Met a guy my friends knew while out with them. He flirted, said he wanted to hang out, he got my number, and I went to shake his hand instead of shake it he kissed it while looking right into my eyes. I went back to my group and ran into him later and asked if I could walk out with him and he escorted me out on his arm. I got a text from him 3 days later; more flirting. I called a couple days later and he didn't text me again for 3 days. He asked me to go to a movie. We went and he was really sweet. Hand on the knee and kissing the top of my head through the movie. Went for a drink afterward where he pulled the bar stool closer to him saying that I was too far away. He continued to give me little pecks on the lips and cheek. We wound up making out at his place and I put down my boundaries of how far he could go; he respected them with no fuss. He wound up masturbating in front of me and afterward was still affectionate. I left and haven't heard from him since. What's the deal?
2007-11-12 18:31:57 · 14 answers · asked by NDimes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The masturbation really didn't bother me. I'm pretty open about sex, but I don't put out more than kissing on a first date.
2007-11-12 18:37:34 · update #1
I'm totally not waiting around for this guy. He has my number and knows how to find me if he really wants to; I'm just curious as to what other people think.
2007-11-12 18:39:01 · update #2
hmm..sounds like a player to me.
2007-11-12 18:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by SUNNY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he might be using you. I would call him up or just go over and have a one on one talk. Ask him what was up with the other night, tell him how you feel be honest. If you were uncomfortable then say so just be honest. If he ignores you or blows you off take that as a sign and move on.
But if you date more then I wouldn't do any more physical stuff with him until at least you have a few dates without that, if he really likes you he will understand. The only reason he would be mad is if he is using you don't fall for it, you can do better then that. But I might be wrong you never know so just call or talk to him about it.
2007-11-13 02:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by his.lover2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was expecting way way more than he got. When you didnt provide it, he had the gall to whip it out and act like a primate instead of being a gentleman, talking to you for a bit more, then excusing himself to go home and do it there. Sounds like you're much better off without this one.
2007-11-13 02:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by boots6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was embarassed he wouldn't have done it in front of you. The fact that he didn't get sex could play a part in why he hasn't called or texed. Have you tried to contact him? If you do and he doesn't respond then most likely he's no longer interested.
2007-11-13 02:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol hez dumbassssss take it masturbates on first date LMAO that means hez a player and has no control watsoever. Just needs a good lay. Forget him and move on hez a jerk. Yucksss.
2007-11-13 06:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by kittana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh he got the smooth moves!
He's a playa gurl!
You got yourself 2 choices to save your sanity!
Get out now while you still can!
Or
Next time he gets out the ol' trouser snake ... go down there (look him in the eyes) nice and slow and slinky-like as if you're gonna blow his mind ...
then BITE the snake before it bites you!
2007-11-13 02:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's hardly a player...more like an oddball. I would be very careful about dating him again...who knows what his encore wold be. One thing for sure...he has no character and certainly not a gentleman.
2007-11-13 02:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is only my opinion:
All of the stuff you did was fine - however letting him masturbate in front of you was kind of disrespectful to you. It was like he conquered you without actually having sex. Sounds like a player with that hand kissing etc...
I dunno... wait and see ...but I wouldnt hold my breath.
2007-11-13 02:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Olivereindeer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's one of those guys who always get what he wants, always. And by you saying no to him really hurt his ego and boosted yours. He thought you were one of those cheap ones. Let him go, maybe he's trying to bed someone else now.
2007-11-13 02:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um....interesting first date, what's up with the masterbation? Maybe it's just me...but I wouldn't do that....first date or for that matter any date.
2007-11-13 02:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all: the guy is a FREAK! wats up with the masturbation and the kissing of the hand and shiznik. please. c'mon. of course hes a player. u were jus a one night thing. he doesnt care about u, i mean he masturbated in front of u. wat kind of respect is that?
2007-11-13 02:39:51 · answer #11 · answered by My 1st Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋