Apparantly I heard through the grape vine, that my husband and his ex-wife had a more interesting sex life than me and him now. the marriage ended in divorce cuz she cheated I am trying to make ours more exciting by using more sex toys. Well he told me he used alot of them and their fun. but to me why bother if he already did all that crap with her????
2006-11-06 16:13:32 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not everything tied to sex is in the bedroom, try putting notes in his car as to what you want to do to when he returns from work, try holding onto him as teenagers when walking with him, do what you haven't been doing and if it makes you feel like a Young girl trying to entices a new boyfriend to notice you then you found it. try red underwear, of for the hunter, camo type too. you are his wife and you shouldn't be thinking that you need to change anything about your marriage with him unless it's what the two of you want. keep the love flowing and you'll not need the need to think of anything but of the happiness the two of you will have together. have fun with every new day in your marriage.
2006-11-06 16:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe there alot of other ways to satify your man without toys thats for sure. Now if yall both freaky go shopping online and see what you come up on there if he totally happy with yalls sex life. I think that if he remarried the past would be the past and 2nd of all i wouldnt want ot be with somebody that would have even made a comment that totally disprects in every way, what other kind of **** has he said behind your back that you done about, good luck but i know if you dig deep you can beat the x-wife in the sex department be creative
2006-11-07 00:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought but their sex life was probably just that--just sex. He is with you now so make sex all about making love. you can still use toys and the sex furniture like on liberator.com to make it all the more special for what you like and what he likes. Leave the ex out of the bedroom or there won't be any action in the bedroom. And by all means stop comparing his life with her to his life with you--sex life or otherwise! If their life was so wonderful it wouldn't have ended in divorce because she sought sex from someone else. Leave the ex out of the equation of your marriage with him.
2006-11-07 00:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are rating your marriage based on the grapevine, you've got a lot more problems than deciding how many plastic gizmos trumps the ex-wife's toy store.
This is all going to get old real fast. After the toy fest, what's going to keep this relationship together? I sure hope there is more to it.
You answered your own question: "why bother?"
2006-11-07 00:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because her crap could be your paradise for your marriage. The first thing you want to take out of your mind is thoughts of his past sex life. Who told you it was more exciting? Who the heck is the grapevine? If it was him who said it, then he deserves to spend time with his 5 sisters called his left hand!!! If it was someone else, don't ever let someone enter your bedroom. What you and him decide to do and what is exciting for the BOTH of you, is strictly your business. People who talk about the bedroom outside of the bedroom are usually those who spend countless nights inside their bedrooms ALONE!
2006-11-07 01:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by elmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, There are tons of different toys out there...just go for it...It is a lot of fun...you already know he's had sex with other women, I don't that should have anything to do with you and him...They are ton's of fun and I guarantee you, you will not regret it...It will make the 2 of you closer to each other...go for it all the way!!
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2006-11-07 00:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by YourGSpot.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm..I am husbands second wife (and last if I have my way..lol) I never think about the ex and there sexual relationship..cause I bet that I can do anything 10 times better than she could.
If your husband is comparing your to her..that is just plain wrong..he should never bring that up EVER.. besides who is this grapevine anyway..I dont trust people..some like to make waves.
Get confidence..He married you and they are divorce..YOU are with him and he WANTS you..so you need to put that in prespective..
I would also suggest talking to him about likes and dislikes of sex..ask him what games he likes to play..lol
discover with him, do not base it on his past..
2006-11-07 01:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to compete with an ex? You have him now, so who cares about the past. Stop the competition, you are really only hurting yourself. You should do what you both enjoy. Think of it as he used her to find out what he likes and what will likely feel good for you. You don't have to do what ever they did. Do what you like.
2006-11-07 00:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself short! He may have experienced things with his ex, but you're not her. You each feel different and do things differently. There are many different types of toys and gadgets, I doubt he's tried them all. Experiment and pay strict attention to what he responds positively to. Work and build on that.
Focus on your sex life and not theirs or it will only drive you crazy!
2006-11-07 00:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by princessslave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres the thing that most woman dont understand about guys, most guys would really like there woman to be more of a whore in the bedroom, alot of woman feel ashamed and wont try new things or freaky things, you should try things once or twice maybe you will like it and just let loose and what ever happens let it, talk dirty to him he will like that but mean it when you say it...really good sex will help keep him faithful
2006-11-07 13:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by joeysstamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋