Am having a debate with a friend; I maintain that 'please' is not always polite.
"Please do this" is usually an order. There's not much room to wiggle out of it.
On the other hand, casual requests -- "If you can spare the time, do you think you could get X done?" -- let the person you're asking say "I don't have the time, sorry," or "Sure, just as soon as I'm finished with Y."
The latter strikes me as much more polite. The friend disagrees -- 'please' is, for him, required. I say it makes for an awkward exchange, especially because the response to either phrasing tends to be followed with a 'thank you.' 'Please do this,' 'Yes,' 'Thank you,' strikes me as stilted and along the lines of what you'd expect from a grade school teacher and a student.
Am I, er, less old-fashioned than the friend? Is that even old-fashioned? Can you think of situations where one would be clearly better than the other, or is it an all-the-time thing for you? Etc, etc. Your comments...?
2007-03-06
02:32:01
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