I was out at a restaurant last night and this old couple was running this poor girl around so much and they were scolding her cause the order wasn't right the meat was well done and they wanted medium. Some people seem to think they are sub-human, I gave her a 40 dollar tip because I felt sorry for her.
2007-03-06 02:17:57 · 26 answers · asked by lisalau 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Coincidentally, people who behave this way are not polite in other areas either. It has been my experience that these slavedrivers are lazy and helpless in the kitchen, themselves. Yes, I have proof.
You are quite generous to make up the difference to her. You probably saved her a lot of heartache and restlessness, but it wasn't your responsibility. It was really the place of the tactless restaurant guests to treat her with respect and a level sense of human interaction.
God bless you
2007-03-06 02:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well my problem in some restaurants are that the service is poor. I have been in restaurants where the waitress does not come to get our drink orders for at least 10 minutes. If our order is wrong (which if I order steak it usually is I like mine extra well done) I just cut it up into long thin strips and send it back so it will be done the second time it comes out. (That is not the fault of the waitress).
The service has been so poor in a few restaurants I have left 1 penny. In restaurants where the service is good I have left up to 50% of my total bill. Up to $75.
2007-03-06 02:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only people who are nasty to waitresses are people who are underachieving losers in their own lives and want to take it out on someone else.
This makes me really angry. A lot of social etiquette is concerned with power balances. The more powerful person in any situation should always be polite and generous to the less powerful person. For instance, young people should hold doors open for elderly people; the boss should buy his or her employees' drinks; the big kid should protect the little kid.
It is immensely undignified to turn this situation the other way around: to shove past elderly people, to insist that your minions buy your drinks, or for a big kid to beat up a little one. All it does is reflect very badly on you.
If the waitress in question had made a mistake, the correct way to respond would be to point it out politely with a smile. I'm sure she would have been happy to fix it and everyone would have been a lot less uncomfortable.
Occasionally, you get a waiter or waitress who really is useless, but you still never lose by being polite back. If you're rude, it's you who looks like an ***. Every time.
I used to be a waitress, too. These days, I'm a customer, and I tip good service generously. I think what you did on this occasion was excellent and very kind.
2007-03-06 03:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Saint Bee 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's perfectly acceptable to send food back if it tastes bad or isn't what you ordered. I've been on both ends of this mostly the waitstaff end and ironically, bad service makes me madder than rude customers. The fact is you don't know what kind of service she provided to this couple.
Getting cold or overcooked food when you have been looking forward to and saving for an occasion to dine out, and then having the person make it seem like it's your fault or you're being unreasonable when you ask them to correct the problem, can cause lots of frustration.
It's not polite or smart to insult someone who is bringing your food but saying "look you got our order wrong you need to fix it" is a perfectly legimitate complaint. Now a days too many people think if someone YOU ARE PAYING makes a mistake or neglects you that it's rude to point it out. This is rediculous.
I know people who will literally suck down an awful weak watery Starbucks mocha which is missing the coffee because they're afraid to appear rude by asking the server to fix it. It's nonsense!
Since you could obviously afford a 40 dollar tip, you don't appear to be the type of person who has to save up or have a special occasion to go out to dinner, most of us do, and we want it to be a good experience, and shouldn't have to have to apologize for complaining when someone ruins it.
2007-03-06 10:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. I think people like that suck. It could be because of her job, but it could have also been just because she's younger. I think some elderly people treat young people like they are stupid. The receptionist where I work is almost 70, and I am 26. If I am on the phone and a client comes in and wants to talk to me, she will come to my desk and stand behind me until I acknowledge her. Yes, she knows I'm on the phone before she comes back there, because my light is on. She also used to tell me she couldn't do things when I asked her to that I would see her do for other people in the office. Whether it is because of her job or her age, neither is right.
2007-03-06 08:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to wait tables, so I've been on both sides of the table.
I agree with you that there are people who treat wait staff as if they are servants and then they act all pissy because the waitperson actually "expects" a tip.
These people are payed a pittance by the restaurants that employ them. They are working for tips. Don't run them ragged and then not tip them.
I always try to be extra nice to wait staff, and I am a good tipper. And, as a result, I always get great service...
Peace
2007-03-06 02:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My dad always told me that some people like to take their aggression out on servers because it is their job to be nice and they are forced to take it. Some people abuse waitstaff because they can get away with it. I'm a server and some people treat me like I am a total retard. I usually prove them wrong by the end of their stay. It's just that immediately off the bat, they assume I am stupid becuase of the job I have. When, in reality, I have a college education and 2 jobs. I'm just waiting tables to pay off my student loans. Hell, maybe they've had bad service before and think that they need to prep you first. Maybe some bad waitress screwed it up for the rest of us, who knows?
2007-03-06 08:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion people who treat waitresses, cashiers, toll booth operators, retail associates very badly are compensating for being mistreated themselves. Either their boss, wife, co-worker, or landlord treats them like an underling and so they feel they must treat others like underlings. I think that kind of behavior is disgusting. It also reminds me to be that much nicer to anyone I come in contact with who is working for a living and is not here to take peoples crap.
2007-03-07 21:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, you are a sweet heart! I would love to be your server! I have been treated like I am a child and called stupid to my face. I had an old lady tell me that I was a waitress because I didn't do well in school. I told her that I was a college student....a senior to be exact. She looked at me with comeplete doubt.
Some people just suck!
2007-03-06 03:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. Some people think that people that work in the service industry is there to be their personal slave and it actually pisses me off. Both my daughter and I had jobs in the service industry,(she was a waitress at one time, I was a hotel maid) and we both encountered people that treated us like we were less than human. I always try to treat them with respect because I know what it's like.
2007-03-06 02:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋