Why are there so few single people over 40?

Question

I'm a 44 year old divorced mother (I have full custody of my son).
I separated from my ex when I was 40.

Since then, especially lately, I am literally the only woman I know among friends, family, co-workers, casual acquaintences, my son's friends' parents, etc. who is freakin single. I never seem to meet anyone to even date! I'm either working or raising my son--I'm BUSY.

I'm good looking and sociable. I was a dating-maniac before I met my ex-husband.

I literally am starting to feel like a freak. Why am I apparently the only woman who isn't "with" someone. I cannot believe all these people have something I don't.

I'm really not a freak, people like me...but where in the blue he!! do these women find someone and never spend ANY time by themselves (the unmarried ones who are NOT alone).

I cannot tell you people how badly I miss sex either.

I suppose I already know my answer, deep down, I just need to vent. I'm lonely and frustrated and starting to hate "couples."

Answer 1

This may come as quite a shock but men have the same problem too. It is just getting yourself out there in the world and advertising the product that is available and I don't mean anything rude. When you are available and men know it things will happen but you have to at least be aware, put yourself in a place where the kind of men you want to meet will be. Really it is just that simple. If you are really that busy then the net is the place to go put up a pic, meet a man for just coffee or drink in a public place and see what happens, many a friend has found true love out there and we are all out there looking for someone.

Answer 2

There are a lot of single people over 40 out there. The problem I had was to meet the quality man I needed.

I met my guy here on "answers" when I answered a question he posted. We started to email then IM until we decided it was time to meet. We have been together since then.

I met several other men here, and continue to email as friends. Just look at the answers people give and if you like the answer look at their profile. You may email them through "answers" and start a friendship. Who knows where it may lead?

Answer 3

I totally relate!! Except I dont hate 'couples'...Im envious though...even reading some of the miserable little spats they post on Answers..LOL. Im 47 and have a couple of kids more than 80 percent of the time. Two weekends maybe a month to date? Not gonna happen cuz I dont like to include my kids on my personal life so I just basically give up on having a personal love life! I suppose it would happen if I let it, but when you dont have the 'time' to give to dating a prospective partner...what can you do? Make your mind up up to learning how to knit all over again. Hopefully you'll have a hundred pairs of booties in time for your grandkids...lol lol Good luck. Peace!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

There are many male singles over 40. Depends on where and what you are seeking. They are all over the web, cuz they cannot meet them IRL. Keep plugging at it, you will find the place.

ps. I am over 40, divorced annd missing it too. You're not alone in that.

Answer 6

I know howyou feel ...ive been on my own for 11 yrs now ..and i was the same as you.....so take heart ..you arent the only 1 ...it really does seem hard to meet single genuine men in your later yrs ..why ...i wish i knew ...i dont hate couples though ...just envy them a little bit

Answer 7

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 8

you think 44 is bad,try 50,yes thats how old i was till i found someone.i thought i was going to be extink till my girlfriend(now) came along and she is all i need now so i dont have to look anymore.maybe your being too picky and also most me dont want to be pressured,they like to take it easy and get to know you first.just like the lady said,get all fixed up and do the town,ill bet you will find a man,and be yourself,dont try to change ,just to impress them,because if they like you then they will take you for who you are. good luck.

Answer 9

maybe you should take some time off to cool down and go for a holiday or something. buy a new outfit and hit the town. you are sure to find someone then.

Answer 10

where ya from dear, i'm a single 32 yr old dad in indiana!