I am a child of the 60's with a strict set of parents, which I resented like hell, and swore that I would never raise my child to same way. I was a mom of the 80's, and while I was strict, not nearly as bad as my parents.My only child turned out great. (Not just my opnion, other people tell me how polite and nice he is.)
People these days seem so hateful to others, calling other people names that are hurtful and mean. There is no such thing as being nice to strangers..it seems like MOST people are all about "me"...not others.
What can the average person do to remind others to be courteous?
2007-07-09 06:42:37 · 9 answers · asked by cat14675 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
One thing that you can do is to set a good example yourself. That works on some people, but not all.
Another is to confront people who are acting rude. If you don't tell them that what they are doing is wrong, and what that they could be doing instead, then who will? Try to stay calm, however; it would be ironic if you tried to explain to someone in a rude way that they were acting rude.
2007-07-09 08:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that common courtesy has become not so common because there is a breakdown in the home. Children are not being taught how to be courteous or that it is even important. People are selfish, and they don't understand the concept of 'treating others as you want to be treated'. I think it's wonderful that you have done such a good job with your child. I think one way you can encourage others to be courteous is maybe through your child. When he or she has a friend over, and you see some behavior that needs improvement, you could maybe say something to the child and inform them of the importance of common courtesy. The way I do it is just being the best example I can be to others and encouraging the people around me to be the best people they can be.
2007-07-09 13:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Hollz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I never thought that relaxing the rules a little would spawn so many terrible people. I have to restrain myself from smacking somebody's darling on the butt for acting up ("acting out" my foot- the kid's a brat) in a restaurant. They,(the parents) of course, do nothing. News flash, folks, we don't find the little monster amusing. saying something just gets a shrug from mom, if not some of the filthiest language you'll ever hear. It's no wonder the kids are as bad as they are, look at the examples they have. I'd like to see as many kid-free zones as there are kid-friendly. Businesses are interested only in money-so not patronizing them is our only weapon, or going to the more upscale places the child worshippers usually can't afford.
2007-07-09 14:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commit random acts of kindness. I know this is an overused term and it seems really corny, but it does work. I always open the door for my elders, or hold it open for the next person, and in just doing that you would not believe how grateful most people are. ( yeah, there are some that just walk past and ignore ya, but what the hay.) Please, excuse me, and I'm sorry seem to have fallen from modern day speech it seems, but I still use these words and also teach my boys to do the same. I figure that if it rubs off on at least one person it is worth it to keep on doing it.
2007-07-09 13:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by crump_73mixerchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's largely an illusion brought on by distance. There were plenty of rude people in the 60's, and there always have been; and there have always been plenty of people complaining about the decay of etiquette in their day, and comparing the behavior they observed in their day to a (supposedly) more genteel age 30, 40, or 50 years before.
Both the '60s and the '80s are perfect examples of this; each era had plenty of people warning about the downfall of society based on the bad habits of "kids these days."
2007-07-09 13:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be courteous first, set a good example. People seem to think good manners are a weakness and an invitation to be taken advantage of. Sad isn't it?
2007-07-09 13:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by al 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a big believer in "Random acts of kindness". You'd be surprised what kind of trickle-down effect that has sometimes! Just continue to be the nice person you are and don't expect to change the world. It has progressively gotten worse over the years, just talk to any grandparent!
2007-07-09 13:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Education starts at home...if the parents can't educate the school system should teach civicism and manners.
2007-07-09 13:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Izzie My Blueberry Nights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing,it has to come from the parent in their life.Could it be that they are rearing them selves,yes.It will only get worse as time goes on.they are not even taught to respect the teachers in school.Look and listen you will see...
2007-07-09 14:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋