn is considered wrong when you are a married man it causes problems and stuff. But what about if I am not married? I mean I couldn't find ms.right, and I don't want to endulge myself in the dating drama world.
Plus ,don't suggest church activities, because I live in a small country town and I am a foreginer from Africa, so no one wants me around, I mean they won't tell me to go but still I can feel the unwantingness.
Any ideas as to why I can't atleast get over my boredom and loneliness with porn?

2006-11-06 16:22:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What does it mean, when u r in this relationship and r still thinking about ur ex? Ive been with this guy for over a year, but i still cant stop thinking about my ex. Its been a while since me and my ex have been 2gether but i cant stop thinking about him. My current bf is really nice guy and he loves me a lot, but i keep having these dreams about my ex that i cant explain. i am very much so happy with my bf but plz help why do i still keep thinking about my EX

2006-11-06 16:21:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this

hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .

so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?

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34 minutes ago
and then she just sent this message to him today


"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"

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21 minutes ago
i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it

2006-11-06 16:20:33 · 3 answers · asked by lbsb2904 1 in Singles & Dating

you were awakened by your girl having started without you?
I have a fantasy about waking my man up slowly, but I don't want to surprise him too much. What do you say?

2006-11-06 16:19:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I try really hard but he never wants to do it with me, he hasn't intiated our entire marriage.It just never comes to his head to do it, he lusts after women that look nothing like me.He doesn't even notice if I wear longerie, and tells me not to give him a strip tease, he isn't interested, but he does like the stripper bars, just not me, I am 5'3 120 pounds, blonde and pretty, he doesn't want to talk to me our entire decade of marriage, he always says I am too tired, he doesn't notice I am in the room, I am only a chore to him, but he says he loves me, how come it feels like he doesn't love me?

2006-11-06 16:18:39 · 33 answers · asked by kiss me under the mistletoe 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-06 16:16:24 · 19 answers · asked by Timmy Mic 1 in Singles & Dating

What makes a man, become a man?and what make a women,become a woman?

2006-11-06 16:16:10 · 6 answers · asked by brad_boy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

So i've been with this guy off and on for 5 years. We have two kids one is just 4 months old. I love him very much but i recently found a profile of him on a singles site. It was made the month I was dueHe tried lying first until i convinced him i would have to be a mushroom to eat this bull chit. He says he was just looking and wqas worried we would break up again. We broke shortly after the birth of my first. i have a hard time trusting anything now and am so hurt that I keep bringing it up. He says he loves me and wants to get married and I love him. I know I'm still good looking, I went out the other night and got hit on hordes, we have sex 4-5 times a week so it's not htat he wasn't getting any. What should I do? How can rebuild the trust?

2006-11-06 16:16:08 · 5 answers · asked by krissy 5 in Singles & Dating

I cry alot,My sister and I joined a Church after our Mother died,05... eight months later my sister died. Since then I've gained a trimendous amount of weight, I have no friends, or family left that can take their place. I am married and have kids, but they don't understand. My Sister has kids, and they act like they hate me since my sister died...I didn't give them a chance to plan their Mom's funeral, I did it on my own, and now I regret it, but at the time, they couldn't afford it, and I was just trying to show them respect and love. Doing so I made enemies of my neices/nephews. I also have my sister's mentally handicapped daughter, she is 36, and is like 3...I am 54 and I am wearing down in my health because of my obessity...I have pains where I never had them before. I find it hard to do anything because of my weight. I don't work now because it is hard to do anything when you are taking care of a handicap person that depends on you for everything/plus my weight doesn't help me.

2006-11-06 16:15:32 · 4 answers · asked by Sheelalake 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

There's just no way to explain it...i just love him...so confused with things and people pulling me back

2006-11-06 16:14:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Apparantly I heard through the grape vine, that my husband and his ex-wife had a more interesting sex life than me and him now. the marriage ended in divorce cuz she cheated I am trying to make ours more exciting by using more sex toys. Well he told me he used alot of them and their fun. but to me why bother if he already did all that crap with her????

2006-11-06 16:13:32 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-06 16:12:56 · 29 answers · asked by nishnoush 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I think the world would be a better place if people actually said that with feeling. We hear it all the time, many of us say it our self, but only cuz we have to. Well this time I mean it. How may I help you? If there is any way I can help you I will try my best to do so (so long as it's legal). I'm a good listener, and I'm very willing to listen to your problems, and try my best to give you good advice.So please, how may I help you? :)

2006-11-06 16:11:28 · 10 answers · asked by Devon M 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

i love this guy and he loves me as a friend.
he says we dont click but things might change over time they MIGHT.
should i wait and see if our love becomes true or should i bring myself to letting go of him??
i know him and i are ment for each other he is my first love and i dont ever want to lose him, life truly doesnt feel right without him buy my side in this world.
please i need as many answers as i can get only good ones though.

2006-11-06 16:11:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

okay people, I have a huge test tommorrow, I haven't really studied, I still have to take a shower, yet I am online at yahoo questions answering and asking questions, I don't really want to go to bed because it is empty, and I wish I had someone to cuddle with, it has been two years for crying outloud, but why am i still on this computer? What is wrong with me? Please help

2006-11-06 16:11:11 · 10 answers · asked by heynow 2 in Singles & Dating

Ten points to the answerer who gets both right.

2006-11-06 16:10:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i think i still love my ex boyfriend . what should i do ?

2006-11-06 16:10:10 · 15 answers · asked by jen 2 in Singles & Dating

Can you give your heart to one person

2006-11-06 16:10:08 · 9 answers · asked by soundlady 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

As she is in love. She n her all relatives means my boyfrnds relative want him to marry her but we love each other very truly. she is telling if my boyfrnd doesn’t marry her she will commit suicide n her mom is also. His parents are against our love bcoz of her this attitude. Wat to do already my parents are searching a guy for me. How can I explain her that we are in love. Bcoz of my love if she die’s then how can I call I got victory in my love life. And I m not sure whether she is aware of our love or not. Shall I talk to her or wat can I do other than that. any better solutions my frnds

2006-11-06 16:09:13 · 17 answers · asked by Janu 2 in Family

he came here to CA over the summer, and it turned to puppy love. Sadly, when he had to leave in august, it kinda stopped. We called eachother, but it wasn't the same. then my mom found out about the almost innecent letters i was writing, and the long conversations, way into the early morning. soon she also found out that he had spent the night with me at a friends house, and all we did was share a sleeping bag, that was it. but my mom didn't believe me so she made me get all of these tests done, and had the police come to his school (in Flordia, he lives there during the school year) and mine to find out what happened, when i had already told her that nothing did. Soon i had to break it off, but i just wanted it to be a loose relationship... but before i had the chance to discuss that with him, he told me that he already had a GF, and that he didn't care, after just 4 days ago he had told me that he loved me after 2 mnths of going out.Its been 4 months since then.i still care4him

2006-11-06 16:08:49 · 6 answers · asked by miss miserable 1 in Singles & Dating

THe question is Childish but if u analyse there is a big reason behind that ..That is TRUST.People are talking and communicate with them whom they know ..they never try to communicate who are unknown to them ..as all are of generous in nature ..I want the close freind who can get my point .

2006-11-06 16:07:23 · 2 answers · asked by Meghal 1 in Singles & Dating

The reason why my gf doesnt like seeing me masterbate, is because (and ive spoken to her and my friends) it is an insult to her(which i have kinda come to accept), that Id prefer having sex without her when i need it. But the crazy thing is that she is not desperate for sex unless her period comes. So she can go for a whole month with no sex with no problem! She wouldnt mind having sex every few days but she doesnt feel the urge, unless i jump on her and very often her friend sleeps over on the floor and we have the bed. She has also told me that she wishes that her friend would sleep in her own apartment, coz she know i enjoy making love to her and that my sex drive is high.

Is it true that the more you masterbate, the longer you can last in bed? Is stress attributed to shorter periods? Sometimes i can only last for 5 minutes but then my gf prefers only me to orgasm coz she feels no need. And then i can go all by myself for 1 hour no problem and make her orgasm twice! Advice plz!!

2006-11-06 16:06:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-06 16:06:25 · 16 answers · asked by dandelion_dnd 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

How????????? There is this very nice looking, sweet female that works at the local restaurant by my house, she works at Chili's and she is a waitress, Im wondering how to get her name I never see her when I go in there, I only seen her once, and it was truly love at first sight, so I really need help from the ladies, how would you advise a guy to find her name out, then I need to figure the best way to approach her, because she is very busy at a popular restaurant, always on the go, I wish I could catch her and pull her to the side and just tell her how much Im into her!!!!!

2006-11-06 16:06:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a massive crush on an older guy at work. We're working on a project together and have been spending time during meetings, etc. I'm really not totally sure why I'm attracted to him - he's at least 15 years older than me (I'm 31). But he's got a great body, tons of energy and is a really fun person to be around. He's happily married with kids, as am I. I don't actually expect or want anything to come of this, but at the same time I find I can't stop thinking about him. Lots of sexual fantasies in my head. In reality, we have a good working relationship, though I think he has picked up on my flirting from time to time (he's a VP in the organization - pretty bright guy). Has anyone else dealt with a similiar situation and how? I'm so full of energy off of this - I don't know what to do with all my energy and emotion. I'm starting to think I need to use thoughts of him as my "muse" to accomplish other things...otherwise I'm going to get myself in trouble!!!

2006-11-06 16:06:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This is quite long but brace yourselves if you wanna get 10 points. Well, I was friends with this boy since 3rd grade and we started to like each other out of nowhere but we never really told each other we did-it was kinda like this "silent relationship" i like to call it. So we were cool and all and I felt it and I guess he felt it too-besides it's your first love I mean~come on! So we had a lot in common and all and 7th grade came along~well, the FIRST day of school he asked me, "Do you have this class?" because we were 7th graders and we were new to the school. Anyways I told him "No" but now I SOOOOOO wish I had that class with him because then we could've walked there together and asked each other how summer was and how nervous or excited we are of starting middle school-but no, it didn't work out that way.

2006-11-06 16:05:58 · 4 answers · asked by Allahu Akbar 2 in Singles & Dating

This is if you are married. I mean just to be nosey and see if they are successful, or a loser or ???
Additionally have you done this?

2006-11-06 16:02:58 · 17 answers · asked by designsbyniki 2 in Marriage & Divorce

she thinks i'm wierd and never wants to hang out wit me again

2006-11-06 16:02:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I need opinions to whether I'm being fair or not on my girlfriend.

In short, the situation is that we're both 20, together for a bit over a year and a half, used to be long distance (1.5 hour drive) until this July. At that point, I finished a training course for my career and moved to her town to pursue it there temporarily and allow us to advance and move on together.

Before I moved I was very active, had friends, sport, volunteering commitments and kept really busy. After I moved though it seemed that she now controls my life - she gets upset and annoyed whenever I just want to go out - and since July I have barely seen friends, family or anyone. Plus I've had to give up and trim down extras like sport to keep her happy with me staying at home - because staying at home (and watching her choice of TV or doing what SHE wants) is what she expects of me. That...was ok with me for a while -but I need my life back and when I started to try for that - she got mad at me.Am I unfair?

2006-11-06 16:01:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you find it intimidating when a woman initiates her seductive intentions?
Nine times out of ten when I initiate sex with my husband, he starts to act nervous. He has told me that when I'm in the mood to let him know but when I do he acts strange. I don't know if he's uncomfortable about my taking the initiative but it always leads to an awkward moment where I usually end up apologizing for bothering him and leaving the room.
If you don't like your woman to play the dominate role, what are some suggestions on letting him know without making a fool out of myself?

2006-11-06 16:01:35 · 15 answers · asked by princessslave 2 in Marriage & Divorce