Etiquette - July 2007

I am a bridesmaid at my friends wedding. She gave me an invitation but never mentioned that I could bring my boyfriend. We have been dating eachother for about 5 months and are pretty serious about each other. I don't want to offend her though, or demonstrate improper etiquette.

I assumed that bringing a date was expected and asked my boyfriend before I got the invitation.... I just got the invitation and it says my name only (but she has never met him because her and I live in different cities now).... I don't want to put her in an uncomfortable position by asking her if I can bring a date, and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend not to come.

I explained to my boyfriend that I would be busy the entire wedding, and that I would be there for the bride. He said he could easily make friends and would just hang out with me later on in the evening, when they are off doing their own thing, visiting everyone, etc.

I need help here, what should I do!?

2007-07-09 12:01:47 · 13 answers · asked by Betty 4

"One man's ceiling is another man's floor"

2007-07-09 11:58:39 · 10 answers · asked by Outside the box 6

My roommate and I are both Christians. She very kindly opened her condo to me for the summer, and I am paying rent to live here. We have gotten along great... until last week when I told her that I was having my guy friend over to play Halo and have frozen pizza. He's not a boyfriend, or even a crush. We are just friends and have been good friends for 4 years.

But, my roommate says that no guys are allowed alone in the house with either of us, as a house rule. A small group of people is fine, and a girl is fine, but no guys alone.

I feel like the rule is really absurd. I'm an adult and can make my own moral decisions... I'd be fine if she said nobody was allowed at all, but the fact that it's only guys means she thinks we're going to do something in her house.

But, I realize that it's her house, and if she feels uncomfortable with what might be happening behind closed doors, then it's her right to lay down rules, even if they're strict.

What do you think?

2007-07-09 11:50:03 · 25 answers · asked by HP Wombat 7

Ok…so this way cool guy in the office has a total crush on me…he makes it clear and his boss always jokes around with me about it…he knows I have a boyfriend and when he comes to say hi (which I don’t mind) I know he sees the huge picture in a frame on my desk of me and my boyfriend…but he still make the most awkward comments…AHHHH!!!!! He told me “I wouldn’t put you in an uncomfortable situation”…but the comments are crazy.



I know he wouldn’t act on anything…that’s not in question…but should I just ignore the comments or what???

2007-07-09 11:26:22 · 20 answers · asked by kmkey7 2

Some of my friends think I'm so weak that I can't do S*** to them. I excersise but I never show my strength, so that leaves room for people to underestimate. They seem to get all worked up when they find out they were wrong. Why do they talk s*** like that and can't understand me.

2007-07-09 11:15:10 · 10 answers · asked by Steve Davis 1

I recently was in the uncomfortable situation of having my ex-finace (and father to my daughter) in my home, while my current fiance was there.
Neither introduced themself to the other, and I did not introduce them, as I did not feel it my place, as I was not truly a hostess to the situation and was more worried about my daughter's comfort rather then if they knew each other's name (which they do).

My current fiance says he felt it was my ex's responsibility since he was "in the situation" versus my fiance who is kind of on the outside looking in.

My ex is mad and ranting and raving as to why I did not introduce them.

These are grown men, both older then myself, shouldn't one of them have been the bigger person? and if so which one?

2007-07-09 10:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by bensbabe 4

I'm 21, 5 foot and a hundred pounds. People on my job keep talking about my weight as if I'm malnurished and I'm not. I figure it's because they're much bigger than I am but that's not my fault.

They're not mean, but it's that kinda nice mean. Where they'll say something in a nice way, but it'll be mean actually. Like oh you shouldn't skip meals or oh my gosh do you eat your so tiny hahaha.

I'm still growing actually and being tiny is in my family both grandmoms and my aunts and mom were small. (That stopped when they got around 30 but still.)

How should I handle this?

2007-07-09 10:39:10 · 19 answers · asked by laurenhonish 2

Recently a service tech came to our home and was with my fiancée alone for nearly an hour. During his visit his behavior became inappropriately vulgar with her and scared her.

I’ve written a 6 page letter to send to him. Now I can’t decide whether to send it or not. He thinks he has permission to fish here, and he thinks he got away with his actions. The letter is stern yet as professional as I could be. No names/locations are mentioned.

Part of me says send it, so he that he doesn’t behave this way again around other women, and so he doesn’t show up on our property. Another part of me says to not send it or waste more energy on the issue. I have posted this letter at www.creativecamping.com (extra domain I had).

I’d appreciate anyone reading it and clicking on the buttons I created saying either “Send it” or “Don’t send it”. I’m really torn what to do. If I take any action at all regarding this issue, it will be sending this letter.
Thanks.

2007-07-09 10:19:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

HOW????

2007-07-09 09:27:29 · 8 answers · asked by Jon H 1

& have all kinds of mosquitoes coming inside your house, tearing you up?

2007-07-09 08:58:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was waiting for my daughter and her friend who had gone to a concert (comedy guys from "whose line is it anyway"). The door kept closing on people coming out so I walked up to the door and stood there holding it open. When I noticed people thanking me (and not thanking me) I decided to determine the percentage of people how are polite and thanked me for holding the door, including people who acknowledge me in other ways like bowing, waving or smiling at me. I was surprized by the results. Best Answer goes to the person who guesses closest to the actual percentage of polite people.

2007-07-09 08:48:21 · 6 answers · asked by Robert L 4

I am constantly being teased for being slim. I am 5'5" and 110lbs. I am in great shape and have a high metabolism-I eat like a grown man. I am tired of hearing the "you should eat" comments. What would you say to shut someone up?

To me, it is just as disrespectful if I pick on an overweight person for eating.

2007-07-09 07:51:28 · 18 answers · asked by ♥--->{Shauntee}<---♥ 4

2007-07-09 07:36:19 · 40 answers · asked by lovebug 3

I was invited to an end of the T-ball season party for the kids. It was at a house and the kids played with a water game in the back, we had pizza, cake, drinks, etc. Trophies were given, etc. Once people began leaving, everyone else was bolting. Should've seen how fast they went, but my wife, son and I stayed behind to help the host clean up their back porch area, pick up trash, stuff like that. It took me aback to see no one else pitch in.

2007-07-09 07:15:55 · 19 answers · asked by RickNY 3

2007-07-09 07:14:12 · 40 answers · asked by lovebug 3

I can understand if you accidently hit your toe or play golf on a regular basis but for some reason, I do take offense to guys who cuss in front of women. I find this to be disrespectful; men should conduct themselves as gentlemen in mixed company (I'm not saying they should hold the door for women every time they go through an entrance or anything).

Likewise, I find cussing un-ladylike. It's dirty and immature.

Am I the only one who feels this way? Anyone care to disagree? I'm looking for intelligent answers; no smart alecky remarks, please.

2007-07-09 07:13:29 · 12 answers · asked by chrstnwrtr 7

My manager at a small restraunt is really friendly one day and wants to be everyone's friend and then the next day he is a real jerk and will follow the servers around just to find something to yell about.

When he is in a good mood though he is a little too friendly. He feels he needs to be touching me or extremely close to me to talk to me. One time he even cornored me and bit me ear. The problem is I don't want to say anything to him that is going to make my job difficult there. I also don't want him to reverse into jerk mode either. I've tried a couple times to laugh it off and tell him my boyfriend would be upset but it hasn't gotten through.

What can I say to him to let him know that I don't like him getting so close without making it into a bigger deal than it has to be? Also, please don't say report it because sexual harassment cases protect the harasser not the harassed and that is not an option for me. Thank you.

2007-07-09 07:09:52 · 12 answers · asked by dalbana5 2

My wife says I'm "lazy" because I don't want to cut the grass, use the edger and weedeater.

I disagree. I would say that in order to be lazy, I would have to expect to get the same results for less effort. That's not true of me at all - I'm perfectly willing to accept having a yard that isn't the nicest in the neighborhood if it means I have more free time.

I'm willing to mow when it gets really long - I don't want to have the yard where the neighbors get together for an intervention. But I don't think we have to worry about edging and all that stuff - nobody is going to knock on the door and complain that we need to edge.

So is it still lazy if you're willing to accept the lowered standards?

2007-07-09 07:01:45 · 13 answers · asked by Glenn S 2

Then 6 months later he is still there and obviously got very comfortable. In the beginning he did some work for us on our house and we paid him but he gave us a good rate. Then as the months went on, he stopped doing anything for us and when I would ask him for a quote on something, it would be outrageous. Meanwhile, we paid for his use of our power for those 6 months and never asked him anything in return. That cost about $200 total. So we finally ask him to leave because he's all lazy and comfortable now and I think he started resented us for what we had and what he didn't have, and he got really pissy about it and finally left and started telling lies to people about us. I just can't believe how ungrateful he is. WWYD? He's unstable too. I don't know whether to call him and tell him to stop telling lies to people or just let it go. And who has a right to be mad here? I think it's my husband and I!

2007-07-09 06:55:22 · 13 answers · asked by Jungle Princess 2

2007-07-09 06:50:42 · 23 answers · asked by nadesico612 2

I am a child of the 60's with a strict set of parents, which I resented like hell, and swore that I would never raise my child to same way. I was a mom of the 80's, and while I was strict, not nearly as bad as my parents.My only child turned out great. (Not just my opnion, other people tell me how polite and nice he is.)
People these days seem so hateful to others, calling other people names that are hurtful and mean. There is no such thing as being nice to strangers..it seems like MOST people are all about "me"...not others.
What can the average person do to remind others to be courteous?

2007-07-09 06:42:37 · 9 answers · asked by cat14675 3

slurp.....ohhhh...mmmmm...ahhhhhhh

2007-07-09 06:42:35 · 8 answers · asked by Mr America 1

2007-07-09 06:31:41 · 11 answers · asked by HIlda V 2

2007-07-09 06:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by curious 1

when you are on vacation , or otherwise ?

2007-07-09 05:52:32 · 6 answers · asked by April First 5

Every day someone is asking me for money -- someone's leaving, pregnant, death in family, in the hospital, also fundraisers for school, church, Scouting (candy, catalogues, etc.). I can't do everbody I'd be broke. I don't even know who some of these people they are collecting for.

2007-07-09 05:39:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anglcake 5

I often notice men doing that, & it makes me angry and uncomfortable. Is it SEXUAL in nature when men do that, or am I mistaken? (It doesn't look like just a nervous tic!) Either way, it is unnerving & distracting, and an invasion of our privacy when we're on the subway & subjected to this unwanted display. If it IS like a bit of masturbation, it bothers me all the more! I don't want to assume the worst unless I know for sure what such behavior signifies. Please advise. Replies from women also - with their reactions to these intrusive public displays - will be welcome in addition to male input on the subject. I am very resentful when I am a captive audience in a space where a guy is shaking or moving his leg/legs or foot/feet urgently. There is a time & place for everything, & the subway car is not it!! Your own bedroom is more appropriate for such actions. Men should control themselves & act appropriately in public.

2007-07-09 04:48:38 · 32 answers · asked by elorac 1

My girlfriend hates it when i say this afterwards. Is it because she is ungrateful?

2007-07-09 04:36:34 · 25 answers · asked by Wondering 2

my close friends have invited me to their baby daughter's christianing. what are appropriate gifts to bring that are not religious in nature?

2007-07-09 04:17:51 · 11 answers · asked by sweetdumplins 1

I have been having a lot of trouble lately because people who are not vegan seem to just not understand what it means. I can't eat any dairy or meat! Is it rude to tell someone in advance? How do you word it politely?

2007-07-09 03:52:39 · 21 answers · asked by Susie S 1