I found out that her boyfriend was walking around a high school with a rose on his hand while my friend was in her college campus.should I tell her.
2006-11-05 15:18:09 · 22 answers · asked by chevy_arenivas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Butt out....If you have told your friend, then you've done your part. You need to get you own business and leave their relationship alone. Don't get in the middle...Roses doesn't mean a person is cheating.
2006-11-05 15:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't entirely see why holding a rose = cheating. However, I think you should talk to him. Tell him what you heard/saw/know, and tell him he needs to come clean w/girlfriend. It's better that the conversation is between them.
Should he refuse to talk w/her, tell him that you will talk to her if he won't. Your friend deserves the truth, and the longer it stays hidden from her, the more humiliated and upset she will be when she finds out. Sometimes the truth hurts. Be there for her no matter what happens. She may be angry w/you--irrational but typical response to this situation. Be patient. Truth telling is hard, but it is a true friend act of loyalty. Stay strong!
God bless
2006-11-05 17:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by sillkee1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you KNOW for certain, I would tell. I know my best friend would want to know and I know I would want to know. How well do you know your best friend? If she found out you knew and you didn't tell her, would she be upset at you?
I was on a singles website and found my bosses husband looking for a fling or physical relationship on there with his picture on there. I wound up telling her. She, of course, was upset, but wanted to know, because had found out earlier in the year he had cheated on her and then this. She is still with him to this day, which is her decision. At least she knew. Hugs to you for caring for your best friend.
2006-11-05 15:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one. Will she resent that you were the one that told her? I think I would find out what he was really up to with that rose and who the girl is. If it is what you think it is I tell her. You dont want to stir things up untill you know the straight hard facts. I know she is your best friend and everything, but you dont want her to resent you for something that wasnt true. You are doing a good job looking out for her though. I am sure she will appreciate it.
2006-11-05 15:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She'll just think your being a busy-body or lying. I understand that you want to be a good friend, but ask yourself this: would your friend be happier now or after you tell her? Personally, I think you should let her find out herself. Maybe lead her toward it, but don't tell her so bluntly. It will hurt your relationship. I also understand that if she found out that you knew all along and didn't say anything, she'll be upset. But friendships build on experiences, both happy and sad ones. If she's truly your friend, she'll understand why you didn't want to tell her.
2006-11-05 15:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by .Cami.B. 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You probably should stay out of it because sometimes when friends get involved in there other friends personal relationships it can cause confusion. The friend may think that you are jealous or just plain out lying to him or her.
2006-11-05 15:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do right now, is to just be supportive of her decisions, but implement your opinions here and there. I know you want to help her, but the only thing you can do is tell that what he is doing is wrong, and there is someone out there who will love and cherish her without cheating even crossing their mind. And if that doesn't work, just cuss him out :)
2006-11-05 15:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It never pays to tell, it's best to stay out of it. A lot of friendships have ended over things like this. Chances are if you tell, he will deny it and then your friend will think that you are the liar.
2006-11-05 15:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes you should. Warn her that what you will tell her will probably hurt her but you think she deserves to know what is going on behind her back. I know I would want that info if a guy was playing me for a fool.
2006-11-05 15:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to let her learn on her own if you told her you have done your part but dont get into , i know that your friend but she need to see it for herself once that happen then she will leave
2006-11-06 01:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by nicole52879 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋