My good colleague is retiring. She would comeback and work part-time when she retires. She said she didn't want to disappoint her clients if they found out right now. I told her that I was disappointed. She said we would have more time to go to lunch now that she would be working part-time.
We going to have lunch next week. I said we could go to
"Max's" or wherever else. Max's is her favorite favorite place.
At the end of our conversation, she started crying.
Why was she crying?
2007-03-05 13:11:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
she's probably just emotional since she really doesnt want to leave. her working there was probably a huge part of her life and now maybe shes worried about what to do with the extra time. it's going to be a big change for her, and change can be scary for some people
2007-03-08 10:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by tiff_n_a00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good things come to an end and your friend may be sensing that an important era in her life has come.
While she may be excited on one hand, change is hard and her emotions are definately going to supercharged right now. The fact that you expressed your disappointment with her makes her wonder if she is doing the right thing for the right reasons at this time in her life.
She may also be concerned that your relationship will change now that she will not be able to see you as frequently as before and in light of your personal feelings about her departure from the company.
If it is still a priority to you, you can reassure her that you still want to maintain the friendship. Calendar a weekly or monthly lunch date that is a "catch up time" for the two of you.
The most important thing you can do for her now is to be her friend as she navigates some uncharted waters in her personal and professional life. Consider how it might affect you when your time to retire comes along.
2007-03-05 21:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was overwhelmed by what it meant to be retiring. On top of these feelings she was likely feeling at this very moment, you said nice things, you were understanding, and were positive about the situation and the future. She was filled with conflicting emotions and didn't know what to do with it...and wept. You sound like a great friend.
2007-03-05 22:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was crying because a major part of her life is ending. Sure she will have more time, but work and her work family has been a big part of her life. Many of us cry at the "end" of something even if it is our choice to leave.
2007-03-05 21:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was touched that you wanted to go to her favorite place with her. She might miss working full-time, and is a little afraid of the changes that will come in her life. I hope you gave her a hug.
2007-03-05 21:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's still the end of a part of her life.
2007-03-06 04:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by mosrider2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's retiring and beginning a new chapter in her life.
Saying goodbye to your past is always emotionally draining.
Why else?
P.S. Why did you tell her you were disappointed?!? About what exactly???
2007-03-05 21:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her. It could be that she is ending a long chapter in her life, but it could be something else.
2007-03-05 21:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Richard H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's getting sentimental.
2007-03-05 22:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋