So I hired a nanny and was clear: I wanted someone to HELP me, not to replace me. If I am home and can do it, there's no reason why I shouldn't. Even when she's there. She's more of a backup, for when I am at work (part-time). She's really a fantastic nanny. I feel safe having her care for my daughter. The trouble is, I sometimes find that she loves my child so much that it makes me uncomfortable. NOT BECAUSE I THINK SHE WOULD DO ANYTHING BAD. But because I feel like my child is her life. She lost her husband three years ago and now has nothing except my daughter and her own children who live fairly far away. She's caring and loving, like a grandmother, but to give you an example: after the first week of working for me, and two days off, she came rushing back and told me how much she missed my daughter. She also sometimes refers to my daughter as her own baby. For example, "I'm going to check on my baby." "I'm going to change my baby." Is this weird?
2007-01-09
14:16:35
·
18 answers
·
asked by
Anonymous
in
Parenting