I have a massive crush on an older guy at work. We're working on a project together and have been spending time during meetings, etc. I'm really not totally sure why I'm attracted to him - he's at least 15 years older than me (I'm 31). But he's got a great body, tons of energy and is a really fun person to be around. He's happily married with kids, as am I. I don't actually expect or want anything to come of this, but at the same time I find I can't stop thinking about him. Lots of sexual fantasies in my head. In reality, we have a good working relationship, though I think he has picked up on my flirting from time to time (he's a VP in the organization - pretty bright guy). Has anyone else dealt with a similiar situation and how? I'm so full of energy off of this - I don't know what to do with all my energy and emotion. I'm starting to think I need to use thoughts of him as my "muse" to accomplish other things...otherwise I'm going to get myself in trouble!!!
2006-11-06 16:06:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just keep it a fantasy and don't act on it. If anything, use that energy as a motivating factor to accomplish something at work. Just remember that he's happily married and u are married as well.
2006-11-06 16:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I'm going to get myself in trouble!!!"
Yes, you are...and a whole lot of other people are going to suffer for it, too.
Crushes happen all the time. I've had lots of crushes on female co-workers and some of them were very powerful and even reciprocal. But, I never acted on them. I always remembered that if I did, I would not only be unfaithful to my wife, but also to my children.
I suggest that you get your wedding pictures out and review what is really important in life. When you get home in the evening and tuck your kids into bed, look into their little faces and ask yourself how you would explain your infidelity to them.
Another observation. Someday, your sex drive will diminish. If you give into these crushes now, you will have the rest of your life regreting what you did and how foolish you were to follow lustful urges rather than honorable priorities and commitments.
Take that "energy" your working up during the day and spend it on your husband. That's where it belongs.
2006-11-06 17:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like your only physically attracted to this guy. spend quality with your man in the house and the kids - they are your real inspiration and energy.
2006-11-06 16:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by tagaCEBU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your husband had the same feelings for a woman at work? I would get dizzy and sick to my stomach had I known this about my spouse. Control your emotions. Look at it as a test of your loyalty to your husband and children.
2006-11-06 16:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be careful. i once was in a sI'milar situation before. and im glad that i didn't go any further and i was all mixed up at the time. . keep it fantasy and fun.
2006-11-06 16:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by entrknmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,crushes are just that, do not act upon it, have your little fantasy and keep it fun and light in your head, please DO NOT embarrass yourself with trying to take it further, that would a car crash waiting to happen and could spoil your good working relationship
peace and good luck
2006-11-06 16:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
mmm sounds familiar...happened to me but I keep it under control cos we both are married..! but it is sickening when you spend time with the guy with a strong sexual tension, its frustrating that u cant have it!!!
2006-11-06 16:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work this just right, you can get him to monkey with you without getting you pregnant, then you can sue the company for sexual harassment while you're breaking up his family!
You go girl.
2006-11-06 16:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Untill it does not affect your personal life u enjoy.
2006-11-06 16:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by zenega p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you gonna get yourself in trouble! stay with yur fanticies. they're much better than the real thing. believe me. use your fanticies when you're with your hubby.
2006-11-06 16:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋