I was invited to an end of the T-ball season party for the kids. It was at a house and the kids played with a water game in the back, we had pizza, cake, drinks, etc. Trophies were given, etc. Once people began leaving, everyone else was bolting. Should've seen how fast they went, but my wife, son and I stayed behind to help the host clean up their back porch area, pick up trash, stuff like that. It took me aback to see no one else pitch in.
2007-07-09 07:15:55 · 19 answers · asked by RickNY 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Welcome to the world of children's organized sports. You'll find that kind of behavior with every aspect of the organization, be it the team management, practices, fund raising, concession stand, or as you've witnessed, the end of season parties.
Take pride in the fact that you and your family have the good manners to know better than to take advantage of a situation by following the crowd. You're teaching your children responsibility and good manners, as obviously, your parents taught you. Good for you!
2007-07-09 07:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were the polite one and the others were totally rude. Next year before the trophies are given out it might be an idea for someone on the executive to tell people to clean up the mess first as the premises were kindly donated for the night. Some rude people have to be TOLD to do the right thing in situations like this.
2007-07-10 09:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ALWAYS help clean up after a party. It's just common courtesy. However, I just hosted a party at my house a few weeks back, and people were trying to bolt on me too. I just let several of their kids stay over and when 11am came for kid p/u time and parents started showing up- I sent all the kids outside with trash bags and supervised until the whole yard was clean. Ahhh...child labor - cheap and reliable!
2007-07-09 14:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by J*Mo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A star for you for helping with the clean up ! That was very kind of you and your Mrs. to do. There is no law that says you have to help the host and hostess,but a good guest will offer. It shows that you folks have real class ! By the way I'm having a party next week wanta come over ? NO JUST KIDDING ! LOL !
2007-07-09 15:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The only situation where one should not help the host is where they have hired help to clean up, as in a catered party.
I always stay behind to help clean up. Even if the host says, 'Oh, you don't have to do that' I have always found that they are grateful for the help. You can always ask a few of the bolters to help, too. I have actually gone so far as to stand up and say, "Nobody leaves until we help [name of host] clean up this mess we all made!" This makes light of the situation, and people usually pitch in.
But it does shock me how many people will leave a party without lifting a finger to help straighten up.
2007-07-09 14:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's polite to help clean up, or at least offer. I host parties all the time providing food, drinks and a venue (my house) and rarely does anyone even offer to help clean up afterwords.
When someone does offer, I will tell them it's not necessary. If I decline assistance from a guest that has offered, and that guest subsequently leaves without helping, it is ok. It's really the offer that counts.
2007-07-09 14:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's always nice to help out. How can anyone go wrong when you show politeness?
The people who had the party were nice enough to host it, it's the least you can do to help clean up. You did a good thing!
2007-07-09 14:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Starscape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday at a dinner party..the host said to everyone.."Let's all grab something..and carry it back inside." Worked great!
Knowing the clean up plan..is part of organizing a party. I don't think people mean to be lazy by 'not helping'. They just do not think of it.
2007-07-09 14:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you and yours!!! Most lazy, freeloading and senseless people bolt the minute the party's over and the cleaning starts. You did right and will be held in higher regards by the host and hostess!
2007-07-09 14:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in this situation you did the right thing. I also would have stayed. However, sometimes it is approiate to leave. If you try to stay and the host thanks you for helping then they truly appreciate your help. I think that if a host tells you more than once that it isn't necessary to stay that it would be better to leave. I had a dinner party one time and had a girl stay to help me clean up. I really appreciated her trying to help but I was so tired and just wanted to go to sleep and clean up the next day. I think it depends on the situation.
2007-07-09 14:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by dalbana5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋