Family & Relationships - 5 November 2006

I'm a 44 year old divorced mother (I have full custody of my son).
I separated from my ex when I was 40.

Since then, especially lately, I am literally the only woman I know among friends, family, co-workers, casual acquaintences, my son's friends' parents, etc. who is freakin single. I never seem to meet anyone to even date! I'm either working or raising my son--I'm BUSY.

I'm good looking and sociable. I was a dating-maniac before I met my ex-husband.

I literally am starting to feel like a freak. Why am I apparently the only woman who isn't "with" someone. I cannot believe all these people have something I don't.

I'm really not a freak, people like me...but where in the blue he!! do these women find someone and never spend ANY time by themselves (the unmarried ones who are NOT alone).

I cannot tell you people how badly I miss sex either.

I suppose I already know my answer, deep down, I just need to vent. I'm lonely and frustrated and starting to hate "couples."

2006-11-05 15:21:38 · 11 answers · asked by cinderella 2 in Singles & Dating

My current boyfriend, who is also my ex, because we've been dating off and on for about 3 years, dated my sister over the summer. They were having problems and always fighting. I was ticked at my sister because he was MY ex. so to get back at her, I messed around with him and now were together. He's moving away, and he's worried about ME cheating. You know the saying, "If he cheated with you, he'll probably cheat on you"? Well, he SWEARS he wouldn't do that intentionally but he think I won't be faithful. I've nevr cheated on any of my ex's before. Who should really be the one worrying??

2006-11-05 15:20:46 · 5 answers · asked by Grey 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-05 15:19:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What does a successful marriage mean to you?

2006-11-05 15:19:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I need advice on a situation that is upsetting me. I am engaged to a man who is in the army and was in Iraq for a year before we met. While he was there, he had a relationship with an engaged woman. After they came back to the U.S., she broke off the relationship and married her fiance. He tells me that he is over her and that I am the only woman in his life and that he's never loved anyone more than me. However, I recently came across one of his emails that told her that he had a dream about her and that she had set higher standards for him in meeting women and that he would rather be single than be with someone who was not appropriate for him and now he has met someone (meaning me). He wrote to her that I was a lot of things she was not, but that I wasn't a lot of things she was. I know that snooping in his email was wrong but I confronted him about it and he said that he was telling her that he was moving on and realizes that it was wrong to send it. Am I over-reacting?

2006-11-05 15:18:24 · 12 answers · asked by applecider 2 in Singles & Dating

We just got a new puppy and she is wonderful. I want a name that is like her. On the other hand she is busy,mischeivious and still not house trained.lol

2006-11-05 15:18:23 · 4 answers · asked by J J 2 in Singles & Dating

I found out that her boyfriend was walking around a high school with a rose on his hand while my friend was in her college campus.should I tell her.

2006-11-05 15:18:09 · 22 answers · asked by chevy_arenivas 2 in Friends

I have heard from many black guys that they will not date a black woman and I'm just wondering why?

2006-11-05 15:17:38 · 12 answers · asked by Nikki A 1 in Singles & Dating

pkmthers this one guy who i only see in the hallways(we dont have classes together) and i can always see him looking at me from the corner of my eye and one time i was passing and he started singing
i kind have a crush on him]
but doo you think he likes me?

2006-11-05 15:17:23 · 8 answers · asked by Italyfan 4 in Singles & Dating

i'm not looking for a relationship.imjust going through alot and im tired of always having to deal with negative **** all the time. and sorry girls but, this time i need to speak to a guy. i dont know why. maybe its a deep down to earth intellectual. someone who cares about themselves and others . someone who needs to break free from all this sphycho babble and have a truely meaning ful conversation. someone who can be openminded enought to talk about dark and light things. do you need more?skysmama77@yahoo.com

2006-11-05 15:16:44 · 2 answers · asked by solas lethe 3 in Friends

Basically, I need help writing a script for a short film that I am going to be shooting soon.

Part of it calls for a high school student, who is a drug addict, to do something while being high that would make his girlfriend break up with him.

Breaking up with him just for doing drugs WILL NOT cut it, cause that doesn't make for good entertainment - some sort of an event has to push the girl to the point that she breaks up with him.

I asked this question before, but i got some f-ed up answers. I want to keep the film borderline pg-13, so please no rape or especially gay sex.

2006-11-05 15:16:39 · 10 answers · asked by Ilya 4 in Singles & Dating

I went on this great date with a guy and when he dropped me off he says. See you later. I really want to see him again, but I don't want to be aggressive. Does he mean see you later as in he really wants to see me again. How long should I wait before calling him or pursuing this.

2006-11-05 15:16:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband of over 3 yrs,has never once romanced me,except when he was first seeing me,then the day of marriage he completely changed.He has never given me a birthday gift,taken me out for a romantic evening out,or even given me a long and deep kiss on a regular basis.When I confront him about this he says hes not the romantic type and that he feels the only time he needs to spend with me is when we go do our weekly shopping.I am a housewife due to health issues,and I only get to go out on sunday evenings for our weekly grocery shopping,other then that I get taken to the church occassionally,and those are the only places I get to go.I am 26 yrs old and I have been suffering terribly in this marriage due to feeling neglected and unloved,Ive tried everything,getting my own friends,my own hobbies,making myself busy,distracting myself with books and even prayer.He refuses to change and says dont expect this from him ever (meaning expect him to be romantic or give me intimate time.HELP

2006-11-05 15:15:53 · 13 answers · asked by ? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

she is always horney when im not. how can i tell her im not with out it hurting her feelings?

2006-11-05 15:14:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I feel pathetic, but im 9 months pregnant.. I know i know, i should have been more careful but the condom broke.. But here i am as ushual feeling like crap about my self.. My boyfriend cares so little about me.. but clames to love me. I know i need to leave. i know hes always looking for someone better.. i should have left long ago.. but after years.. i was still so inlove. this is a rant. and a pathetic one. But i have no one to talk to. and im lonely. and while he searches the net for interesting girls to chat with.. I look for people who might say hey.. your not worth nothing.. Sad? ya. okay im done

2006-11-05 15:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by pladedah 2 in Singles & Dating

I have an urge to kiss my boyfriend but he says we have to wait to kiss till a movie but we never go out. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????????????????????????????

2006-11-05 15:11:37 · 13 answers · asked by Kali_Mae_<3 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-05 15:11:35 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm asking because of a magazine article that I read saying that guys actually like to date single moms because they're independant, have jobs and money and a place of their own, have a life besides the guy, and don't play 'head games' because they don't 'have time to fool around' with relationship drama.

Is this true? I really would have thought that single guys would run scared from single moms.

2006-11-05 15:11:30 · 11 answers · asked by Queen Queso 6 in Singles & Dating

Her folks dont like me. Her life would probably be easier without me. She says she loves me and I do love her but can it work without the consent of her family.

2006-11-05 15:10:03 · 9 answers · asked by Zach 1 in Singles & Dating

why would you ever molest a girl??Do you not realize it scars her for life. Can you all tell me why they do this to us??
every time my bf touches me (he is very understanding) I have flashbacksand remember what happened. Is this normal??Will it ever go away?? I feel bad cuz he is trying to help
I live in 60010. This goes to show you rich people don't get off easy.

(60010 is 1 of the wealthiest zips in the US.)
Would you ditch the girl cuz she didn't want sex??

2006-11-05 15:08:56 · 17 answers · asked by Hott Gymnast 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been with this man for 9yrs, we got married 2yrs ago and have a son... I found out that my marrage was a lie, he's been cheating on me all along. We are separated now and I'm about to file for divorce...but why do I still love him and how can I get over him...?

2006-11-05 15:08:45 · 23 answers · asked by Morena 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am planning to leave my husband in 2007. We haven't been getting along since his affair in 2003. Now I am having an affair and the man I am having this affair with is uneasy because I told him that I slept with my husband this weekend. He wanted details....I know I shouldnt be having an affair ..but is it right of my affair mate to be uneasy? Or ask about details??? Dont I have a right to have sex with my husband? YES,..I am sleeping with both.

2006-11-05 15:07:48 · 56 answers · asked by MrsJR 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Today is his day off he works 4 days a week, 3 off . Its now 8:46 pm and he's been watching movies since 10:am. He does this everyday off. he's either watching movies all day, or on the internet all day and doesnt like any disturbance.He doesnt go anywhere with me and the baby. He doesnt do anything around the house on his days off, just sit there and ask me to cook for him twice a day. He gets so mad if me and the baby goes in the living room playing or making any noice. I get ignored all day everyday and i do everything alone. The only way he interacts with me is sometimes he'll come where im at and grab my boobs, or my butt......but no conversation, no nothing.All sexual...What could this be? Its been like this everysince we've had the baby. Shes almost a year old. I've asked him many times to go to counseling with me but he says we can't afford it. He keeps saying he's leaving when he gets enough money, never happens. I have to beg him to take out the trash.

2006-11-05 15:07:39 · 8 answers · asked by Kristi A 4 in Marriage & Divorce

an eighth guy at my school has repeatedly asked out my eight grade friend, my seventh grade friend, and me (all girls). to me he has called me "sexy" and said other things. my eighth grade friend has repeatedly been asked out and i have been asked out twice. none of us like him or even come close to showing we like him in any way. most seven adneighth graders are really annoyed by him.

2006-11-05 15:07:08 · 16 answers · asked by book lover 2 in Friends

I am away at college 2 hours away from my boyfriend. Even when I am at home, he still lives an hour away. He will either come to see me at my dorm and we will usually have the room to ourselves for the weekend or more or I will go home for the weekend and spend every moment with him. Is there such thing as too much sex. We are having sex at least 2 to 3 times a day.

2006-11-05 15:06:01 · 27 answers · asked by XoHaySweetieoX 2 in Singles & Dating

ok I REALLY REALLY REALLY like this boy(and from what I hear he likes me TOO!!!!)and I used to see him all the time cuz his mom and my mom and all us kids used to go out for lunch EVERY weekend but we don't do that anymore,and we go to different churches too. So I don't see him that often,SO IT'S LIKE MY FEELINGS FOR HIM STRT TO DRIFT OFF AFTER I DON'T SEE HIM FOR A WHILE,AND THEN I'LL SEE HIM AGAIN AND THEY COME BACK(the feelings)(AS SOON AS I SEE HIM),Is this normal does this happento anyone else or has it ever happen to U????

2006-11-05 15:05:55 · 5 answers · asked by ~♥~Tiffany~♥~ 4 in Singles & Dating

Since you knew he wasnt going to stop, You said were is the condom, and he said im not going to wear one. Do you think he gave me an STD?

2006-11-05 15:05:04 · 14 answers · asked by nita 1 in Singles & Dating

So yeah, he kinda flirts with me, but hasn't hinted that he has girlfriend either, what do I do?

2006-11-05 15:05:00 · 3 answers · asked by heynow 2 in Singles & Dating

Even if you are fortunate to have a family. People that love you.

2006-11-05 15:04:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Sexy,

Wow, thank you so much for composing such a detailed and thoughtful reply to my recent message. So where are you hiding that PhD degree? You have incredible insights and ability to drill down to the nuances most anyone would miss. I knew you were special...this example just continues to reveal that fact. Yet I am still astonished and even swept away by the depth of feedback you have given me. That you care enough to even take the time, the kind effort & thought, is impressive. But the ability you possess for finding a subjective meaning, is brilliant.

I've had to read your reply several times, just to take it all in. Some points you make I might disagree with initially, but actually you're probably right even if I don't want to admit it. I don't see myself as complex enough, emotionally, to have "innermost" feelings of any kind. Whether it is fear, as you state-- or simply the fact I am a "loner," there is a major tendency on my part to avoid emotions and personal connections. You haven't taken it as a personal insult that I am like this, although you easily could have started finding fault in response if you were a different kind of person. But since you are a wise, caring, brilliant man, you actually see that there is more than meets the eye when figuring out why people do the things they do.

I hope maybe we can talk or chat later, but if not, I will get back with you sometime soon.

With awestruck love,

Pumpkin

2006-11-05 15:04:05 · 7 answers · asked by beat_this_program 1 in Friends