My girlfriend has been spending alot of time with me lately. We have been spending night after night together, and we even had our children, mine and hers, have a slumber party together, and they all loved it.
Last night she was supposed to call and we were supposed to spend the night together. Needless to say that we did, but she came over around midnight, after not answering my calls, or responding to my text messages. Finally she texted me saying she was on her way out. We spent the night together up until 3:00pm this afternoon. Around 3:30pm, she had to go take care of her financial situation before the office closed, and she was supposed to call me back and we'd get together again.
Well, it's now 2:00am and I haven't heard from her. She hasn't responded to my calls (3) or text messages (2).
HOW SHOULD I HANDLE THIS SITUATION?
2007-11-12 18:05:48 · 14 answers · asked by shelbeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She says that TRUST is a very important quality to her. We get along great, and she tells me she loves me, and always misses me.
BUT, if TRUST is an important value to her, then why is she blowing MY TRUST right out of the water?
2007-11-12 18:11:08 · update #1
Alright....here's the update.....She was at the hospital because her mother had a severe astma attack....I feel like a complete dip **** now....:-(
2007-11-12 18:26:09 · update #2
Wait
uh-huh
She wasn't blowing your trust out of the water ... she was busy. You just DIDN'T display any trust.
Now next time, when you ask for advice, have a good think about the advice you get.
At least it was only 3 calls and 2 texts. Years ago when my ex-gf found out I was going to the snow with another girl she flew into a jealous fit and left me 40 calls and countless texts. (Yet another reason she was the ex-)
So now ...
When she's able to talk, you apologize to her. You recognize that she has got lots of other important stuff to do and that you were getting frantic over nothing ... and that now you feel like a dip sh!t ... and that you have learned your lesson and you trust her.
She's earned your trust, hasn't she?
Now earn hers.
:-)
2007-11-12 18:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea. Just gonna throw it out there, send it right back if ya don't like it. GIVE HER SOME SPACE ONCE IN AWHILE. For christ's sake man she's trying to get her financial situation in place. She's busy but obviously cares enough about you to use all her free time and then some to be with you. Be thankful and let her do her thing once in awhile.
2007-11-13 02:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her with it. Sit her down (don't do it over the phone) and explain to her everything that you've just said.
Tell her if she is dating others, that's fine but you need to know so that you know where your relationship with her stands, and that it's not fair to you otherwise. You have the right to know. There are kids at stake here too, so honesty and communication is NUMBER ONE.
It's not worth it and you need to drop her like a rock if she is dishonest and sneaking around. Give her a chance, sit down and talk to her in a NON confrontational way, just in an information-finding type of way.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 02:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going coo coo! Just chill, and get out of the house. You still have a life with or without her I hope. So just relax, she'll call eventually. Try not keep your mind busy, so you don't look like the clingy one ok.
2007-11-13 02:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm damn..you just said you spent all day together. why are you calling/texting her so much.
I mean yeah she said she'd see you later..but youre probably not the only thing going on in her life. Maybe she just likes her space...
dont jump to any conclusions...just chill for a while...and wait for her to call you..
2007-11-13 02:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info.... Maybe give her some space! You do see her all the time so whats the problem? She has her own life too, you know. Chill out
2007-11-13 02:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wait... She is probably truly busy. she may be testing
But, try not to dwell on that! You may need her to trust you at some point... just be patient, since it's A virtue
2007-11-13 02:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by shastacat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Don't jump to conclusions. She must be busy. Talk to her later and do not challenge her but tell her to share her worries with you.
Things should work out fine!
Good luck!
2007-11-13 02:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
patience is a virtue... shes just being responsible and setting her priorities straight... don't jumpt into conlcusions.. its better to ask than be quiet... oh... by the way... no secret is kept forever...
2007-11-13 02:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by condo_m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hire a private detective shes cheating i know it
2007-11-13 02:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by ricksrick 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋