guy i'm dating/single dad feels he "grew up 2 fast" and also has mild depression...how do I help him.
Recently started dating a 23 y/osingle dad of a toddler who is absolutely amazing. A couple of times he's brought up the fact that bummed out b/c he feels he's grown up too fast by becoming a father too soon. He also suffers from mild depression and has medication he doesn't really take. He says every now and then he gets in "moods" but he's really ok. I really like this guy and I want to have him fun and not feel like he's doomed to have this boring "adult" life b/c he's a dad. Also, he doesn't drink since he's in AA. Yes, I know there's a lot going on but please don't just advise me to just dump him..
2006-10-19 02:32:46 · 4 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We women can accomplish most anything we set our mind to.
If you truly in your heart feel that you can help this guy, then angel, you go for it! World needs more people like u
A good womans'support can help him make leaps and bounds as he WANTS to let you help him and therefore the changes are easier.
so............YOU GO GIRL!!
2006-10-19 02:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that in becoming a father it is a precious gift and that it should never be questioned.
I became a father at the age of 18 and I have never questioned whether I was to young or that I tried to grow up to fast I accepted my choices in becoming a father and now I have 3 wonderful and beautiful children and I am 30.
However, let him know that being a parent isn't the end of life but the begining. and that you want to be every bit of apart of it with him and to be there to enjoy it and embrace all the small pleasure that life has to offer. Happiness, is within how you view life and that you live each day. along with those who you share it with aprreciating all that you have in the now and not regreting it later in life.
2006-10-19 09:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him happy. He's got to make himself happy before you can. Do fun things with the kid. Go places, the park, the beach, for a walk, ice cream, etc.....all that stuff you can do with the kid. Go out on dates and find a babysitter. Babysit one night for him and let him go out with buddies (that don't drink). Have talks with him. Tell him that you can't be cheerful to him until he's cheerful with himself.
2006-10-19 09:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to do this for himself and his child!!! Just be there for him!!!
2006-10-19 09:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋