I don't know what to tell my boyfriend... I'm 21 and he is a little bit older and we have been seeing eachother for about a month now and things are starting to heat up. I didn't really want to tell him I was raped (once people know everything chances) when I was 16 but I don't want him to think i got herpes from sleeping around either. What should I tell him?
2007-11-12 18:19:25 · 15 answers · asked by barngoddesstiffany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him.
A relationship based on lies is not worth it.
If he really is the one, then he will understand and support you fully, and won't dump you.
If he does, he's missing out on a great thing, and he wasn't worth the trouble.
2007-11-12 18:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
1
2016-08-10 01:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person really cares for you, he will be compassionate about you being raped. He will also consider that fact the you need gentleness if the relationship leads to sex.
You owe it to him to be open about the herpes so that he can make the choice of sleeping with you. There is Valtrex for you and condoms. So depending on how serious you two become will depend on him willing to take the risk. If you do decide to tell him have information on hand to show him and then be prepared for him to back off. Unfortunately, the hard times are the real key to how much someone cares for you. Practice what you'll say in advance to him and think about all the possible reactions he may have. And have some support available if he breaks your heart and decides he doesn't want to see you anymore. And don't give up. There are a lot of wonderful couples who have the same delima and chose to still stay in the relationship ok.
2007-11-12 18:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Christy W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your relationship is reaching the crunch point time of being honest anyway - so tell him - its a good test - if he scarpers he wasn't worth it in the first place
I'm sorry something so bad happened to you of no fault of your own - and he should understand that if he has an ounce of sensitivity....it will be a good guage of how serious he is about the relationship - you want to feel secure with him don't you???
And at the end of the day - we are all human - some people catch herpes from a one night stand - but we all make mistakes and still deserve to be happy
2007-11-12 18:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by chandra 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do ought to manage this with the aid of fact if he would not have it, he desires to have a say to no count number if he gets greater exposures to it (from you). the element is, there could be problems that are severe and being truthful approximately it rather is critical. If he cares approximately you it won't injury the relationship. a extensive proportion of folk have lively or inactive herpes. you're actually not on my own. i'm particular you are going to attend to this only high quality...and so will he, if he's a physically powerful guy. playstation : He could have transmitted it to you thru oral intercourse (you may get oral and/or genital herpes in the two region). My wager is that it is not out of your previous contacts, even nonetheless it rather is available which you caught the virus an prolonged time in the past and did not have warning signs in the previous. some human beings have not got warning signs. don't be annoying on your self, ok? it rather isn't the tip of the international.
2016-09-29 03:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. And do it before you go any further. He has a right to know the whole truth. Also give him as much information about what you're doing to be sure you don't have breakouts and that he is fairly safe. Even so, he may still not want to continue the relationship, some people are just like that.
2007-11-12 18:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's way too early for you to tell him and he understand. You shouldn't sleep with him until you let him know whats going on. What you should do is tell him that you've been raped and you truly don't feel comfortable with having sex just yet. Then, if he leaves then thats good he wasn;t on nothing anyway; but if he stays and be there for you then later on you tell him the situation. I hope and pray that everything goes in your favor
2007-11-12 18:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am absolutely terrified and I feel so alone. I just found out last week that I tested positive for hsv1 and 2. I have been with the same man for the past 10 years and within the last year found out that he has cheated on me with numerous women. I am so scared that I can give it to my children by kissing them and them eating with me...I feel like my whole life has changed. And even though the nurses, my doctor, and websites say that a lot of people have it I still feel like I am by myself. My self esteem has dropped and I feel like I have been used up. But now, My life is very happy.
Fast Acting Guaranteed Herpes Treatment?
2016-05-14 15:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Darlene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got raped when I was 12 and i got herpes...and herpes is uncurable but I have a boyfriend and he knows, yet he cared about me so much that he still kissed me...I don't have genital herpes just oral herpes...but I would immediately tell him...I mean how bad would it be if you were havin sex with this guy and he never told u that he had HIV!! U know u would be hella MAD!!!
And if he leaves u F*ck the insensitive loser!! U don't need that.
2007-11-12 18:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Roxana 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The Truth.
He will want to know why he's always going to be using a condom or what's that Zovirax stuff you're taking.
You never know - he might be posting on Yahoo!Answers somewhere and getting the same quality answers you see posted here.
Would you like to be the one giving him information, or would you like some random American to be the one telling him what's what?
Tell the guy the truth.
2007-11-12 18:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
oh i am so sorry. That's just not fair.
Maybe you should talk to a counselor who deals with this sort of thing, maybe you, your boyfriend and the counselor can have a meeting. There has got to be a group out there to help you with this.
Again, I'm sorry about what happened.
2007-11-12 18:24:23 · answer #11 · answered by Calista 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋