Singles & Dating - 12 November 2007

Earlier I Asked A Question Whether Or Not It Was Wrong To Be Attracted To Nerdy Men , I Have Gotten Many Responses, Now I Need To Know Where Would I Find One? Im Only In My Late Teens, And Im Truly Stuck, My Ex Was A Smart Man, And I Found His Mind Amazing, He Fascinated Me With His Ideas And Theories On Things, I Really Want What I Had With Him Back, But Its Time To Move On And Find Another.

2007-11-12 20:09:25 · 16 answers · asked by * STAR * 2

I have a very dear close aunt who has been an extra parent for me since I was a kid. Now that I am an adult, we are able to hang out together although I wouldnt say we are close as she is still more of an authoritative person to me. We are from different countries and recently her serious boyfriend came to the city I live to start work. She asked me to get in touch with him to make sure he's alright etc. So I did and we became friends. I felt a bit sorry for him to be in a strange place and he would ask me if i would have dinner with him a few times and I did.
One day he invited himself when i mentioned i was going clubbing with my friends and I welcomed him. His reason was that he'd like to see the club. So we went and everyone had fun although he trying to get a bit cosy with my girlfriend and I by dancing too close or hugging too tight when pictures were to be taken. It gave my friends and I uncomfortable vibes although i was still sticking up for him saying he's just drunk.
At about 4am we all started to leave and my girlfriend sarah and I had to work the next day so we were esp in a rush. But then my 'uncle' told me that he had to come back to my place because he had something really important to tell me and once he did,i might faint so he needed to tell me at my place. Straight away my friends and i thought it was weird and we refused but he still walked with us when we were walking so i was in two minds as he is still my aunt's bf and i didnt wanna offend him but also he was being really creepy. In the end my friend offered her place for us to talk. We went, and the 'news' he told me wasn't that big a deal and he was taking forever to finish a drink after that conversation was over and we still kept rushing him but he wouldnt leave. In the end sarah told me to go home and sleep and she would handle my 'uncle'. The next day sarah said he left an hour after i did, and talked so much and non stop. He even made too many compliments to her and asked her number but she refused. He told her he wanted to ask her out.
Now- he told my aunt that he went home after 5am but didnt say he was at my friend's place. He even had the knack of asking my aunty to ask me for sarah's number to which i refused too.
He's just received news that he will be transferring to another country. So a few days ago when my aunt was not with him, he called me and told me that he likes me and wishes he was 20 years younger and was sorry to leave the country because of me as he'd want to be close to me. He even asked me if i could meet him alone without her. I made it clear to him that I wasnt interested because -HELLO!- he's dating my aunty for god's sakes. He doesnt think that this is an important factor but i told him no anyways. Ever since then i have hardly answered his calls and only speak to him when i need to.
Before this whenever he did anything annoying or made jokes that were too much and if i were to complain about him embarassing me by telling other things private things about me she would firstly- tell him off, then tell me that he probably didnt mean it, and then she'd laugh about it. Even when I'm clearly upset about something. She seems to defend him.
My dilemma now is that I dont know whether I should brush this off,or should I tell her. My friends think I should just let it go because he's only flirting and hasn't physically tried anything. Plus since he's leaving the country anyway. If I told her I would be in their bad books plus make things very uncomfortable for everyone. Plus there is a chance he would say he was just joking and she would believe him thus making me look like a fool.

2007-11-12 20:07:10 · 3 answers · asked by suzi q 2

I am in this relationship with my b'friend who I do love and would do anything for. He has encouraged me to have sex with his 3 friends who he has known for a while. They sit and talk about what they want to do to me and some of it scares me pretty much but I'll do anything to please my b'friend...you may think thats wrong?

These guys think its far bettter to do all this without condoms but what to have sex with me after each other. I feel messy how can they like this? and why do they refuse to use protection??

Its not so easy for me to end this cos my b'friend always talks me into it especially cos his mates are here every night and want sex my b'friend lets it happen and seems they all get off on watching

2007-11-12 20:03:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My gf and I are 21 and have been dating 1 yr+ and have gotten serious: planning engagement. Lately, she will invite me over and watch tv, immerse herself on her computer, or do hw and kind of ignore me until we go to bed. In addition, shes in a sorority, and I feel like her sorority, work, and family all come before i do with anything and i seem to be there for when she wants me there. I have to,key word I, plan everything we do around those things..if we have plans and something comes up she will drop our plans. Plus sex doesn't just 'happen', I have to tell her I want sex so I feel like I'm begging. I've tried talking to her and she says everything is fine and then backfires questions on me making me feel like **** for asking. I just want her to respect my feelings and I feel like she doesnt care. I do everything for her and love her to death. I thought maybe I should give her space since we are together 24/7, but she said that she has plenty. Advice Please?

2007-11-12 19:54:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a pretty messed up situation at the moment I do say myself. I have been with my bfriend for 6 months and he has encouraged a sexual relationship to develop between me and his 3 friends. I really like his friends and admit they are all pretty hot so it makes it easier for me to do what my b'friend wants me to do...i.e have sex with them (especially as I do crave attention from my childhood and when they are with me I am always been touched or made love to so it makes me feel special).

I asked one of them last night why they are with me when they are perfectly capable of getting a pretty woman of their own and he said he wanted me cos I look like sex?? How can a girl look like sex? I am not mega tall, probably average height blond hair and green eyes, how is this sex???

2007-11-12 19:37:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 13 and have a size 36D and all my friends are saying you have had them done when I haven't. I have to say they are pretty big is this normal I have tried to hold them in but this did not work what should I do?

2007-11-12 19:32:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have never really talked to people much in my life because I was always very shy. I was an only child and I didn't have much of a chance to communicate with other people. I can't seem to carry on a conversation very well and I know it goes back to my lack of interaction with others growing up. I would appreciate any advice on how to improve my overall social skills/communication skills. Thanks.

2007-11-12 19:31:49 · 12 answers · asked by mao ying 3

My ex boyfriend broke up with me over 3 years ago when I moved away from college and he couldnt handle the long distance. He is also seven years older and said "we're both living seperate lives." Ever since he broke it off, he hasnt been able to let go. He continuously calls me, says he misses me etc. I recently found out he has a new girl and was shocked, and kinda hurt. Why does he still tell me he loves me and misses me if he has a new girlfriend? GUYS: what do you think?

2007-11-12 19:29:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can I find out how he truely feels?
My ex boyfriend broke up with me over three years ago when I moved away for college...He is seven years older and was starting his career and said the long distance was hard etc. We stayed friends (w/benefits but only saw him every 4 months or so) for about 2 yearss until I found out he had another girl and told him I could just be friends. Last week I was visitng and we got together and he told me he was single. It had been about 4 months since I told him we could just be friends. He tried to get me to stay over..but I just kissed him and left. This weekend he was in my town (not visiting me but a friend) and we got together for an hour in the day and it was kinda awkard. I still like him a lot and cant figure out how he feels..why does he still contact me? do you think he still has feelings for me? guys..is it hard for you to open up? he knows now that i wont sleep with him but is still keepin in touch..?!?

2007-11-12 19:25:15 · 8 answers · asked by Janie 1

this guy is a shady mean jerk, just a total a hole, is it normal to feel some kind of weird attraction towards him even though you know he is very toxic and bad

2007-11-12 19:24:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

all ny friends had had sex with their bf but i feel left out sometimes. How does it feel? What's it like? Is it fun or dumb? Please answer!

2007-11-12 19:17:44 · 18 answers · asked by princess_kitkat96 1

I sent my bf a text last night saying wanna come over thurs this week (as he visits once a week to my house with folks) he replied with I may *** thurs fri and stay sat and sun but ill let ya know, have a good sleep sweetie.
We do have a wedding together sat so do u think this is fine or as though he is leaving it open for something better to come up or im being really silly??

2007-11-12 18:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do you think is too many people to sleep with?

2007-11-12 18:47:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf (7 months) adores me I know he does.
He has 1 of his mates moving into his house share who has a gf who I find attractive.
My man is always affectionate towards me in front of everyone including her. 1 night we were all partying hard doingsubstances & it looked from where I was standing he was flirting with her & talking 2 her heaps alone I went off about it, he had no clue what I was talking about & says where has this come from & she isnt his type anyway, he would never do that to a mate & never 2 me.
He has told me she is too skinny & looks like a ferrit.
Ever since this new guy is moving in my man wants to move out with me asap cos he has 2 move alot of stuff around with new guy coming in & cant be bothered.
He also had to fix last week the girls car im jealous of & he didnt go cos couldnt be bothered.
We had an argument about it the other night and he said when will you get over it & im not interested in her, he dreads seeing her car there when he gets home from work.

2007-11-12 18:44:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

well... there's this guy Kyle, that i REALLY like... i mean i dont think i love him... but i could see that happening if we ever went out. and hes a really sweet guy. and i think i know a lot about him... cause we're in an outpatient program together... and we basically spill our hearts out in those groups... and we see each other everyday monday-friday. and we hung out last friday. and flirted the whole time... and my friends think he might like me back... but i'm really shy.. so i dont know how to tell him... exspecially because he still has feelings for one of his exes... but then again... so do i?

2007-11-12 18:44:26 · 3 answers · asked by Lolli 1

2007-11-12 18:43:55 · 7 answers · asked by darcyaf1 3

My boyfriend has been down lately and i am the problem, I know. We love each other and i feel like i should comfort him, not be angry at him. But how? How does he want me to act with him? Leave him alone, tell him it will be okay.......?

2007-11-12 18:41:22 · 9 answers · asked by OverTheRainbow 4

I just met a great, pretty and handsome boy on interracialfriends.com. He is so kind and love me .. But my parents reject this because he is black and i am white girl. What should i do? I am 20 years old, he is 25. Thank you for any answers.

2007-11-12 18:37:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Met a guy my friends knew while out with them. He flirted, said he wanted to hang out, he got my number, and I went to shake his hand instead of shake it he kissed it while looking right into my eyes. I went back to my group and ran into him later and asked if I could walk out with him and he escorted me out on his arm. I got a text from him 3 days later; more flirting. I called a couple days later and he didn't text me again for 3 days. He asked me to go to a movie. We went and he was really sweet. Hand on the knee and kissing the top of my head through the movie. Went for a drink afterward where he pulled the bar stool closer to him saying that I was too far away. He continued to give me little pecks on the lips and cheek. We wound up making out at his place and I put down my boundaries of how far he could go; he respected them with no fuss. He wound up masturbating in front of me and afterward was still affectionate. I left and haven't heard from him since. What's the deal?

2007-11-12 18:31:57 · 14 answers · asked by NDimes 2

does sex on a first date mess up any chance for a relationship. if your both in the mood and you wind up sleeping together, would you move on b/c you got what you wanted or does it depend on how interested you are in the girl?

2007-11-12 18:29:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

cause i learned this song on piano that a girl likes (1000 miles, Vanessa Carlton), and im wondering if more girls would value pure talent or hard work on it?, i learned it in 2 days basically so im just gonna act like im struggling on it for a week if hard work is valued more

2007-11-12 18:23:05 · 5 answers · asked by clueless 2

wondering cause i really like this girl, but im not sure if i have any chances being of Asian decent, she seems to like me and this is just a way to kinda gauge myself to see if its possible that she really likes me or is just playing with my head

2007-11-12 18:20:30 · 13 answers · asked by clueless 2

I don't know what to tell my boyfriend... I'm 21 and he is a little bit older and we have been seeing eachother for about a month now and things are starting to heat up. I didn't really want to tell him I was raped (once people know everything chances) when I was 16 but I don't want him to think i got herpes from sleeping around either. What should I tell him?

2007-11-12 18:19:25 · 15 answers · asked by barngoddesstiffany 1

Recently was in year relationship. We broke up a year ago but continued to talk daily, hang out, and spend nights over eachothers houses. Also slept together. In the beginning of this she asked to move in w/ me (btw I was the dumpee). I had said no eventhough wanted to say yes b/c was unsure why was being asked, But w/n this year we have gotten along great. I asked for her to move in and she said no did I ever give you that impression. She would say she missed me on various nights I did not stay over. We would hold hands, cuddle, etc. I just got many mixed signals. I don't kow if she was waiting for me to open up but she said once she was not in love w/ me but still loved me so made me hold back bc didn't want to push the good that was going on. \There were more mixed signals w/ texts all day to wanting me to stay over when I tried to stay strong eventhough my heart melted. Now she claims to have someone but don't know if it's a lie or truth, i still get calls.Do I say how i feel or

2007-11-12 18:17:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and i broke up just recently. but we still have communication. he said, he dont want me anymore and so is her mother. But he told me we will still be friends.. actually it also happen just last year. almost the same situation. But we still end up together. i wanna know, if you guys are in the situation, do you think we can still resolve this? by the way, before we dont have a communication. but now we do have a communication. And being friends means what? he's over you? or he still loves you but only needs time? im so confused pls i need your help thanks!

2007-11-12 18:15:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am only 10, but I have already started secondry school (in west sussex, secondry school starts at year 6) and I really want to ask someone out, but I have no idea how to, please help me?

2007-11-12 18:15:19 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well i have an ex that i love very much and i really do care about him, but he makes it seem like i don't care about him. He cuts himself and everrything. When he gets mad at me i ask why, all he say is cuz there's stupid and he never finishes.... I dont know what to do.. i reall dont want him to die thats my one and only love and i'd go crazy if i lost him weither we are together or not.

2007-11-12 18:09:39 · 12 answers · asked by Chewy 1

Why is it that most women don't approach guys and they wait for guys to approach them instead? (to meet them)

2007-11-12 18:08:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

please dont say get off and pull her and ****, genarly wat do u do, like wen ur m8s come round u play xbox wat do u with a girl?

thx

2007-11-12 18:07:46 · 3 answers · asked by Deception 3

My girlfriend has been spending alot of time with me lately. We have been spending night after night together, and we even had our children, mine and hers, have a slumber party together, and they all loved it.

Last night she was supposed to call and we were supposed to spend the night together. Needless to say that we did, but she came over around midnight, after not answering my calls, or responding to my text messages. Finally she texted me saying she was on her way out. We spent the night together up until 3:00pm this afternoon. Around 3:30pm, she had to go take care of her financial situation before the office closed, and she was supposed to call me back and we'd get together again.

Well, it's now 2:00am and I haven't heard from her. She hasn't responded to my calls (3) or text messages (2).

HOW SHOULD I HANDLE THIS SITUATION?

2007-11-12 18:05:48 · 14 answers · asked by shelbeth 1