She has been bitting my 4 year old when they argue...and she bites hard enough to leave a mark-people have told me to bite her back but I just can't bite my litte girl...any other suggestions?
2007-01-09 14:35:45 · 21 answers · asked by 2princesses 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
DO NOT BITE YOUR DAUGHTER!
Check out this website:
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/biting/Stopping_Toddler_Biting_Behaviors.htm
It has MANY suggestions by veteran parents, pediatricians, and child development specialists which work.
2007-01-09 14:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I went through this with my two boys. My 1 1/2 year old would not stop biting his 2 1/2 year old brother. What I did was threaten him with a kitchen spoon. If I was sitting in our living room and I saw my youngest about to bite his brother, I would sternly say his name and pick up the spoon. He immediately backed off. When he did bite his brother I would explain to him that it was really hurting his brother when he did that. He did get a few spanks here and there, but most times the threat would work. Although, one time my oldest took matters into his own hands and actually bit back...about 5 bites to his brother's back once!
2007-01-09 17:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Elvis Luvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm opposed to all hitting of children, and would include biting them. I certainly didn't bite my kids when they bit me during nursing - i just immediately removed the breast and looked sternly at them. The problem ended almost immediately. I'm wondering how you can do this. You'd have to be there - and of course you should not leave a 2 year old alone with a 4 year old - and observing so that you could instantly remove the 2 year old from what she's doing so she gets the message.
You want at the same time to be telling her - use your words, not your teeth! which could amuse everyone and help some. "Oh, you're frustrated; When i'm frustrated, it helps me to ..."
Have you let your 4 year old bite her back? I'd hate to have that as a solution, but it may come to that.
2007-01-09 14:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know, it does sound awful, but both my 2 children used to bite.. Maybe all kids try this at some stage.. And I tried the bite them scenerio.. It worked for my two.. I didnt just chomp down to make a mark on them.. I gently bit but with enough clamp to make them feel a sting.. They stopped after that.. Some professionals claim this is wrong.. They also claimed spanking is wrong.. I dont agree.. I think a little whack goes a long way.. I and all my siblings were discliplined like this and we are happy productive adults with no disorders now.. goodluck! and I hope you find your own solution
2007-01-09 14:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I taught in a preschool, and when we had children who bit, we would try to determine what was causing the biting. We would also tell the child how much the other child is hurt right now. Instead of yelling or expressing frustration with the biter, we would also hold and pay a lot of attention to the injured child.
Every child is different. You need to determine what works with yours.
2007-01-09 14:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by TechTeachr2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in the biting back thing too. I did it to both of my children and they never bit again. Not saying to leave a mark or draw blood just hard enough for the child to know the pain. Good luck!!
2007-01-09 15:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A light tap on the mouth with a shouted NO! broke my Grandson of biting his cousin in just one day. He was just over a year old, and was totally bummed that Grampa yelled at him. You're the adult, the authority. It is your duty to teach your child that there are behaviors that aren't acceptable and penalties for stepping over the line.
2007-01-09 14:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite back. That is the best advice that I ever got from my mother-in-law when it comes to raising children. Not like you bite till you draw blood, and it doesn't even have to be as hard as what she did....just enough to get her attention. My mother-in-law said that when my brother-in-law was little, he bit her HARD in the shoulder........she bit him back, and he never once tried it again. And remember, if you rely on time out's for your means of discipline, that time out will soon mean nothing to the child and they will no longer be effective.
2007-01-09 14:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by lil lady 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
do no longer bite him! babies be taught by potential of occasion. Separate the youngsters and attempt to be certain what is going on between them. perchance your older son is hectic the infant, or perchance the extra youthful is the aggressor. At any cost, you are able to desire to oversee him whilst he's along with his brother and be optimistic to self-discipline him accurately. do no longer ever use actual violence till you desire him to believe it relatively is high-quality. you are able to no longer be waiting to describe issues nicely to a toddler so small, yet eliminate his toys and placed him on day out, and get him to appreciate that he purely gets them back if he stops biting. additionally, make a very loud frightening noise each time he bites. That works with canine besides. better of success to you!
2016-12-16 05:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by franchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that my answer will make a lot of people angry, but when my boys bit me, I bit back. No matter what. They stopped both after that when they realized that it hurt. I just thought of the consequences when they would start biting neighbors kids and that's why I did it. Both are grown with children of their own and suffered no ill effect.
2007-01-09 14:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋