My new boyfriend works with my ex.. thats how we met. I work with them part time, i have been seeing my ex more often now and feelings are coming back. Should i listen to them or stick with my boyfriend who truly is wonderful. My ex was never able to fully commit, but i can see that my being with his friend now really bothers him. WE are all friends now and everything is cool, should i just let sleeping dogs lie and accept him as a friend.... and let it go!! Does he have this feelings for me too???
2006-10-19 02:27:54 · 5 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say let it go - he's an "ex" for a real reason. You've got a great guy & things looked terrific, until the ex came back into the picture. Make an effort to avoid seeing him whenever possible. If you begin thinking of him & daydreaming, direct your thoughts to something else. Get up & do aerobics or something - or even better, go cuddle your new boyfriend & continue to strengthen the bond ya'll are forming!!! That's a good plan; think about the ex, go lavish attention on your new love!! He'll enjoy the attention (he doesn't have to know WHY) & you'll both benefit from the closeness & the love! I'm still missing my ex - sometimes so badly I could cry & I want to call him & ask him could I come over & love him again - just once more for the good times & memories. But I don't do that - I refuse to beg! So I call my new honey & talk with him, instead. Give it a shot & put your ex back where he belongs - in your past!!!!! Good luck hun!!
2006-10-19 02:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU broke up with HIM, so YOU didn't want him anymore. Why do you want him back just because she does now? You both seem to be guilty of wanting what you can't have. If you think she wouldn't have the same thing as you had with him, then why are you so jealous? If he is her first, it wouldn't affect you at all. He would still be your first everything, and he would also be her first most things. What do you do? You deal with the decisions that YOU made, like an adult. Really, neither of you are acting much like a best friend.
2016-05-22 01:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love you boyfriend then dont let something in the past ruin it. you have to think about it like this... maybe it makes your ex jealous whenever he sees you happy with his friend and just wants you to have feelings for him so you can break up with him. it isnt worth it especially if he had problems with commitment before. What makes you think that he will not have problems with commitment again? So if i were you just accept him as a friend and that is it.
2006-10-19 02:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by homie_j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might be wise to remind yourself why he is your ex every time you see him. If you have a wonderful guy in your life now, why not give him a chance to develop a history with you, and see if the sizzle develops with someone who is safe? You're liable to find a warmth and trust that open you to an even deeper level of feeling with him in the end.
In the end we go with our heart wherever it takes us, but we can encourage it to go in a healthy way if we allow our past to shelter us. Life is precious and I hate to see you spend it returning to turmoil.
2006-10-19 02:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by David M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you are feeling is vibrations of feelings from the past, and you need to distinguish both sets of feelings; one for ex and one for current man
Ex already has 1point against him and it sounds as tho you are one of the lucky ones who has a good man, why would u want to take the risk of losing that for someone you KNOW won't give you what u want or need
I have agood man and almost lost him, learn from my mistake
2006-10-19 02:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋