Lack of respect, does it make you angry?

Question

What the hell is wrong with people. Why doesn't anyone speak to you properly, with due deference? Why the "attitude" and rudeness, which seems to permeate every aspect of modern life?

Dammit, I'm so angry.

Answer 1

You have taken the words right out of my mouth, yes they do make me angry, it is very rare to find a polite person, albeit if you are in a supermarket a shop, or just walking on the pavement, in fact i find my self apologising if someone has bumped into me.
I am sick of it

Answer 2

I'm not sure if I'd be angry at them, more like, sorry for them for not being taught respect from their parents. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree and there seems to be a whole lot more of rotten apples laying around than there use to be.
All you can do is show respect and never allow rudeness to bother you. When a person shows attitude, tell them that their behavior is not necessary or appreciated, in a respectful way (like... I don't think your tone is necessary or appreciated ). Some get it, some don't, but by saying nothing, they honestly don't see anything wrong with their behavior.
Good or bad, right or wrong, what exactly is proper manners, it's not like it's taught in school or mandatory at home. It's like taking your hat off, in others people's homes, schools, restaurants or churches, it's not a law but it is proper manners, how many people actually do this anymore.
Everyone is taught manners differently and not a whole lot of people really give it a thought, until someone calls them on it.

Answer 3

In most cases the lack of respect is a result of how children are raised at home. Psychologists call it "maladaptive behavior", it can be described as poor upbringing. Too much unsupervised TV or movies could be part of the problem; some of the so called Kid friendly shows are no truly that good, there "hero like children" with awful manners and poor language are magnified, and children learn from them; media, including TV, influence behavior. Children often learn from those who surround them attitudes, words and behavior. Therefore, most of those rotten apples we have to deal with every day, are the result of a sick society that focuses in self satisfaction instead of bringing up their children properly. Personally, I think that if somebody doesn't want the heavy responsibility of parenthood, should avoid pregnancy, and those who are parents should be tougher (not brutal) and give less privileges, responsibility and domestic chores to kids. Privileges, trust and respect should be earned to be worth. Life is not just about receiving, is also about earning, sharing and giving to others. Rude people makes me feel upset, and when it goes too far I complain to a superior authority or even to the police; otherwise I just let it go. I remain polite, and always keep in mind that the nasty behavior of others have to do more with them that with me.

Answer 4

Your anger is warranted but won't do any good to help the problem. I work with children and see this all the time. It's a shame, really. But it must come from the home. The only thing I can do is lavish the proper attitude on them, demand it of them when they're around me, and hope they take a hint some day.

I once opened a door for a young lady - probably 14 or 15 years old and she looked at me funny, like I was out for something. I simply told her this is what people are supposed to do and bid her a good afternoon.

Answer 5

Do you know I used to get angry especially as I come from a country where the people are much friendlier but I decided to just accept it if I want to live here but I agree with you. People are rude. I think it's also the ipod to blame believe it or not. People just seem to stop communicating when they have those little things in their ears

Answer 6

Well said! I've always been a tickler for manners. Too many people get exactly what they want by being rude and aggressive, so others join in. Hence the sheep mentality that permeates society,

Answer 7

This 20-30s generation needs to take a grand look at their grandparents generation who was heavily involved with the Dr. Spock movement and children of the 50's. They are absolutely miserable and extremely needy, intrusive out of jealousy (they hate the love your grand-children received) and self-centered....their legacy is limited to money to wave around and were jealous of their offspring wanting to raise their children in a balanced manner. Even the housewives were work-aholics it was all about image then and I truly wonder how many have changed their ways to-date. Most of this generation is calling themselves Christians? Will there be change from this era that is deemed by the media to be peaceful...they rioted and took drugs in their young adult years. It seems to me some have not passed yet their legacy is engraved in stone and it's nothing to be proud of.

Answer 8

Angry? I think that is just life. Life is like that. Life is just full of people who are lacking of respect. That is already a human primal behavior, lack of respect to the others.
We have to accept it with open arms. You really cannot expect people to respect you all the time. Your expectation is your ultimate boomerang that will make you angry all the time. We cannot change people at all. We are the one who have to change to be the better version and not become like them .

Answer 9

I don't get what's wrong with people either, I think it's a pride issue because they feel if they give someone respect that they are saying they are under that person or something. I don't know but it's stupid it's just something some people do to make them feel better about themselves. I know it sounds pretty ridiculous but stupid people do stupid things what do you expect. Like these two girls I know don't respect anyone because they think they are so much better than everyone else but that's okay because they'll get theirs in time. Patience my friend...they'll get theirs.

Answer 10

It does indeed. And I don't even consider myself *old*...but maybe I am and I'm just in denial.

One of the most important things I think I've ever taught my children is respect and I think that is one major life lesson that most people haven't gotten or have just plum forgotten about it in their everyday lives!

It tickled me the other day when my son got up from the chair he was sitting in so that my mom (his grandma, obviously) could sit down...he told her *Here grandma, you can sit here, I'm young and I actually like to stand up* (hes 11)

It was so awesome!

Have a nice day! Its almost Spring!