She is 21 and I am 22 years old. She is a very religious person and hance me wanting to know her virginity, not that I am looking for a virgin specifically but I prefer one, since I am a virgin myself.
2007-04-10 21:01:56 · 18 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Take Darren's advice above.
If you decide to come right out and ask though, don't ask "are you a virgin?" Virgin is a label and it raises questions as to why you're curious.
Instead, ask "have you had sex before?" That is a more neutral-sounding question and makes it about behavior, not labels.
2007-04-10 21:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate to ask her if you're not already dating. If you ARE already dating, I'd wait until you are getting serious. Then you might (slowly) start the conversation by telling her that you are a virgin. At that time, she can choose (or not choose) to disclose her own status. If she does not do so voluntarily, then she doesn't want to talk about it.
Really, though, who cares? The only difference is that your first time in bed will be REALLY awkward with two virgins, and may be uncomfortable if her hymen is intact (not a relibale indicator of virginity).
2007-04-11 11:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not looking for a virgin specifically, then it shouldn't matter. One day it'll come up in a conversation and by that time you'll be in love with her so who cares at that point?
2007-04-11 06:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by radames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE, you just answered your own question.
i love a man that is honest, i hate men that hint or beat around the bush...Biggest turn off to me.
Just say what you asked and stated in your question:::always explain why you are asking and then ASK!
"Hey, i really like you, and hate to ask this and was afraid i would offend you, but i'm a virgin and was wondering if you were one too?"
2007-04-14 03:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Memphis Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to risk getting kicked in the nuts, go right ahead and ask. ha ha. just kidding. If she is very religious, she would probably not do that. I would tho. If you are dating, and the relationship has progressed to that level of intimacy, then I think you could ask. You may not get an answer tho....and who's to say she'll be honest?!?!?
2007-04-11 07:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all depends on your relationship with her. Being a virgin myself I try to be upfront with guys, and I want guys to be upfront with me about how many partners they've had(and any possible STDs)But normally I date guys who I know from classes and see on a daily basis, so that there is a comfort level.
2007-04-11 04:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how far along in the relationship you are. If you know each other well and feel you should be getting to that point then it's probably alright. That said it is probably not a good pickup line.
2007-04-11 04:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Chuckwalla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Subtle!
I think you should have a conversation about virginity and ethics.
Also you should be clear in your own mind about the impacts of getting "the wrong answer"
2007-04-11 04:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no indication that you're already seeing her. If this is the case, that would be a VERY inappropriate thing to ask. Wait until you've actually gotten serious before you bring that up.
2007-04-11 09:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how close your relationships are. Well, you are not wrong to state your preference I guess ..
And dont tell her you are virgin, since most ladies never believes you.
2007-04-11 04:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋