How do I deal with people on my job who comment about my weight?

Question

I'm 21, 5 foot and a hundred pounds. People on my job keep talking about my weight as if I'm malnurished and I'm not. I figure it's because they're much bigger than I am but that's not my fault.

They're not mean, but it's that kinda nice mean. Where they'll say something in a nice way, but it'll be mean actually. Like oh you shouldn't skip meals or oh my gosh do you eat your so tiny hahaha.

I'm still growing actually and being tiny is in my family both grandmoms and my aunts and mom were small. (That stopped when they got around 30 but still.)

How should I handle this?

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with you sweetie...That seems to run in the family genes...You might just tell them, "This is how God made me!"...There's other things you could say that wouldn't be very nice. Even though it's sometimes tempting I would not advise you do so. Be friendly, smile and show them you're much bigger than they think you are... And, while you're at it, enjoy being petite, there are millions who would kill to be in your shoes... --Best Wishes!

Answer 2

be honest. The next time it happens, say something like "I hate it when people say that! I eat! A LOT! It's just in my genes, sometimes people can't help being skinny any more than they can help being fat!"
that should get the message across. These people probably have no idea they're hurting your feelings because they WANT to be told they're tiny, but they don't understand that commenting on someone's weight over and over again makes them self conscious no matter what.

I've had to do that before, in private, with people who wouldn't stop saying things about my lack of poundage and how they kept telling me to EAT, and they finally got a clue and cut it out.

Answer 3

Plain & Simple.......They are just jealous.
You could say Yea I eat & it looks like you do too. Or You can say I hope to be as fat as you are one day too, so I can pick on the little people.
Or if you wanna be polite about, tell them you dont appreciate the comments they make about you and ask them how they would feel if you made big fat jokes to them.
See i dont get that really. Fat people can joke & say whatever they want to the little people & think it doesnt offend them. But in truth it does. But as soon as you crack a fat joke, they all get mad.
Just be happy that you are they way you are. At least you are not fat & overweight, which makes you alot healthier than the others.

Answer 4

at the end of 05 and till the middle of 06 i lost alot of weight. i think my lowest was 133. before hand i had weighed up to 170, yes that was alot im only 5'3". i had gotten so much bs about how much i'd lost and how skinny i looked. i mean i knew that i had lost alot but i didnt think i looked that bad. they said some of the same things that people are saying to you, i would get down about it but after a while i got used to it. i guess it shocked them because they'd never seen me that small before. tell them that it bothers you and you prefer that they wouldnt say things like that anymore. oh might i add that i had gained some of it back and i some people were like "oh you better stop eating that cafe food". i felt bad then. as if they were calling me fat.

Answer 5

Hey laurn, don't sweat the little things. People going to say what they want regardless you in perfect shape or not. It is they're not comfortable with themselves so if they can point out someone elses flaughs thats trying to make theirself look better. Don't allow another to through you off your square. Be pround of who and what you are. Your #1, everyone else secondary. So keep that head up and strive for your dreams. God Bless

Answer 6

Try these statements, "Oh you want to talk about weight? How much do you weigh?"


"That was rather offensive, I do not know you well enough for you to get so personal."

"Do you think you are being funny?"

When someone is being RUDE as these people are you need to throw aways the good manners handbook and call them out on their rudeness - this will help them in the future.

Don't be at all ashamed and think you are being rude back you are stopping rudeness!

Answer 7

"My mom always told me it's rude to comment on someone's weight".... Then just look at'em like they should have a reply.
100 pounds at 5 ft is a good weight. Doesn't look malnourished at all, in my opinion.

Or if it's someone you can really go off on you can say, "Well I can gain weight... Think you'll gain manners and intelligence anytime soon?"

Or, If you want to be polite...
"So MANY people are just so jealous of my size I think they'd like to see me fat."

Answer 8

Most Americans are overweight, thank God that you're healthy and slim.

Tell them "I thank God that it's easy for me to maintain my trim figure (or "athletic physique"), have you thought about toning up?"

Rejoice in your healthy life, and don't let them try to drag you down. You're a beautiful woman, in great shape, and a natural target for those who are not comfortable with their own bodies.

P.S. I'd love to see a pic of you, eyes up, open and bright, and smiling. Rock on sweetie!!

Answer 9

Don't worry.

I won't comment. That's pretty rude and personal, though.

Just say: "sorry am I taking up your space?"
" Your concern is not appropriate."
" Gee, your advice was not called for."
" Why aren't you pleased with God's creation--me?

Laugh it off and be polite.

You be the educated one, and command the upper hand.

Answer 10

I would tell you to tell them to kiss your you know what but really all you should do is ignore them. Because your body is not their business, you were made that way for a reason and they shouldn't be worrying about it.