I have posted a few threads before regarding my daughters dad, to cut a long story short he is a high amphetimine using and shows no intention of coming off, the case has been going to and from court for more than two years now. He at the moment gets an hours supervised contact at a contact centre on a monday from 6 - 7. In the past around twelve weeks he has only managed to turn up on time once, last week he was over half an hour late claiming it was because the clocks went forward and he'd forgot! Tonight he was again 15mins late and before I went I'd decided that I was going to wait the 15 then go, which I'd tried explaining to her the best I could and that I would make it up to her on Tues. She was a bit upset about having to go, but unfortunately on the way out he come zooming round the corner on his bike, and looked all gormless like nothing was wrong, so for a change I send my piece to him which I do bitterly regret because my daughter who is five was ther though i wasn't shouting or anything, he come up with feeble excuses which never seem to ring true. He was a violent partner which resulted in the break-up and seems to have been on a downward spiral since then which was over four years ago. I was young when I had my daughter and was very much scared of him, I'm not now which is why I believed I spoke my mind to him.
What would you do in this situation? I have got an appointment with the solicitor so will be getting his advice as well. He failed to turn up to court on the last appearance and is usually always late for that as well, i think the judge is getting fed up with him and his own solicitor definately is. I don't believe he gives my daughter any of the emotional or parenting support that a child needs and I believe she needs to know where she is at, she can't really be going to a contact centre forever and I can't see him changing his ways. I really thinking about stopping the contact all together and sitting my daughter down and explaining why, but without slating her dad just so she understands, then deal with the consequences from the court because I do believe I would be completely justified in doing so or do I perservere with it and hope for the best. This is really having bad affects on my own relationship and me mentally now an dI don't no what to do anymore
2007-04-10
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