i dated my best friend who is 28 for a year. we were best friends 4 a whole year a year b4 that. after she dumped me anytime i would get interested n another girl she'd tell me to *** over to her apt 4 sex. that was november now shes seeing some 35 yr old guy who rides a harley and i see her maybe once a week. she says i'm still her best friend & she's moving to Atlanta GA this year sometime & she says she'll miss me terribly when she leaves. anytime i date a girl she is so critical of her, but anytime i say anything about harley guy she gets defensive. she never hardly calls me anymore, & i love her so much as a friend, & she says she loves me, as a friend, but i get the feeling she's just tryin 2 keep me under her thumb so she can manipulate me. all of my friends tell me she's manipulative. how do i find out if she's a manipulator &trying to keep me under her thumb or if she's REALLY my best friend? I REALLY need good advice here. It seems she never has time for me, am I being used?
2007-03-06 02:20:37 · 7 answers · asked by chrissexysmile 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She sounds like a master manipulator. I hate to say this , but you need to stay away from her and keep her out of your life. All she's gonna do is use you. She only wants to see you when it's convenient for her. You sound like a nice guy and you can find better friends. A real friend wouldn't treat someone like she treats you.
2007-03-06 02:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango and you've got your dancing shoes on. Simply the fact that you go over to her place for sex when she asks is enough to tell me you don't know how to be just a friend. She's gotten used to you being her back-up because you are so willing to be that. Flat out refuse to have sex with her if it should come up again. And when you're seeing someone new and she starts criticizing merely smile and say "she suits me fine." and change the subject. If she's your friend she'll realize that she can't treat you like that anymore and will be willing to let the relationship develop to whatever, if she's not she'll get huffy and find a new boy toy
2007-03-06 05:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her actions speak for her & not her words. "Actions speak louder than words." Your friends who know you & her are telling you she is what you don't want her to be - a manipulator. You want her to care for you as much as you do for her. It hasn't happened all the time you have known her, it isn't going to happen in the future or in Atlanta. Spend more time with your friends who know you & can give you good advice/distractions from her, & maybe introduce you to a cutie who will reciprocate your romantic feelings.
2007-03-06 02:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feelings are correct. So squeeze out from underneath her thumb and take a walk with someone else. You won't be missed.
2007-03-06 02:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't get the friend and stop over for sex if you want to idealism. Your are either just a friend with no strings or a lover with emotional attachments. Sorry, can't have it all, fella.
2007-03-06 03:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally it seems that she doesn't like you as a partner anymore, but she also doesn't like other people liking you, i don't really think she is using you. She may be jealous. I don't really think you should rule her out of your life but maybe distance yourself from her a little.
2007-03-06 03:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not there for you unless shes jelous. cut her loose and move on with your life.
2007-03-06 02:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋