Family & Relationships - 19 October 2006

my husband and I have been together for 9 years. Over the last year our relationship has been a little 'rocky'. He has been waiting for me to ask him to move back in and just as I was at that point he dropped the bomshell that he couldn't be hurt anymore and just wanted us to be very special friends. Our relationship has always been based on being good friends but our intimate relationship was also very good.

He tells me that he still loves me and finds me both physically and sexually attractive. I have tried talking to him about where it went wrong and my lack of communicaiton with him and showing not showing him how much I loved and cared for him but he has said that he want change his mind and just wants us to be friends as there is no 'spark' yet he still finds me attractive!

I am at a loss to know what to do and it is hurting very much.

Any advice welcome!

2006-10-19 02:35:38 · 17 answers · asked by seahorse 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-10-19 02:34:37 · 24 answers · asked by reeni 5 in Family

i was sick yesterday,and i was driving home yesterday from work.about 5 miles from my home i felt extremely tired,more tired than i've ever been in my life,doin everything to stay awake(rolling down windows,drink caffineated drink,turning my music really loud.i dont know why i did,but i feel alseep at the wheel(not realizing that i feel asleep)i hear a loud crash,my eyes shoot up and im within a few feet of a semi in the other lane,im about ot hit him head on.i dont remember turnin the wheel the other way

what really confuses me is i had my music loud(i have a competition stereo so i cant hear any outside noises)so what was the crashing noise i heard.

why did i wake up in enough time to see whats going on

why cant i remember turning the wheel to get back into my lane

2006-10-19 02:34:36 · 14 answers · asked by baseball_saenz 2 in Singles & Dating

do guys only have sex on there mind nothing else ? and if a guy ask u for money and u have only known him for 2 weeks would u give it to him?

2006-10-19 02:34:12 · 24 answers · asked by D 1 in Singles & Dating

guy i'm dating/single dad feels he "grew up 2 fast" and also has mild depression...how do I help him.

Recently started dating a 23 y/osingle dad of a toddler who is absolutely amazing. A couple of times he's brought up the fact that bummed out b/c he feels he's grown up too fast by becoming a father too soon. He also suffers from mild depression and has medication he doesn't really take. He says every now and then he gets in "moods" but he's really ok. I really like this guy and I want to have him fun and not feel like he's doomed to have this boring "adult" life b/c he's a dad. Also, he doesn't drink since he's in AA. Yes, I know there's a lot going on but please don't just advise me to just dump him..

2006-10-19 02:32:46 · 4 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Singles & Dating

I had someone leave me about 9 months ago cuz he got freaked out after making out with me.he never had a g/f b-4 and now this new guy I'm really interested in hasn't had a g/f b-4 either.he's 18.he's into video games but he makes time for me.we firlt and have been friends for 4 months now.I want to kiss him when he comes home for winter break.how can I make sure it doesn't escalate?I want to take things slow and have fun with him,don't want to confuse or overwhelm him and for him to grow to have strong feelings for me.I also need advice on toning down my passionate kissing.

2006-10-19 02:32:04 · 10 answers · asked by dabluschmosprincess 1 in Singles & Dating

We have been a relationship for over seven years and we have a child together. We recently just moved in together and since then he moved out twice to go back home with his parents. Now he's wanting to come back to me!! What should I do?? And to make matters worse I am talking to someone else who I now have strong
feelings for.

2006-10-19 02:31:51 · 19 answers · asked by T.J. 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm distressed because my 2 year old will no longer use the potty in my house because a snake crawled up inside the bowl in our trailer and he was on the potty and heard it moving around in the water below him.

He was in the middle of a BM and ran out of the bathroom with his pants around his ankles with BM falling to the carpet from his legs and behind. He tripped and fell, knocking his front teeth out.

I was outside enjoying a smoke with some friends when I heard him crying and screaming for me. After I finished my beer I went in and saw him in such a state. Out of anger I slapped him across his head because he got BM and blood all over our rug but I felt bad when he explained to me what happened.

Now he won't use the potty, he won't even go near the bathroom.
What should I do?

2006-10-19 02:31:02 · 9 answers · asked by Another Chubby Feminist 1 in Family

How do u in particular do that inyour daily life?
What are the feelings when u are doing it (giving and luving ur relatives and family).

Actually I have a problem that my bro does not like conversating with me. Im his only sister and 3 years younger to him. He always talks alot with my elder girl and boy cousins. Our conversations however end with a uyes or no from his side. Even if Itry to prolong a conversation ...he almost always puts a dead stop. How can I get him to not think less of me. Hes not such a bad guy. Hes got integrity and is doing a job so is earning. he also sometimes buyes stuff for me. But his attitude is so aloof. Its not normal. Ive seen bros and sisters talkin and I feel so left out. Sometimes while my mom, dad, him and I are sittin together he will almost ignore me completely.
Hes leavin for Norway in like 11-12 days and I have been tryin to get him to talk to me for the past God knows how many years. Im 23 hes 26.

2006-10-19 02:30:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I don't know what to do? I recently just lost my husband, and my kids lost a father. I have 7 kids and they don't get along now. One of my kids never talks to anyone anymore. another one is always on the computer talking to people but never to me. Another one always wants to be alone. Then the rest of them just wants to leave this world. How can i stop this? I don't know what to do. I tried getting help by different people that help children. But everytime my kids hear that help is coming over. The kids run away. They don't want me to get help by people outside for some reason. What can i do? My kids don't act the same as they did before. before they would never do any of this, but now they do it everyday. What could be wrong with them? One of my kids has asthma, but he keeps forgetting to take his inhaler wherever he goes. This happens pretty much everyday. I'm scared that something is going to happen to him and i won't know about it. Thanks to all those who help.

2006-10-19 02:30:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My husband is 13 years younger than me. We have been married 18 years and have a daughter together who is 16. Last year I caught him cheating. He told me it was an error of judgement, shouldn't have done it etc. but that he would leave home because he felt suffocated by marriage, that I was possessive, he often wondered why he wished he wasn't married, he had never owned anything in his own right, that I challenged him for leadership. After 8 months he moved out to his own place, but now is back every weekend, is good to me, takes me out, is a lot calmer to deal with. If he wants his freedom, why does he make plans for our future? He makes it sound like its temporary, but when I say that if by the new year nothing is sorted out then we should divorce and separate our assets, he gets upset and says he will not be given ultimatums as he is taking each day as it comes. He wants to become a better person and sort himself out but can only do it if he is away. I don't know what to believe.

2006-10-19 02:28:41 · 19 answers · asked by Joanna C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend broke up with me because other girls liked him. First, he told me he was leaving because his mom didn't like me, but I later found out about the girls. He told me he wanted to see what else was out there for him. Is this wrong? And he says he still loves me. Should we still be friends?

I know he made a big mistake, but I still love him and I couldn't imagine my life without him in it.

2006-10-19 02:28:39 · 14 answers · asked by }).Jessi.({ 2 in Singles & Dating

We live in the same street and when i see him he's really nice to me, and sometimes he gives me the feeling he likes me too, but i can't understand him, cause then sometimes he just says "hi" and doesn't even really look at me... He drives me crazy, i get so nervous everytime he talks to me... What should i do, how should i tell him? Thanx...

2006-10-19 02:28:24 · 13 answers · asked by ivy 1 in Singles & Dating

My new boyfriend works with my ex.. thats how we met. I work with them part time, i have been seeing my ex more often now and feelings are coming back. Should i listen to them or stick with my boyfriend who truly is wonderful. My ex was never able to fully commit, but i can see that my being with his friend now really bothers him. WE are all friends now and everything is cool, should i just let sleeping dogs lie and accept him as a friend.... and let it go!! Does he have this feelings for me too???

2006-10-19 02:27:54 · 5 answers · asked by coco 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-19 02:27:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife has a hard time when we have sex because I am so thick. Any ideas on what we can do?

2006-10-19 02:27:43 · 7 answers · asked by Breaking hearts since 1977 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-10-19 02:26:58 · 1 answers · asked by beci 3 in Singles & Dating

he lives across the street from me..he asked me out and i told him no because i didnt think it was right to date my brothers best friend...now i like him....but i dont kno how he still feels about me..i dont want to ask him and make it obvious..so what do i do?

2006-10-19 02:26:26 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend was talk to his friend from work about the lottery and said " I don't know if I would dump her (meaning me) if I won the lottery. I don't think I would".

How would you take this?

2006-10-19 02:26:00 · 16 answers · asked by abrennan01 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-19 02:25:59 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Well two, actually - her breasts could be bigger. Should I persuade her to have a boob job?

2006-10-19 02:23:55 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Could a 40 year old woman, young at heart, looks a good 10 years younger and as fit and healthy as a 20year old keep the interest of a 30yr old male? or would he ultimately look for someone younger????

2006-10-19 02:23:22 · 25 answers · asked by not such a smart girl 1 in Singles & Dating

of the idea of friends with benifits?
some women can't take it and get attached while others are cool.
let me know what yall think

2006-10-19 02:22:40 · 13 answers · asked by BOOM 2 in Singles & Dating

It is clear that the models of love from the last century are not keeping up with society as a whole, i.e. gay marriage, divorce, single parents, etc. In this century, is it ok for marrieds to have a boyfriend or girlfriend (either platonic or romantic)? Why or why not?

2006-10-19 02:21:51 · 10 answers · asked by Ricky 2 in Marriage & Divorce

well i am 14 but that bastard deserves some serious torture now i have a new boyfriend and we are going to my cousins halloween party and i need some ideas on how to make him jealous!

2006-10-19 02:21:09 · 20 answers · asked by Stephanie R 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

some kind of a stupid question... but frankly, who wants to be a priest?

2006-10-19 02:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-10-19 02:19:25 · 11 answers · asked by Zach4G 2 in Singles & Dating

ok well i had 2 best friends who r girl & 2 guys.
well one guy & gurl date & the other 1 i used 2 like.
the best friend i hadnt mentioned name is kay. She is my best friend ever & we spent all weekend 2gether!!
however yesterday at school i was feeling sick & she kept messing with me & i had just told sum1 that & wen kay kept messing with me & i turned away from her she kept asking wut was wrong & her stupid boyfriend who was sitting there said "she told sum1 she was feeling sick but i doubt that!" then i said something then kay whispered sumthing 2 him & he agreed & she was like sorry kim but its true! lol. i wasnt very happy and plus wen im sick i get upset easily so i got up & went 2 sit next 2 my other best friend & she said sorry eddie is sitting there but its ok cuz eddie is my best guy friend so i sat next 2 him then she called me alot later than usual but ofcourse i was eating & i told her i could talk so she said U HAVE NO REASON 2 B MAD @ ME! & hung up. now she says

2006-10-19 02:18:24 · 10 answers · asked by kim w 2 in Friends

My girlfriend and i have been together for three years we love eachother she gave up a lot to be with me as well as i did to be with her. Did we make a mistake or should we be happy about the choices we made because we found each other and love and companionship is bettter than anything else in the world. I love her and i need her in my life. what im really asking is giving up everything for the person you love the right thing to do.

2006-10-19 02:18:22 · 13 answers · asked by lilpimptk101 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My friend (ah hem) has this problem. . .
She's fallen in love with this man, whom she just recently met.
What's crazy about it is they are a fantastic match in every way. . .
except he had just met someone whom he'd started to date before he met me. . .umm. . .my friend. . .
Anyhow, I think he really does want to be with my friend but, he doesn't want to hurt this other woman. . .and he's a little shaky because he can already see my friend might just be the woman he's wanted his entire life, and he's scared of that. . .

What advice can you give me. . . ummm. . . my friend.

2006-10-19 02:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating