Etiquette - March 2007

When I say thankyou, the response is "Uh-Huh" instead of "Your welcome". Is this an American thing?

2007-03-05 13:49:14 · 14 answers · asked by Rockford 7

Its been three months, ended on good terms. Too late to ask for a letter of recomendation?

2007-03-05 13:48:11 · 3 answers · asked by MB2008 1

my date and i bought matching band t-shirts (the hush sound) and i was thinking of just wearing jeans and chucks with that. is that too casual? any suggestions on other ideas of what to wear?

2007-03-05 13:34:10 · 3 answers · asked by tiffany 2

I am writing a leter to my son's grandfather on his dads side. My ex (sons father) when i was with him refused to alow me to communicate with his father. I did not belive it was right so i am now trying to make up for that. What kind of things should i include in this letter? he does not know anything about his grandson besides that he has one also i would like some cute ideas on how to write it.

2007-03-05 13:32:45 · 4 answers · asked by Gypsy 3

... people answer a question with another question?

Isn't it considered rude and/or disrespectful or something?

Your thoughts please.

2007-03-05 13:15:23 · 13 answers · asked by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3

My good colleague is retiring. She would comeback and work part-time when she retires. She said she didn't want to disappoint her clients if they found out right now. I told her that I was disappointed. She said we would have more time to go to lunch now that she would be working part-time.
We going to have lunch next week. I said we could go to
"Max's" or wherever else. Max's is her favorite favorite place.

At the end of our conversation, she started crying.

Why was she crying?

2007-03-05 13:11:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 12:38:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom has this great gift basket site and she had it up for a couple months but no hits. she has been working extremely hard on this. if i told you the site would you please at least look at it and maybe order if you wish.

2007-03-05 12:26:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is there a proper amount of time to wait to send a sympathy card when someone you know suffers a loss! Is it proper to send the card before the funeral or is it good etiquette to wait a week or so?

2007-03-05 12:13:11 · 14 answers · asked by duke4172 3

2007-03-05 12:05:58 · 2 answers · asked by jc 1

The room service menu at my hotel says there that 18% gratuity, sales tax, and a $2 delivery charge will be added to my bill. Do I still need to tip the delivery guy a few extra dollars?

2007-03-05 11:45:01 · 13 answers · asked by doza1621 3

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/politics/story/0,,2026245,00.html

Drugs reclassification prgramme, Observer-style.

He sat down all night and has not even bought a pint. Is that good for business?

2007-03-05 11:40:44 · 8 answers · asked by Perseus 3

Assuming you are not a manager, do you have problems with females ganging up on you or bringing their personal problems into work? This seems to be a predictable pattern wherever I work that is mostly female.

2007-03-05 11:29:40 · 6 answers · asked by trendsetter 3

2007-03-05 11:22:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 10:48:23 · 9 answers · asked by *Z*=D 3

Yesterday, I went to Willi*m So*oma with my husband. We parked our car right in front of the store and I entered the store before my husband.

The entrance door was completely opened and I saw this greenting lady inside the store when I walked in. I looked at her for probably three to four seconds then she looked away and showed her back to me even though there was nobody around her and she wasn't talking to anybody or nobody was calling her or anything. And then when my husband walked into the store after me, she greeted him saying " Welcomed to Willi*m Son*ma, guys."

When my husband entered the store, I was already looking for the grill pan that I wanted to buy, which was located near the entrance. And when my husband saw me looking for the pan without greeting her, he got very upset about my behavior toward her and told me that I completely ignored her and was very rude not to greet back to her when she greeted "us."

So I told him that we didn't enter the store together. I was walking at least 6 feet away from him because he was checking the broken piller outside the store. Besides after I looked at her, she looked away. So why was I rude that I didn't say anything back to her? But he told me that she looked at "US." So I told him that he didn't see the whole thing. I asked him if he saw that she looked away from me three to four seconds after I was looking at her. And he completely ignored what I'd just said and continued telling me that I was the bad one that I didn't greet her back.

But anyway... I don't know why she looked away when I entered the store. She was about to sneeze? Or she didn't want to greet me because I looked like a bi*ch ? Or she didn't want to greet me because I am a foreigner??? I don't know what the reason was. But the fact was that when I looked at her, she looked away. So how could I greet back to her???? Even though she looked away when I looked at her, I needed to stop and waited for her to look at me again and smile at her and hi to her???

Well...but that wasn't my first time that I wasn't greeted by these greeting ladies in general in the states. I've experienced about that so many times in the past and I got used to it even though it's kind sad to say that I got used to it. But I didn't want to make it as a big issue (well, it hadn't been really a big issue for me) so I just kept my mouth shut about it until my husband accused me that I was the rude person not greeting back to the greeting person who looked away or completely ignored my existance after I looked at her.

But I'm not saying or accusing that this lady at Willi*m Sono*ma was prejudice against me or anything because she is white and I'm asian....well...she might be.... but I don't want to think that she was prejudice but she had a different reason because I know that some greeting ladies don't greet everybody who comes in. And it doesn't matter whether the customers are White, Black or Asians. They just don't greet everybody all the time. I know that.

But anyways, I guessed that after I looked at her for seconds, she might have thought that she was about to sneeze so she looked away and turned her body even though she didn't sneeze??? Then when she wanted to look at me and greet me, I wasn't looking at her.... well because I was already looking for the grill after I thought she completely ignored me. Then she saw my husband so she just greeted him by welcoming us??? I don't know.....But the fact was that when I looked at her, she looked away and she completely showed her back to me. If you are in this situation, will you greet her back or will you want to greet her back or will you feel that you need to greet her back?

I just want to know if I was rude that I didn't say anything back to her. Do you think I needed to stop and turn around and tell her hi when she looked at my husband walking into the store and welcomed "us" even though I wasn't walking with my husband but walking 6 feet away from him and I was already looking for the grill pan after I saw that she totally looked away from me?

And do you think this is a big deal that he should be upseting about my behavior by a little bit yelling at me inside the store???

I feel like I'm asking an absurd question but my husband got really upset at my behavior so I just want to know if I was wrong. And I told him that this wasn't a big deal so I couldn't understand why it was so big deal to him. And I couldn't also understand why I as a customer needed to be so careful about my behavior and think how polite I should be to the people working at a store who don't even look at me but look away when I look at them. I do actually greet back to people if they greet me when I walk in. So why do I have to be so polite to the people who don't say anything to me or smile at me?

In the states, do customers need to initiate first to smile at the people working at any store so they welcome the customers? If the customers don't initiate to smile at them, they don't welcome and ignore them? My husband told me that it's so common that if customers look so bitchy or look pissy, the employees are ok to ignore them ( he told me that after I told him that she looked away when I looked at her then he said because I looked bitchy, she didn't want to look at me and greet me but she greeted him to greet both of us because he didn't look pissy or bitchy). But if that's true, that's a poor customer service. I worked in a hotel before but not in the states. I greeted all the customers who looked bitcy or pissy or whatever because I learned if I smiled at them, they usually smiled back at me. But if the customers "need" to ititiate first to smile at the employees first in this country, what kind of service do people teach to the employees in this country? Am I wrong to say that? Well, I totally understand that customers need to behave to a certain extent and they shouldn't be rude basically. But isn't it normal that the employees need to think to create a good environment for the customers by smiling at them and greeting them so the customers feel good to be in the environment and want to smile back at them and greet back to them ???? I feel like in this country, the customers need to do something first so the employees can give them a good service. Well, at least that's what my husband who is white American told me. But I just don't think that souds right....Anyways, was I wrong that I didn't greet her back? Is my husband right that it's ok for employees to ignore customers if they look bitchy or pissy?

2007-03-05 09:56:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-03-05 09:44:40 · 2 answers · asked by s.s.khatri 1

when I called in the order I ordered 2 pizzas, they kept saying "can I put you on hold" then I would give them my phone number....then..."can I put you on hold" then I would give them my debit card number....then put on hold again, well somehow they didnt give me the total and I didnt ask. When the pizza got here I saw it was 38 bucks! For 2 pizzas and thats it! I was like, honestly man I dont want the pizza anymore, but I didnt wanna stiff them so I paid for it, but only gave a 2 dollar tip. I know it wasnt the delievery guys fault, but I was already paying 40 for 2 pizzas. What could I have done? Chances are if I said I want my money back you know they wouldnt give me the charge back on my debit card, then I am out the money AND the food!

2007-03-05 09:33:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

who,challenge me!

2007-03-05 09:18:44 · 7 answers · asked by Jon 6

is better for me to discreetly relieve them right there so the don't make a spectacle, or am I supposed to leave them like that?

2007-03-05 08:42:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are there any stores that have house warming registries? They are already married, so a wedding registry won't do. Other than a registry, would it be appropriate to have a list in the invitation about what the couple could use?

2007-03-05 08:28:24 · 7 answers · asked by answer 1

I'm not from Ameria, so i dont know the etiquette for all of this. I have alot of relatives over here that i've only met like, one time or somthing. Should I still send them announcements? I have enough of them to do so, but i heard someone say that its pretty much when people send you money. I dont want to seem like i'm asking for money from people I dont even know. What should I do about this?

2007-03-05 08:08:13 · 4 answers · asked by elisabeth_rose88 2

I am graduating this May, and I want to send notices of it to family members. Well, I want some of my family to come and then some not to come. SO what do I send to the family members that I dont want to come so that they wont feel left out? I dont want them to come because they dont get along with the others, but frankly, I want them to send me congratulations or money.

2007-03-05 08:05:21 · 9 answers · asked by imcold07 3

My wife and I are 30 and have a 2 year old son and we refer to our neighbors and friends as Mr or Mrs so and so...This is the way we were brought-up. It is a way of showing respect for your elders. My wife and I have been somewhat troubled by the fact that our friends and neighbors (especially the ones of similar age) teach their children to refer to my wife and I by our first names. For example, my neighbor will say something like this to their child, "Say hello to John." I prefer to be refered to as Mr. (insert last name here). How can we correct others without making things difficult and awkward with our friends and neighbors? By the way, I attribute this lack of formality to the "casuasling of America." In today's world, we are all thought to be equals and that is just not the case. What are your thoughts on this subject and how also would you fix it?

2007-03-05 08:02:44 · 9 answers · asked by TheGarlicButterSaw 3

I'm from Louisiana and my family has always called Dinner, Supper.

Weirdos!!!!!!!!!!

2007-03-05 07:58:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

At school we were going into science.
The class was getting their science books as I asked If this class was boring...because other people had said it was.Jokingly...of course.I didnt mean it in a rude way.and he said it was a bad impression of me.Later he had to talk to me and tell me It was disrespectful and rude and innapropriate to say such a thing.He had asked me If I had friends and then asked me if I talked to them like that.I said yes...I was unsure of his question.He said he'd give me another chance.Im in the 7th grade.
Do you think It was disrespectful...should I have said it??

2007-03-05 07:29:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am doing a survey about how people's finances are before and after counseling service. How do i ask if they are embarrassed about their finances without implying they should be, remember it needs to be conscise because it's for a survey

2007-03-05 07:19:44 · 7 answers · asked by S2k4 1

...why did this happen?

2007-03-05 07:13:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got 2 single seats (not together) for The Police at Fenway Park Boston, MA during an online presale for Best Buy Rewards members. The next day I checked ticket availability for my office mate and was able to get 2 seats together on my ticketmaster account with my office mates credit card. I want to give her the seperate seats and take the two together because my wife would most probably not go with seperate seating. My office mate would not be going if not for my help. I should have demanded it right then but did not. This is a very hot ticket... What would you say or do?

2007-03-05 07:13:33 · 4 answers · asked by Mark 4

2007-03-05 07:11:34 · 3 answers · asked by element_op 3